Graduation Strife

[Anonymous]

This week is my daughters high school graduation. It is also the week that her winning team must complete in the Junior Achievement Nationsl Cinference that is convenuentky being held in Washington, DC. Because of this my daughter is participating only in her actual graduation ceremony. She will not participate in the baccalaureate or all night grad celebration. Mom is pissed and disappointed about missing the baccalaureate and daughter is in tears because rather than being proud of her achievement Mom is only expressing disappointment. I'm just stressed out trying to calm everything down.

[Anonymous]

What is "the baccalaureate", please?

And why is your daughter's mother "pissed and disappointed" about your daughter's all-night grad celebration? Was your daughter's mother planning to attend?

[Anonymous]

I guess you're the father? Or the other mother? I mean, so what. Her choice is clear.

I didn't even attend my high school or college graduations. Never went to a prom. I'm okay with that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is "the baccalaureate", please?

And why is your daughter's mother "pissed and disappointed" about your daughter's all-night grad celebration? Was your daughter's mother planning to attend?

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess you're the father? Or the other mother? I mean, so what. Her choice is clear.

I didn't even attend my high school or college graduations. Never went to a prom. I'm okay with that.

+ 1

and with this kind of drama-queen fiasco you can see why. so much better to be sane.

[Anonymous]

You do not need to do anything. You do not need to calm anyone down. Let people express their disappointment.

Say nothing, smile, and support your DD at her competition and graduation ceremony.

[Anonymous]

If it means that much to the mom then perhaps the mom could attend the baccalaureate just by herself without the daughter? I would think the mom would want to be with her daughter at the competition but honestly with the kind of behavior the mom is exhibiting the daughter may be better off without her there.

Congratulations and good luck to your daughter, OP!

[Anonymous]

I have a graduating senior and we did not attend the Baccalaureate. It isn't a big deal.
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[Anonymous]

We didn't have anything apart from the prom at my high school abroad, and I didn't even get to attend that.

If your daughter is comfortable with the way things are, then that's the most important thing. Can you take your spouse aside and explain this to her?

[Anonymous]

Your wife needs to back off. It is not her life. Participating in a competition with her team is a special thing. Sorry your wife is all about the show and not the substance.

[Anonymous]

This too shall pass

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You do not need to do anything. You do not need to calm anyone down. Let people express their disappointment.

Say nothing, smile, and support your DD at her competition and graduation ceremony.

Yes. Reassure your daughter (without insulting her mother) that she has accomplished a lot and should be really proud of herself.

[Anonymous]

I can see both sides, but if daughter is fine with it, just let it go. in the mother's defense, she may also be mourning the end of high school and just wants her daughter to be able to participate in all of the "fun" events because in reality she wants to participate too. Maybe the mom should go to baccaulaureate.

In the big picture, you are lucky because the daughter is already moving on from high school and on to more achievements that will help her launch the rest of her life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your wife needs to back off. It is not her life. Participating in a competition with her team is a special thing. Sorry your wife is all about the show and not the substance.

This!! I feel bad for your daughter. I hope she feels proud of herself and her achievements.