Handling the woman I used to work with comment

[Anonymous]

I met DH at work - no longer at the same company. He met his gf before me at work. His first gf in HS he met at work -- notice a pattern? Lately we have been having four alarm arguments over life and career decisions, some of which he feels that he compromised too much. During our last one, he said 'a woman I used to work with says nobody had a gun to my head and I agree with her'. I was past livid because he allowed someone else to have a picture of our marriage. I have no idea who this woman is but he seems to be using her as a sounding board. How would you handle comments like this?

[Anonymous]

The four alarm arguments are the problem

[Anonymous]

People talk about their marriages. You need an attitude adjustment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The four alarm arguments are the problem

+1

[Anonymous]

I think you need to work on your marriage. You can isolate him from other people all you want, but it's not going to make your marriage happier.

[Anonymous]

This is the same writing style as the current thread "He called me bitch!"

Sounds like a whack job.

[Anonymous]

What was her comment in reference to? Is she siding with him or telling him he's wrong?

I agree people shouldn't blab about their marriage to others, especially at work, but if she's able to explain things from a woman's perspective and can make things better for you, I'd let it slide.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People talk about their marriages. You need an attitude adjustment.

This.

[Anonymous]

He's discussing you and your private relationship issues with another woman, and then throwing her opinions in your face.

I think you know the answer, OP. Pack it in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People talk about their marriages. You need an attitude adjustment.

Talking with a person of the opposite sex about your marital problems is asking for trouble.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People talk about their marriages. You need an attitude adjustment.

I actually think of that as a betrayal. What's between me and my significant other is between us. I'm not a woman who says my DH/DB can't go out with other people or see female friends outside of work, but I expect him not to talk about me, especially in a derogatory manner with other people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People talk about their marriages. You need an attitude adjustment.

I actually think of that as a betrayal. What's between me and my significant other is between us. I'm not a woman who says my DH/DB can't go out with other people or see female friends outside of work, but I expect him not to talk about me, especially in a derogatory manner with other people.

So you never share anything about your marriage or husband with your friends?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People talk about their marriages. You need an attitude adjustment.

I actually think of that as a betrayal. What's between me and my significant other is between us. I'm not a woman who says my DH/DB can't go out with other people or see female friends outside of work, but I expect him not to talk about me, especially in a derogatory manner with other people.

So you never share anything about your marriage or husband with your friends?

Different poster, but I don't. I have also made it clear to him that I don't appreciate him talking to other people about me. He might still do it, but I don't have to hear about it anymore.

[Anonymous]

I think you're focusing on his 'sounding board' at work rather than the problems in your marriage. You're focusing on the wrong thing.

[Anonymous]

^^ Yep.