Wanting to meet someone new

[Anonymous]

I'm married, 38 years old, and I miss connecting with someone. DH and I have become more like siblings than husband and wife. I find myself fantasizing about meeting someone in a coffee shop. But not for sex. Just to talk with. Feel a spark, a connection. How do I get over this?

[Anonymous]

same

[Anonymous]

I can relate. I see hot men all the time. My husband is so boring.

[Anonymous]

Join the club. Age 43.

[Anonymous]

If it were not for my son I would have an affair. I think about it a lot. If I could only find away to do it. It is depressing.

[Anonymous]

Your husbands are chumps.

[Anonymous]

I felt this way when I was married. I would think to myself, "50 more years of this?" I would just think about meeting new people or think about flirting and I missed feeling desired and attractive. I saw that as a red flag. I did not and would not cheat so I didn't want it to even get to that point, or even close. So we had "the talk," decided to divorce (no kids, so admittedly it wasn't messy), and we are both much happier. I've been with my current partner almost as long as I was with my XH and I am a million times happier. I don't feel like I am missing any pieces of life anymore.

[Anonymous]

It is a common place for many I think. I have been there. I am thankful that I realized in time that it's a dangerous place to stay. We can make our marriages a better place by becoming the exciting person we want our spouse to be. We can invest our time and thoughts into our spouse and become students of who they are. Our spouse is so much more than the person we think we see. There had to be something there to cause us to want to marry them. As I said before, I was there many years ago and then I decided to put out whatever effort I needed to make my marriage the kind of marriage that other people wanted. It turned everything around. Is it a perfect place? No. But there is nothing about anyone or anything that is perfect. I'm certainly not perfect. Perspective is huge. If I let my mind constantly wander it will end up in the gutter every time. Life is way too short for that. I have been married for 32 years now and things are better than ever.

[Anonymous]

What you need is a good old fashioned crisis to bring you back to reality and closer to your spouse. How about a death in the family? I find that one works pretty well.

GROW the Fig up, Lady.

[Anonymous]

Exact same age, same issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is a common place for many I think. I have been there. I am thankful that I realized in time that it's a dangerous place to stay. We can make our marriages a better place by becoming the exciting person we want our spouse to be. We can invest our time and thoughts into our spouse and become students of who they are. Our spouse is so much more than the person we think we see. There had to be something there to cause us to want to marry them. As I said before, I was there many years ago and then I decided to put out whatever effort I needed to make my marriage the kind of marriage that other people wanted. It turned everything around. Is it a perfect place? No. But there is nothing about anyone or anything that is perfect. I'm certainly not perfect. Perspective is huge. If I let my mind constantly wander it will end up in the gutter every time. Life is way too short for that. I have been married for 32 years now and things are better than ever.

+1.

[Anonymous]

Post this in the explicit forum. Get dozens of PMs. Easy.

[Anonymous]

This is just another reason to not get married in my opinion.

As for those who marriage is a fabulous thing, re-read this thread.

[Anonymous]

Go on business trips. I meet lots of new people in the course of those, and we just talk and then go on our ways. It's enough social time for me (I work from home and DW is an introvert).

[Anonymous]

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