3 year old DS bites and pinches family members

[Anonymous]

My 3 year old DS bites, pinches and even head butts us only (mom dad and big brother)almost everyday. He bangs his head into things when upset (frustrated) also. He doesn't do this at school or aftercare/summer camp. This was his first year in a special ed classroom, I believe he picked up this behavior from school. He takes his fist and punches himself in the head. I saw other children in his classroom doing this also. He never did this before but it's going on a year of this behavior. And I want it to stop. I don't know what to do. My child is so nice to other but attack us daily

[Anonymous]

Why is your child in a special ed classroom?

What do you do when he behaves this way?

[Anonymous]

If your child is just three and has special needs it is likely that this is just his behavior. Not learned behaviors. How is his speech? My child with speech issues started hitting at the and still occasionally does at 5. It's not because other kids hits kids with special needs often have behavioral delays. Sometimes they look like not interacting or parallel playing for far too long. Other times they look like aggression. Regardless of the origin it's now your child's behavior problem so you have to deal with it and that's not going to be done by tracking down the source. Start behavioral therapy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your child is just three and has special needs it is likely that this is just his behavior. Not learned behaviors. How is his speech? My child with speech issues started hitting at the and still occasionally does at 5. It's not because other kids hits kids with special needs often have behavioral delays. Sometimes they look like not interacting or parallel playing for far too long. Other times they look like aggression. Regardless of the origin it's now your child's behavior problem so you have to deal with it and that's not going to be done by tracking down the source. Start behavioral therapy.

That has nothing to do with language delays especially at age 5.

[Anonymous]

OP,

It doesn't matter where he "picked up the behavior.

Read the Kazdin Method. Praise him for showing positive behaviors. Ignore the negative. Keep a watchful eye when the sibling is there so he doesn't get hurt.

Consult an ABA therapist if you need help. They can come to your home and help you work out a plan.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If your child is just three and has special needs it is likely that this is just his behavior. Not learned behaviors. How is his speech? My child with speech issues started hitting at the and still occasionally does at 5. It's not because other kids hits kids with special needs often have behavioral delays. Sometimes they look like not interacting or parallel playing for far too long. Other times they look like aggression. Regardless of the origin it's now your child's behavior problem so you have to deal with it and that's not going to be done by tracking down the source. Start behavioral therapy.

That has nothing to do with language delays especially at age 5.

That's nonsense kids are well known for having issues with speech delays.

For the love of god is this merld lady?

[Anonymous]

My son has Down syndrome. Early stages placed my son in an early learning support class which is a special ed classroom. I didn't get to pick my son pre k placement because it was a public school. Next year he will be in an inclusionary school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is this on the Kids with SN forum? This sounds like a discipline problem, not a SN problem.

A 3 year old in a special ed preschool class with behavioral issues is a SN problem. Obviously.

OP, have you been able to track what kinds of situations precede the head banging?

. Most of the time it's when I'm not sticking to his schedule. If I make a stop after I pick him up from school instead of going directly home. When we get home from school I have to start on making his lunch while he watch me or let him watch TV. If I do anything else when I walk in the house like let the dog out before going in the kitchen he will get upset and bang his head. When things doesn't go his way. But the pinching and biting is random and done often.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If your child is just three and has special needs it is likely that this is just his behavior. Not learned behaviors. How is his speech? My child with speech issues started hitting at the and still occasionally does at 5. It's not because other kids hits kids with special needs often have behavioral delays. Sometimes they look like not interacting or parallel playing for far too long. Other times they look like aggression. Regardless of the origin it's now your child's behavior problem so you have to deal with it and that's not going to be done by tracking down the source. Start behavioral therapy.

That has nothing to do with language delays especially at age 5.

That's nonsense kids are well known for having issues with speech delays.

For the love of god is this merld lady?

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When my son was in an inclusionary daycare he would use words 8 sign 5. And would sing songs and do hand motions for 5 little monkey and little tea pot. Now the only word he uses is Eat. And he's not interested in learning anything new. Since the new placement last August he has regressed a lot. When he was in daycare he learned a lot. Good and bad he picks up things so it is possible he learned this behavior from school because he didn't do it before

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP,

It doesn't matter where he "picked up the behavior.

Read the Kazdin Method. Praise him for showing positive behaviors. Ignore the negative. Keep a watchful eye when the sibling is there so he doesn't get hurt.

Consult an ABA therapist if you need help. They can come to your home and help you work out a plan.

I'm talking to his doctor about ABA therapist now. I try to ignore it, then he try to hurt himself by banging his head then I have to step in. Lately we'll just hold his hand and try to stop him from attacking us then he will stop for a moment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is your child in a special ed classroom?

What do you do when he behaves this way?

We will ignore him but when it get out of hand we hold his hands until he stops. And then sit him alone on the couch and tell him things like soft touches and that we do not bite or pinch others it's hurts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If your child is just three and has special needs it is likely that this is just his behavior. Not learned behaviors. How is his speech? My child with speech issues started hitting at the and still occasionally does at 5. It's not because other kids hits kids with special needs often have behavioral delays. Sometimes they look like not interacting or parallel playing for far too long. Other times they look like aggression. Regardless of the origin it's now your child's behavior problem so you have to deal with it and that's not going to be done by tracking down the source. Start behavioral therapy.

That has nothing to do with language delays especially at age 5.

That's nonsense kids are well known for having issues with speech delays.

For the love of god is this merld lady?

.



When my son was in an inclusionary daycare he would use words 8 sign 5. And would sing songs and do hand motions for 5 little monkey and little tea pot. Now the only word he uses is Eat. And he's not interested in learning anything new. Since the new placement last August he has regressed a lot. When he was in daycare he learned a lot. Good and bad he picks up things so it is possible he learned this behavior from school because he didn't do it before

If he is regressing in this placement, it is the wrong placement and why would you leave him there? He needs a better program.

[Anonymous]

He's in a special ed classroom for children with behavior problems. All the children can talk but have behavior problems. He's the only child with Down syndrome and the only 3 year old. The other children's are 4 to 6. It's the wrong placement for him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is this on the Kids with SN forum? This sounds like a discipline problem, not a SN problem.

A 3 year old in a special ed preschool class with behavioral issues is a SN problem. Obviously.

OP, have you been able to track what kinds of situations precede the head banging?

. Most of the time it's when I'm not sticking to his schedule. If I make a stop after I pick him up from school instead of going directly home. When we get home from school I have to start on making his lunch while he watch me or let him watch TV. If I do anything else when I walk in the house like let the dog out before going in the kitchen he will get upset and bang his head. When things doesn't go his way. But the pinching and biting is random and done often.

Make his lunch the night before. He sounds tired and hungry. I would let him eat first thing and maybe letting him take a short nap. Make sure he's getting plenty of water b/c it's easy to become dehydrated.

Skip the tv. Even though it seems very passive, it's actually very stimulating to the brain. He needs some time to decompress. If he doesn't want to nap maybe just sit with him and read some books.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If your child is just three and has special needs it is likely that this is just his behavior. Not learned behaviors. How is his speech? My child with speech issues started hitting at the and still occasionally does at 5. It's not because other kids hits kids with special needs often have behavioral delays. Sometimes they look like not interacting or parallel playing for far too long. Other times they look like aggression. Regardless of the origin it's now your child's behavior problem so you have to deal with it and that's not going to be done by tracking down the source. Start behavioral therapy.

That has nothing to do with language delays especially at age 5.

Let me gues syorbkid didn't interact for years and that didn't bug anyone so it wasn't a "behavior". But it was.