Are you friends with your ex?

[Anonymous]

My first marriage ended terribly.
Fighting, bickering, jail.
Really bad. I mean really bad.

So, I find out yesterday she's divorced again & available.
I found her on Facebook.
Should I try to talk to her after 30 years?
All I want to tell her is I'm sorry for the way stuff turned out.
I really don't want to be in another relation ship with her again.

We are both type A's. Each one has to be right all the time.
She knows what buttons to push to set me off.
I don't want that again, believe me.

I just want to say I'm sorry.
How should I proceed?

[Anonymous]

Nope. If you make contact with her, you will regret it. Stay away.

[Anonymous]

Yes

[Anonymous]

Nope. No reason to stay friends. Let it go OP. It's been 30 years for Christ sake, move on already. She doesn't need your apologies 3 decades later. You sound like an obsessive borderline narcissist.

[Anonymous]

Yes, but it hasn't been 30 years for us - we still have middle-school aged kids together.

[Anonymous]

Yes, but our kids are older teenagers and we weren't dicks to each other at the end of the marriage. Justs realized neither of us was happy.

[Anonymous]

Jail?? Were you abusive to her? If so, please don't contact her again.

[Anonymous]

Hell no.

[Anonymous]

I'm great friends with my ex. He's my go-to guy when I have a question about motorcycle repair, when we take the kids out to his house for the summer he and I take his bike out for rides, I just walk in his house without knocking because I feel that comfortable, he does the same when he comes to visit (he also stays with us when he comes here), and he's one of the few people who have my phone number. We divorced because we realized that we worked better as friends than we did married, and we were right. I've been married for seven years to a man who is perfect for me, and he gets along great with my ex.

[Anonymous]

Who went to jail? Don't contact her again. Let her be.

[Anonymous]

I find the idea of re-connecting to your former soul mate romantic!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm great friends with my ex. He's my go-to guy when I have a question about motorcycle repair, when we take the kids out to his house for the summer he and I take his bike out for rides, I just walk in his house without knocking because I feel that comfortable, he does the same when he comes to visit (he also stays with us when he comes here), and he's one of the few people who have my phone number. We divorced because we realized that we worked better as friends than we did married, and we were right. I've been married for seven years to a man who is perfect for me, and he gets along great with my ex.

Is your ex remarried?

[Anonymous]

Only if we can watch. It's all about entertainment value.

[Anonymous]

You're type A and you want to say sorry ? Errh you're not an A

[Anonymous]

OP here. I decided to let it go. It's been this long, no use stirring up bad feelings all over again.
Oh well, life goes on.