Families / decision making question.
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Anonymous
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Is there a name for this phenomenon?
Certain family members fall to this pattern a lot. "Let's go out for Italian!" "There's a great Italian place at x, y, or z" "Z! That place is good." "Oh, but X is really close, and Z is so far away." "Oh well, even though Z is far, it's worth it." (Later) "Hey, grandpa says he doesn't want Italian, he wants a burger joint." "Oh ok, let's change it for him. What burger joints are there in Z area?" They go to a burger joint in faraway Z Like, the decision making follows a chain that doesn't lead them back to the original goal. Eating something good and close. I have family members who do this often. Not just restaurants. Vacations, shopping, house buying. They just follow a meandering chain of thoughts and when the plan has to pivot they stay on the same chain instead of going back to the beginning. |
Anonymous
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I have to add. They do this with decisions that include money.
And in this way, they are constantly getting suckered into exactly what the retailer/seller wants them to do. It's like mini upgrade after mini upgrade. "Oh for just $4 extra i can add a meal to the ticket? Oh great, I'll add it. And this guidebook too? Only $2if i donate $10?it looks like the annual pass isn't much extra to what I'm paying already. Let's just buy the Platinum pass." |
Anonymous
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Until this affects you or your wallet, just shake your head and let them do them.
When it does affect you, politely step off the train and decline. "Oh! I was in for the hour's drive for fabulous Italian, but I can get a great burger right here. Y'all have fun! Anyone who wants to join me instead, we're going to X right around the corner." |
Anonymous
My MIL would have a fit if we did that. |
Anonymous
| 13:43 I am not OP. |
Anonymous
| The name is ... bad logic. Or maybe chasing rabbits? |