Do you ever feel like this?

[Anonymous]

I'm having one of those weeks where I learn that 3 more friends are pregnant, and one had a baby this week. After awhile you really start to feel like you are the only one that has been trying the longest, and without any success. Its crazy to think that I have been trying since many people I know were pregnant with their #1 and are on to pregnancy or child #2!! I'm early 30s with no issues (me or husband). I've tried IUI with clomid and injectibles (2 x), they didn't work. Will probably (regrettably) have to move onto IVF. Even though I am young, I worry that it still won't happen ever! It's so frustrating.

Just had to vent...

[Anonymous]

I feel the exact same way. I had a complete breakdown a couple months ago when I read about a DC power couple who met on the Obama campaign and now have baby, which means that they met, dated, got married and had a baby all in the time that I have been TTC. I did 3 IUI's with Clomid and am on my second IVF, which is not going well (only 6 mature eggs and only 3 of those fertilized even though I was on the max dose of drugs). I just turned 33 and have been TTC for two years. I had been dx with unexplained IF, but now my RE thinks there are problems with my egg quality. Right now there are two pregnant women in my office - both of whom got married after me. I am happy for them, but listening to them complain about the cost of childcare when I have now spent $30K in an unsuccessful effort to get pregnant (just so I can spend thousands on child care) is slowly killing me.

OK, that was my vent, as for advice... have you tried joining a Resolve support group? Or another group? My accupucturist runs a women-only support/meditation group that is great.

[Anonymous]

This is so difficult sometimes, - forget being happy for others, I had a hard time remaining neutral! It took us 3 years but we were successful with IVF - after exhusting other options. It is difficult to be around other women and most don't think to have sensitivity. Wishing you both lots of luck.

[Anonymous]

I know what this is like. Just try to hang in there, you will get there eventually. You will. And let me tell you, when you do get there you will appreciate it so much more than the fertiles do.

[Anonymous]

Thanks for your posts...I'm in the same boat as the OP and poster 13:33 (I may have issues with egg quality as well). It's nice to be able to hear other people vent about the same frustrations I have. In a weird way I take comfort in that...its about the only kind of comfort I have been feeling in the past year. Knowing that even though I feel it, I am really not alone. Thanks to everyone for sharing your stories, I hope we all get off this IF island soon!

[Anonymous]

Same boat here - I literally know 13 people pregnant right now, many of them good friends. It feels like they are all going through something together and I am left out, not to mention the fact that I desperately want a child. When I see women at the supermarket or wherever with a couple young toddlers in tow, I get so incredibly envious, followed with feeling weepy.

Feels a bit better knowing there are others out there.

[Anonymous]

almost every day last week I was told so-and-so is ALSO pregnant...it was getting a little old...I'm glad there are others out there also. I don't feel like anyone I'm close friends with is going thru (or has gone thru) years of infertility like myself.

[Anonymous]

Is there really a baby boom going on right now or is it just that we're at the right age?

[Anonymous]

I'm finding so many are on #2 or #3 and are younger than me, and i'm "only" 32!!

[Anonymous]

We were TTC for 18 months and it was really hard watching friends get pregnant no problem. My best friend got pregnant after 2 months when we had been trying for almost 18 months. I cried when she told me and barely got through the next day at work because I was so weepy about it. It's just tough. As one PP said, when you do get pregnant, you'll be really grateful and it will help you get through some of the more unappealing aspects of pregnancy.

[Anonymous]

we have been trying for a year and a half with unsuccessful fertility treatments (iui and ivf). my friends are either on baby #1, or baby #2, and just found out yesterday that another one of my friends is pregnant - she just got married a little over a year ago...i literally had a complete meltdown.
i feel so freaking bitter sometimes! i try to happy for her and everyone else, but i just hate this emotional rollercoaster....and am ready to get off of it. i don't know if i can do it anymore with the physical and emotional stress, and the costs. unfortunately our only option is IVF at this point, we can't even try during "breaks", b/c it's impossible for us to conceive w/o help.
thanks for the vent session....