S/O If you are a MIL who monologues incessantly AT your DIL while not showing any interest in her...

[Anonymous]

Apparently there are a lot of you guys! Did anyone recognize themselves (not literally) in that thread, and if so what's going on from your perspective?

[Anonymous]

Actually, I think it is the opposite. What I've noticed is that there are a lot of intolerant, self-focused people on DCUM who would rather whine about how no one understands me and she doesn't have to go through what I'm going through than just go along to get along. Golly. Most of the life stuff posted here just isn't that hard, people. Be kind to others and usually they'll be kind to you. If they aren't, then just keep walking. But get over your fine selves and stop the drama!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Actually, I think it is the opposite. What I've noticed is that there are a lot of intolerant, self-focused people on DCUM who would rather whine about how no one understands me and she doesn't have to go through what I'm going through than just go along to get along. Golly. Most of the life stuff posted here just isn't that hard, people. Be kind to others and usually they'll be kind to you. If they aren't, then just keep walking. But get over your fine selves and stop the drama!

+1

And can we stop these cringeworthy IL bashing threads please? Women show their worst selves when they are being bitchy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Actually, I think it is the opposite. What I've noticed is that there are a lot of intolerant, self-focused people on DCUM who would rather whine about how no one understands me and she doesn't have to go through what I'm going through than just go along to get along. Golly. Most of the life stuff posted here just isn't that hard, people. Be kind to others and usually they'll be kind to you. If they aren't, then just keep walking. But get over your fine selves and stop the drama!

+1

And can we stop these cringeworthy IL bashing threads please? Women show their worst selves when they are being bitchy.

That goes both ways.

[Anonymous]

PPs I think you're missing the point. If you go check out the other thread, it's not someone that came on to do a MIL rant. The question was posed - those of you who aren't close to your MILs, why not? And reading through the responses, there's such a common theme. A LOT of people gave very similar responses. I was just curious

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Actually, I think it is the opposite. What I've noticed is that there are a lot of intolerant, self-focused people on DCUM who would rather whine about how no one understands me and she doesn't have to go through what I'm going through than just go along to get along. Golly. Most of the life stuff posted here just isn't that hard, people. Be kind to others and usually they'll be kind to you. If they aren't, then just keep walking. But get over your fine selves and stop the drama!

+1

And can we stop these cringeworthy IL bashing threads please? Women show their worst selves when they are being bitchy.

That goes both ways.

Agreed. Therefore stop IL bashing (DIL, MIL, SIL, BIL, FIL).

[Anonymous]

I am not close to my MIL because (according to my DH) I am a first class bitch. I am miserable and jealous of DH's parents and siblings. They are better off than us, they have fun together and they care for each other. On the other hand my own biological mom is a complete cold fish. She calls me vindictive and petty. I hate my step-father and my step and half siblings. I am unattractive and feel that DH married me only because I entrapped him with my unwed pregnant state. My biological father walked away from us and had another family. Everyone in my father's second family is beautiful, healthy, rich and successful. I cannot be happy but I will make sure no one else around me is happy either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am not close to my MIL because (according to my DH) I am a first class bitch. I am miserable and jealous of DH's parents and siblings. They are better off than us, they have fun together and they care for each other. On the other hand my own biological mom is a complete cold fish. She calls me vindictive and petty. I hate my step-father and my step and half siblings. I am unattractive and feel that DH married me only because I entrapped him with my unwed pregnant state. My biological father walked away from us and had another family. Everyone in my father's second family is beautiful, healthy, rich and successful. I cannot be happy but I will make sure no one else around me is happy either.

Wow.

I can see why you haven't improved your lot in life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PPs I think you're missing the point. If you go check out the other thread, it's not someone that came on to do a MIL rant. The question was posed - those of you who aren't close to your MILs, why not? And reading through the responses, there's such a common theme. A LOT of people gave very similar responses. I was just curious

PPs are totally missing the point! I'm also curious because this is my experience too. My MIL barely pauses to breathe during any "conversation" so we don't actually talk, she just monologues at me. Yet she thinks that she knows me very well. It's mystifying.

[Anonymous]

Link to the thread mentioned?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am not close to my MIL because (according to my DH) I am a first class bitch. I am miserable and jealous of DH's parents and siblings. They are better off than us, they have fun together and they care for each other. On the other hand my own biological mom is a complete cold fish. She calls me vindictive and petty. I hate my step-father and my step and half siblings. I am unattractive and feel that DH married me only because I entrapped him with my unwed pregnant state. My biological father walked away from us and had another family. Everyone in my father's second family is beautiful, healthy, rich and successful. I cannot be happy but I will make sure no one else around me is happy either.

Have you tried talking this out with someone? You can be happy, it will take a little work to get there, but you can do it. I promise. You.can.do.it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PPs I think you're missing the point. If you go check out the other thread, it's not someone that came on to do a MIL rant. The question was posed - those of you who aren't close to your MILs, why not? And reading through the responses, there's such a common theme. A LOT of people gave very similar responses. I was just curious

PPs are totally missing the point! I'm also curious because this is my experience too. My MIL barely pauses to breathe during any "conversation" so we don't actually talk, she just monologues at me. Yet she thinks that she knows me very well. It's mystifying.

Yes!!! Exactly same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Link to the thread mentioned?

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/649463.page