How to talk to kids.

[Anonymous]

My mother is gay (she came out to me a few years ago). She has not had a girlfriend since then but has now started dating someone. The whole family is supposed to meet her soon and I'm wondering the best way to go about this. I have a 3 year old and a 5 year old. I have never brought it up with them before since I never saw the need to.

[Anonymous]

Depending on how involved of a relationship it is, I think you could just get away with calling her "Grandma's friend". But I think if you ask your mom how she wants her GF to be refered to, that would give you a good idea. My grandmother was straight and dated an older man for years and we all called him grandma's friend or even grandma companion. If the relationship becomes more involved, then a broader explaination and title might be needed.

[Anonymous]

I don't think you really need to say anything special to them. When my MIL started bringing around her companion, we just introduced him by his first name. When my kids asked who he was, we just said Grammy's friend. If Grammy had been dating a woman, I would have said the same thing.