How Do You Tolerate Your Husband's Annoying Friends?

[Anonymous]

So my DH have some friends that I really dislike. They drink, always get drunk, make bad choices and think everything is a game. While I am aware DH is responsible for his own actions I can't help but cring when DH tells me he has plans with these people. So much so that I don't even want them in my house anymore. Problems always arise when they are around. How do you deal?

[Anonymous]

I feel your pain. I have made it clear if he wants to have dinner, hang out with them -go for it. BUT, it has to be out not at home!

We made the mistake a few years back, allowing one of his friends to stay with us while he was on a business trip here. Every night, we were suppose to play which bar should we go to tonight and other little things that drove me insane? This went on for two weeks!! Hello, do you not have to work tomorrow?? It was craziness. That is when I put my foot down.

Now,he knows to not even think about asking if this person can stay with us or any of his friends for that matter. They are all just like this person. The rule is: only family is allowed to stay for extended periods of time(and that can drive you crazy as well).

About once a month he will go out with his friends and I will mine. We have worked it that way. It works for us. Good Luck

[Anonymous]

it's like they have no respect for family, and they all aren't even single!

[Anonymous]

Mine doesn't have any annoying friends. They are all like him, low-key, family-oriented, wine-drinking, non-sport oriented men. I love having them around.

[Anonymous]

Yay, a problem I don't have! Sorry to celebrate your misery, but it seems lately that I can identify with every post here: MIL drama, money worries, willful whiny kids, forever and ever without end. But on this thread I can hold my head up high! My husband doesn't have any annoying friends! Hooray for me!

[Anonymous]

My husband totally has annoying friends, however, he is not a planner. So if I don't make social plans with them, we don't see his annoying friends. I can count on one hand the number of times in 10+ years that I have seen friends of his that annoy me. Whenever he says, "we should go out with x and y!" I say, "Mmmmmmmmmm. What a good idea. Do you think that lampshade is crooked..." Once I change the subject it doesn't come up for another 2 years. Works like a charm.