Did you marry a poor guy?

[Anonymous]

I am desperately in love with my amazing fiancé. He's everything I want in a guy except that he comes from blue collar roots. He went to college and graduate school and has school loans and makes 90k at 29. He says his salary will increase as he moves up the ladder but I get apprehensive at the prospect of our future.I myself come from humble beginnings and know full well how tough life is without financial resources so i always aimed at marrying a man with means. I don't want to live life paycheck to paycheck and live small.

What are the odds it'll work out and we'lol have a good life?

[Anonymous]

Just marry a paycheck and struggle through marriage and life in other ways.

[Anonymous]

For his sake leave him now. How much do you make?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For his sake leave him now. How much do you make?

65k

[Anonymous]

I think it depends on your fiance. I married a poor go-getter. It is the best of both worlds. Someone who is grounded by his upbringing and ambitious enough to continuously be striving for more. I'm the same.

We won't live a 1%er existence, but probably more like 2-3%ers. I'm fine with that.

A great guy is a great guy.

[Anonymous]

Is someone rich, that you like, pursuing you? I don't get the question.

[Anonymous]

I did. We married when he was 26 and making $37k a year. Had a little CC debt from purchases he made when he was 19-20. Had a foreclosure on his record because he helped his brother buy a home right before the crash. 7 years later all debt is paid off, he makes about $180k a year. I make about the same and my salary goes 100% to saving.

[Anonymous]

Move to another city where his salary stretches nicely. 90k is a decently salary in LCOL cities

[Anonymous]

My brother is now a millionaire but started out no degree blue collar. Met his wife young no degree for her either. He now has degree, his own tech company and 1/2 my family works for him. Living the life. I hope your fiancé leaves you. My SIL married a poor guy and is now enjoying a great life with him. She helped build his company by being supportive and raising their boys (all now going to college prepaid tuition thanks to my brother's planning). You never know.

[Anonymous]

How old are you? You make less than he does.

[Anonymous]

Yes, my husband grew up poor and didn't get his degree till close to 40. Now he isn't rich but makes a comfortable living and does ok.

[Anonymous]

My husband was making that much (recently) at 39 just as we started our family. I had always made more, and we found ourselves in a situation where I unexpectedly ended up quitting and staying home with our child. We've struggled, we've stressed, and we've sacrificed. He remains the most devoted husband, father, and friend I could ever ask for. Don't marry a paycheck. Marry a person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am desperately in love with my amazing fiancé. He's everything I want in a guy except that he comes from blue collar roots. He went to college and graduate school and has school loans and makes 90k at 29. He says his salary will increase as he moves up the ladder but I get apprehensive at the prospect of our future.I myself come from humble beginnings and know full well how tough life is without financial resources so i always aimed at marrying a man with means. I don't want to live life paycheck to paycheck and live small.

What are the odds it'll work out and we'lol have a good life?

Very poor. If he is well endowed in other ways that can make up for money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For his sake leave him now. How much do you make?

65k

Since you only make 65k, you don't have any room to talk. He should be wondering if he'll have a good life with you.

I sincerely hope this is a troll post. If not, this is ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband was making that much (recently) at 39 just as we started our family. I had always made more, and we found ourselves in a situation where I unexpectedly ended up quitting and staying home with our child. We've struggled, we've stressed, and we've sacrificed. He remains the most devoted husband, father, and friend I could ever ask for. Don't marry a paycheck. Marry a person.

+1, I had to quit and my husband was so supportive. He is a great dad and husband. He has never pressured me to go back to work and instead found ways to increase his salary to make it work.