Staying together for the family

[Anonymous]

Anyone else staying with their spouse to keep the family intact? Not just for the kids, but because you want to jointly parent and have the family memories? Have you regretted that decision?

I am having a hard time because I'm deeply in love with someone who is not my spouse. That person is not in my life. I am trying very, very hard to build my marriage into something where both of us are fulfilled and happy with our relationship outside of being parents. This has has been difficult to do when I am mourning the loss of the life I could have with this person if my split from my spouse wouldn't kill my kids and ruin the good parenting relationship and friendship I have with my spouse. Also, I know that stats of second marriages and blended families and they aren't promising.

[Anonymous]

All I can say is that I wishy own mother had the wisdom and foresight that you have. The family itself is a precious thing.

[Anonymous]

Are you in counseling? You should be. Because you are romanticizing something that isn't reality and your marriage is never going to measure up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you in counseling? You should be. Because you are romanticizing something that isn't reality and your marriage is never going to measure up.

Yes, I am in counseling and have been for years.

[Anonymous]

I think if your marriage is still at the point where you CAN stay in it for the family, you should.

I don't think that many people with children really get divorced just to live their best life. Divorce is a truly gut-wrenching decision, and soul-sucking process. I think the vast majority of people who get divorced are at the point where it has become impossible to suck it up for the sake of the kids, or financial stability or social standing.