It's official: Gen Z are not delaying marriage til 30s anymore, young weddings are cool again

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Anonymous wrote:In our network this week: Two 24 year olds just married, engaged last summer at age 23. One a UChicago alum, the other is in a Duke PhD program.

And in 15 years, you can post about their divorce.

College grads have the lowest rates of divorce.

So? That statistic didn’t stop all the college friends I had who got divorced after their post-college weddings.

You are in an unfortunate or a loser group.

DP. Without even having to think very hard, I can think of many couples I know who got married right after college who eventually divorced. Top schools, all attractive, seemingly good catches. High earners, some with trust funds, some who were college athletes.

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Anonymous wrote:In our network this week: Two 24 year olds just married, engaged last summer at age 23. One a UChicago alum, the other is in a Duke PhD program.

And in 15 years, you can post about their divorce.

College grads have the lowest rates of divorce.

So? That statistic didn’t stop all the college friends I had who got divorced after their post-college weddings.

Only 43% of first marriages end, 100% divorces in your group is an anomaly but it supports one theory, divorce is a social contagion.

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"Couples who have friends who divorce have a 75% increase in the risk of their marriage ending." ~Pew Research

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Anonymous wrote:"Couples who have friends who divorce have a 75% increase in the risk of their marriage ending." ~Pew Research

Trad wives don’t know other trad wives who divorced. Because they can’t afford to be single.

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Anonymous wrote:https://www.thecut.com/article/aspyn-ovard-parker-ferris-divorce-drama-timeline.html

The only difference is they’ll divorce younger too.

Cope.

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Anonymous wrote:I'll wait for some actual data.

Here you go: https://www.statista.com/statistics/371933/median-age-of-us-americans-at-their-first-wedding/#:~:text=In%202022%2C%20the%20median%20age,men%20and%20women%20since%201998.

So yeah, clearly OP mistakenly considers a handful of instagram examples to be a nationally representative trend, or is a troll.

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I think this is a reflection of them growing up with permissive Gen X parents, they are looking for structure and think they have found it in the behavior patterns of their grandparents not realizing they are viewing things through a very sanitized lens.

It's a rebellion.

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Anonymous wrote:In our network this week: Two 24 year olds just married, engaged last summer at age 23. One a UChicago alum, the other is in a Duke PhD program.

And in 15 years, you can post about their divorce.

College grads have the lowest rates of divorce.

So? That statistic didn’t stop all the college friends I had who got divorced after their post-college weddings.

You are in an unfortunate or a loser group.

DP. Without even having to think very hard, I can think of many couples I know who got married right after college who eventually divorced. Top schools, all attractive, seemingly good catches. High earners, some with trust funds, some who were college athletes.

Many marriages don’t last in every SES category. Poorer uneducated people may never even get married at all but have kids out of wedlock.

[Anonymous]

Married 36 years.

We married in our 20s but had kids in our late 30s/early 40s.

That worked out perfectly for us. We were in charge by that point at our jobs and had lot of control over our schedules. We had traveled, had fun, spent and then saved a lot.


My friends who had kids a couple years after marriage all got divorced eventually.
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Anonymous wrote:Married 36 years.

We married in our 20s but had kids in our late 30s/early 40s.

That worked out perfectly for us. We were in charge by that point at our jobs and had lot of control over our schedules. We had traveled, had fun, spent and then saved a lot.


My friends who had kids a couple years after marriage all got divorced eventually.
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Well if we’re talking “eventually” it’s not too late for you…

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Anonymous wrote:Married 36 years.

We married in our 20s but had kids in our late 30s/early 40s.

That worked out perfectly for us. We were in charge by that point at our jobs and had lot of control over our schedules. We had traveled, had fun, spent and then saved a lot.


My friends who had kids a couple years after marriage all got divorced eventually.
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Well if we’re talking “eventually” it’s not too late for you…

Ha, true.

My own parents divorced after almost 50 years of marriage.

One never knows. But what I am sure of is that for us, the foundation we built made it a lot easier to become parents. We weren't scrambling for resources younger couples often lack, and we had had our fun and were ready to settle down.

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Anonymous wrote:I'll wait for some actual data.

Here you go: https://www.statista.com/statistics/371933/median-age-of-us-americans-at-their-first-wedding/#:~:text=In%202022%2C%20the%20median%20age,men%20and%20women%20since%201998.

So yeah, clearly OP mistakenly considers a handful of instagram examples to be a nationally representative trend, or is a troll.

We don’t have current enough data to determine whether OP is spotting a real trend or not. Your data includes couples from the late 90s, she is talking 2024.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh lord - here we go. Keep this up and we will have yet another trend for unhinged parents to boast, fret and gossip about. "Yes, I know Suzy went to YALE and finishing up her residency at Hopkins, BUT, she's nearly 30 with no prospects and will likely end up a SPINSTER! So glad my Katie is going to be sending out the save the date before her 23rd birthday....obviously SHE has what it takes to land a MAN"...yeesh

That’s already very much a thing. You don’t think people know if not gossip that your son or daughter is a leftover when they’re 30+ and unmarried?

No. Who does this? What ghastly people.

It's human nature. If you move in ambitious striver circles and you haven't heard anyone gossiping about adult kids, it's because you're childless or maybe you have a leftover kid. Parents absolutely gossip about so and so's kids and who's single and who's not — and why they're single.

Being a striver is not a good thing, are you truly touting it as such? This all sounds so dreadfully suburban. I live in the city, don’t know my neighbors, and none of my friends would ever say bizarre things like this.

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If you aren't connected with a community, its different but parents who are part of their extended family, church, friends circle, sports buddies, neighborhood etc, are bound to talk about a topic common to all, their worry about kids not ending up alone.

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Married Millie Bobby Brown, 20, discusses intentions to have a baby within a year.

https://people.com/millie-bobby-brown-and-jake-bongiovi-talked-about-their-future-family-11679274