People who go on about how close their blended families are
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Anonymous
| It kind of annoys me. I have a friend whose DH has been married twice before and she is his third wife. They have two daughters together and her DH has four adult kids. My friend treats one of her stepkids like her own and disregards the others as they are 'older.'. She is always talking about how amazing her relationship with the youngest kid is and how they are such a close blended family. I feel like she talks about it all the time. Almost to prove a point? I feel like saying to her 'Suzie, no family is perfect, stepkids or not. Stop talking about how one of them is like a daughter to you ignoring the fact you have three other stepkids.' Anyone else know stepfamilies like this? Like they are so desperate to prove everything is amazing? |
Anonymous
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The two blended families I know have ongoing Facebook PR campaigns trying to convince the world of their happiness.
Something about protesting too much... lol They look like clowns to everyone, but I feel badly for the kids. |
Anonymous
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Yes! Everything is so wonderful! They are so happy and love each other so much! No problems here!
Until there's a split with the adults  One couple I know the stepmom said those boys (husband's) were her own. Until they split and those boys never saw her again.
The husband had treated her children like stepchildren, and she put up with it. (No problems here!) |
Anonymous
| We're in a blended family and DH and I never really talk about the one big problem we have, because we don't know what to do about it. On the outside though, everything seems great. |
Anonymous
| Yes, my mom is like this and it annoys the crap out of me. She is always trying to finagle ways to make my dad spend time in public with the man she cheated on him with, and trying to sneak her AP's adult kids into spending time with me and my kids when I visit. She does it to convince herself that her boyfriend doesn't suck and nobody is mad at her for cheating, but it isn't going to work. I have to be constantly on my guard or she will manipulate me. |
Anonymous
| Yes, I think it is pathetic. Same with people who claim to have banned the prefix "step-" from their households. Give me a break, everyone knows, your kids hate each other and if you broke up neither one of you would give a shit about the stepkids. You're not fooling anyone. |
Anonymous
They were his stepchildren. That is appropriate. |
Anonymous
+1 One family in particular is my mental reminder that FB isn't real. So many perfect pics and gushy posts, but I know the situation is actually miserable - drug abuse by the teens from the first marriage and horrific behavior problems for the second marriage kids because their parents don't have time to focus on them. |
Anonymous
| The one blended family I know is actually doing well. A lot of work and adjustment went into in, but their FB happiness is pretty genuine. |
Anonymous
How do you really know, though? As a teenager I went to great lengths to conceal my true opinions, because there really wasn't a better option. The kids are, honestly, pretty stuck if they're unhappy with it. |
Anonymous
| oh yeah, my stepmother was absolutely obsessed with projecting a perfect image when everything was actually extremely bad. super obnoxious. |
Anonymous
I can't know for sure, that's true, but I am pretty close to the family and get to observe them in action. |
Anonymous
They may very well be happy, but it is also true you never know what goes on in someone else's house. |
Anonymous
| How do you know any family's happiness on Facebook is genuine? There is a lot of total bullshit on Facebook. Period. |
Anonymous
You should only post happy stuff on FBI. Use it to share pics with relatives who live far. It isn't supposed to be real, just happy. |