Do I not talk to my children enough? Do they not know me well enough?

[Anonymous]

Yesterday my oldest found out that her little sister is biologically her cousin (our niece) who we adopted. We have always been open about this; I'm not sure how she didn't realize. Today we got a new fan and I was screwing it into the base with a screwdriver and DD said, "Wow Mama! I didn't know you know how to use tools."

Is she new or something? Or do I not talk to her enough about me?

[Anonymous]

How old is your DD? Kids are often in their own little world until something actually applies to them personally and then it clicks.

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Anonymous wrote:How old is your DD? Kids are often in their own little world until something actually applies to them personally and then it clicks.

The older one is 5.5.

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Anonymous wrote:How old is your DD? Kids are often in their own little world until something actually applies to them personally and then it clicks.

The older one is 5.5.

Yeah, they're pretty self centered at that age. Just wait until they start filling out those questionnaires about you for Mother's Day. At that age, mine said my favorite color was red (because I drove a red car, my favorite color is purple just like hers and we talked about how cool it was that we had the same favorite color frequently) and that I love orange juice (I hate OJ, and she said I always check the fridge to see if I have any before I go to the store. I check to see if we have any so I can buy it for her!). All of my kids constantly seem surprised that I know how to use tools even though I'm always the one who fixes things around the house.

[Anonymous]

Ha ha!

That's all right, OP. They tend to be like this at that age. Don't worry.

[Anonymous]

I was probably 8 when I realized my much older sister was really a half sister. I did some math and confronted my mom about having been a teenage mother (she's younger than my dad). I don't think it ever occurred to me that my sister called her by her first name, was in all the wedding photos, and lived with someone else (her actual mom) every other weekend. Kids are just self centered.

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Anonymous wrote:I was probably 8 when I realized my much older sister was really a half sister. I did some math and confronted my mom about having been a teenage mother (she's younger than my dad). I don't think it ever occurred to me that my sister called her by her first name, was in all the wedding photos, and lived with someone else (her actual mom) every other weekend. Kids are just self centered.

Lol, this is too funny! Kids are really oblivious to anything not affecting them personally.

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Haha. These stories about oblivious kids made me laugh. I agree -- kids are really self-centered and also don't really think things through until they have a new mental leap and realize more of what things they already "knew" actually mean.

I also think sometimes kids say things like this when they just want to encourage more talk about something they find interesting. My 5 year old constantly asks me questions about things we've talked about over and over again. Today we went out to buy something for Father's Day, and he asked more 3 times before we left and then again in the car where we were going and what we were going to buy. I think he just wanted to know more about it and check that it was in fact what we were going to do.

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Anonymous wrote:How old is your DD? Kids are often in their own little world until something actually applies to them personally and then it clicks.

The older one is 5.5.

Yeah, they're pretty self centered at that age. Just wait until they start filling out those questionnaires about you for Mother's Day. At that age, mine said my favorite color was red (because I drove a red car, my favorite color is purple just like hers and we talked about how cool it was that we had the same favorite color frequently) and that I love orange juice (I hate OJ, and she said I always check the fridge to see if I have any before I go to the store. I check to see if we have any so I can buy it for her!). All of my kids constantly seem surprised that I know how to use tools even though I'm always the one who fixes things around the house.

On the mom's day quiz in pre-K, my ds declared that I was 100 years old. I admit to being an older mom, but I'm not that old!!!

[Anonymous]

Kids have to be told facts a number of times until it sinks in how the fact relates to their own life. My daughter threw a tantrum recently when I explained to her that her grandmother was my mother. She insisted that no, this was HER grandmother.

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Anonymous wrote:Yesterday my oldest found out that her little sister is biologically her cousin (our niece) who we adopted. We have always been open about this; I'm not sure how she didn't realize. Today we got a new fan and I was screwing it into the base with a screwdriver and DD said, "Wow Mama! I didn't know you know how to use tools."

Is she new or something? Or do I not talk to her enough about me?

My sister says she has no memories of me until she was 5. I am a year older. Until 4-6, they are in their own little world and it is all about them. Then they start looking out and seeing other people as distinctly separate from them. It sounds like your DD is entering that cognitive stage.

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Anonymous wrote:How old is your DD? Kids are often in their own little world until something actually applies to them personally and then it clicks.

The older one is 5.5.

Yeah, they're pretty self centered at that age. Just wait until they start filling out those questionnaires about you for Mother's Day. At that age, mine said my favorite color was red (because I drove a red car, my favorite color is purple just like hers and we talked about how cool it was that we had the same favorite color frequently) and that I love orange juice (I hate OJ, and she said I always check the fridge to see if I have any before I go to the store. I check to see if we have any so I can buy it for her!). All of my kids constantly seem surprised that I know how to use tools even though I'm always the one who fixes things around the house.

On the mom's day quiz in pre-K, my ds declared that I was 100 years old. I admit to being an older mom, but I'm not that old!!!

Oh I love those quizzes. My husband is 7 feet tall and his job is to talk on the phone.

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Anonymous wrote:How old is your DD? Kids are often in their own little world until something actually applies to them personally and then it clicks.

The older one is 5.5.

Yeah, they're pretty self centered at that age. Just wait until they start filling out those questionnaires about you for Mother's Day. At that age, mine said my favorite color was red (because I drove a red car, my favorite color is purple just like hers and we talked about how cool it was that we had the same favorite color frequently) and that I love orange juice (I hate OJ, and she said I always check the fridge to see if I have any before I go to the store. I check to see if we have any so I can buy it for her!). All of my kids constantly seem surprised that I know how to use tools even though I'm always the one who fixes things around the house.

On the mom's day quiz in pre-K, my ds declared that I was 100 years old. I admit to being an older mom, but I'm not that old!!!

Oh I love those quizzes. My husband is 7 feet tall and his job is to talk on the phone.

That's adorable. One day, DD showed DH a picture she colored at preschool. Then she asked him, "and what did you color at work today daddy?" She got pretty upset when he told her he doesn't make his living with crayons.

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Anonymous wrote:How old is your DD? Kids are often in their own little world until something actually applies to them personally and then it clicks.

The older one is 5.5.

Yeah, they're pretty self centered at that age. Just wait until they start filling out those questionnaires about you for Mother's Day. At that age, mine said my favorite color was red (because I drove a red car, my favorite color is purple just like hers and we talked about how cool it was that we had the same favorite color frequently) and that I love orange juice (I hate OJ, and she said I always check the fridge to see if I have any before I go to the store. I check to see if we have any so I can buy it for her!). All of my kids constantly seem surprised that I know how to use tools even though I'm always the one who fixes things around the house.

On the mom's day quiz in pre-K, my ds declared that I was 100 years old. I admit to being an older mom, but I'm not that old!!!

Oh I love those quizzes. My husband is 7 feet tall and his job is to talk on the phone.

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That's adorable. One day, DD showed DH a picture she colored at preschool. Then she asked him, "and what did you color at work today daddy?" She got pretty upset when he told her he doesn't make his living with crayons.

[Anonymous]

My four-year-old thought that his last name was Rose (his sister's middle name) and that everyone in the world had our actual last name.

My mother was in first grade before she realized that not everyone's father was a Dr since my grandfather and all his friends were college professors and all Dr and Mrs So-And-So. She thought Mr was just for horses like an old TV show about a talking horse named Mr. Ed.