Attendance pressure

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My child returned from being sick and had to immediately take a quiz that day with the class that they had been told when they were absent. My child explained to the teacher they had been sick and didn’t even know about the quiz. Didn’t matter. The teacher made them take it. They failed it. I guess the teacher felt sorry for my child and allowed them to retake it. But what a jerk making them take it in the first place and causing undue stress on my child.

Imagine being so addicted to outrage that even when the situation is corrected, you still need strangers to validate your tantrum. Your kid moved on faster than you did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My child returned from being sick and had to immediately take a quiz that day with the class that they had been told when they were absent. My child explained to the teacher they had been sick and didn’t even know about the quiz. Didn’t matter. The teacher made them take it. They failed it. I guess the teacher felt sorry for my child and allowed them to retake it. But what a jerk making them take it in the first place and causing undue stress on my child.

Imagine being so addicted to outrage that even when the situation is corrected, you still need strangers to validate your tantrum. Your kid moved on faster than you did.

Are you a teacher or something? I can’t imagine getting this worked up about someone else’s experience and trying to invalidate them. I was asked about the details and answered. Some teachers are not compassionate after illnesses, that’s all. This was one example. I have others too.

[Anonymous]

This is why so many kids go to school sick, too. Their teachers lack compassion and don’t give them enough time to make up the work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My child returned from being sick and had to immediately take a quiz that day with the class that they had been told when they were absent. My child explained to the teacher they had been sick and didn’t even know about the quiz. Didn’t matter. The teacher made them take it. They failed it. I guess the teacher felt sorry for my child and allowed them to retake it. But what a jerk making them take it in the first place and causing undue stress on my child.

At some point you have to ask whether the issue is really the quiz, or whether you’re raising kids who’ve been taught that any discomfort is a crisis. Mild stress isn’t trauma, it’s life. And learning to handle it is kind of the point of school. This reads very much like participation-trophy parenting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My child returned from being sick and had to immediately take a quiz that day with the class that they had been told when they were absent. My child explained to the teacher they had been sick and didn’t even know about the quiz. Didn’t matter. The teacher made them take it. They failed it. I guess the teacher felt sorry for my child and allowed them to retake it. But what a jerk making them take it in the first place and causing undue stress on my child.

At some point you have to ask whether the issue is really the quiz, or whether you’re raising kids who’ve been taught that any discomfort is a crisis. Mild stress isn’t trauma, it’s life. And learning to handle it is kind of the point of school. This reads very much like participation-trophy parenting.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My child returned from being sick and had to immediately take a quiz that day with the class that they had been told when they were absent. My child explained to the teacher they had been sick and didn’t even know about the quiz. Didn’t matter. The teacher made them take it. They failed it. I guess the teacher felt sorry for my child and allowed them to retake it. But what a jerk making them take it in the first place and causing undue stress on my child.

At some point you have to ask whether the issue is really the quiz, or whether you’re raising kids who’ve been taught that any discomfort is a crisis. Mild stress isn’t trauma, it’s life. And learning to handle it is kind of the point of school. This reads very much like participation-trophy parenting.

It’s not unreasonable to want teachers to give sick kids a few extra days for makeup work. I’m sorry you have a problem with that. That’s very odd to me. Most people would agree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My child returned from being sick and had to immediately take a quiz that day with the class that they had been told when they were absent. My child explained to the teacher they had been sick and didn’t even know about the quiz. Didn’t matter. The teacher made them take it. They failed it. I guess the teacher felt sorry for my child and allowed them to retake it. But what a jerk making them take it in the first place and causing undue stress on my child.

At some point you have to ask whether the issue is really the quiz, or whether you’re raising kids who’ve been taught that any discomfort is a crisis. Mild stress isn’t trauma, it’s life. And learning to handle it is kind of the point of school. This reads very much like participation-trophy parenting.

It’s not the teachers job to impose stress on the student because they can’t read their own attendance apps. If you look at other threads here about the inconvenience caused by persistent teacher absences, you’ll hear all sorts of things about how it’s unfair to ever assume anything about another person‘s absence – teacher should be extending that exact same courtesy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My child returned from being sick and had to immediately take a quiz that day with the class that they had been told when they were absent. My child explained to the teacher they had been sick and didn’t even know about the quiz. Didn’t matter. The teacher made them take it. They failed it. I guess the teacher felt sorry for my child and allowed them to retake it. But what a jerk making them take it in the first place and causing undue stress on my child.

At some point you have to ask whether the issue is really the quiz, or whether you’re raising kids who’ve been taught that any discomfort is a crisis. Mild stress isn’t trauma, it’s life. And learning to handle it is kind of the point of school. This reads very much like participation-trophy parenting.

And this is exactly why FCPS/admin have to make rules such as no work can be assigned over winter break, and one make up day for each day out due to illness. Because inevitably there’s always one hard ass teacher who just doesn’t care and tries to punish kids for something beyond their control.

Explain why a sick kid coming back to class for the first time would have to take the quiz with the class please?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My child returned from being sick and had to immediately take a quiz that day with the class that they had been told when they were absent. My child explained to the teacher they had been sick and didn’t even know about the quiz. Didn’t matter. The teacher made them take it. They failed it. I guess the teacher felt sorry for my child and allowed them to retake it. But what a jerk making them take it in the first place and causing undue stress on my child.

At some point you have to ask whether the issue is really the quiz, or whether you’re raising kids who’ve been taught that any discomfort is a crisis. Mild stress isn’t trauma, it’s life. And learning to handle it is kind of the point of school. This reads very much like participation-trophy parenting.

It’s not the teachers job to impose stress on the student because they can’t read their own attendance apps. If you look at other threads here about the inconvenience caused by persistent teacher absences, you’ll hear all sorts of things about how it’s unfair to ever assume anything about another person‘s absence – teacher should be extending that exact same courtesy.

+1 Finally, a voice of reason. Teachers would do well to listen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My child returned from being sick and had to immediately take a quiz that day with the class that they had been told when they were absent. My child explained to the teacher they had been sick and didn’t even know about the quiz. Didn’t matter. The teacher made them take it. They failed it. I guess the teacher felt sorry for my child and allowed them to retake it. But what a jerk making them take it in the first place and causing undue stress on my child.

Imagine being so addicted to outrage that even when the situation is corrected, you still need strangers to validate your tantrum. Your kid moved on faster than you did.

Are you a teacher or something? I can’t imagine getting this worked up about someone else’s experience and trying to invalidate them. I was asked about the details and answered. Some teachers are not compassionate after illnesses, that’s all. This was one example. I have others too.

DP. Former teacher here.

The teacher gave the child a make up quiz. What is the big deal?
The rest of the class was taking the quiz--maybe the quiz included a lot of earlier information he should have known, maybe not.

And, has PP ever told us how many days the kid was out? Was this an assigned quiz or a pop quiz?

Nevertheless, the child made up the quiz. What is the big deal?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My child returned from being sick and had to immediately take a quiz that day with the class that they had been told when they were absent. My child explained to the teacher they had been sick and didn’t even know about the quiz. Didn’t matter. The teacher made them take it. They failed it. I guess the teacher felt sorry for my child and allowed them to retake it. But what a jerk making them take it in the first place and causing undue stress on my child.

Imagine being so addicted to outrage that even when the situation is corrected, you still need strangers to validate your tantrum. Your kid moved on faster than you did.

Are you a teacher or something? I can’t imagine getting this worked up about someone else’s experience and trying to invalidate them. I was asked about the details and answered. Some teachers are not compassionate after illnesses, that’s all. This was one example. I have others too.

DP. Former teacher here.

The teacher gave the child a make up quiz. What is the big deal?
The rest of the class was taking the quiz--maybe the quiz included a lot of earlier information he should have known, maybe not.

And, has PP ever told us how many days the kid was out? Was this an assigned quiz or a pop quiz?

Nevertheless, the child made up the quiz. What is the big deal?

In that case this could have been a great opportunity for a one on one check in with the student about when they would take the quiz, review any other work missed. Instead the teacher wasted the student’s time, and their own time grading (aren't we always hearing about teachers buried under piles of grading?!?) just to make a kid fail. Is it criminal? No but it’s unprofessional and more to the point violates FCPS polices. You know, like those attendance policies students and parents are supposed to care SO much about.

A culture of not following the rules seems to start with the teacher.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My child returned from being sick and had to immediately take a quiz that day with the class that they had been told when they were absent. My child explained to the teacher they had been sick and didn’t even know about the quiz. Didn’t matter. The teacher made them take it. They failed it. I guess the teacher felt sorry for my child and allowed them to retake it. But what a jerk making them take it in the first place and causing undue stress on my child.

Imagine being so addicted to outrage that even when the situation is corrected, you still need strangers to validate your tantrum. Your kid moved on faster than you did.

Are you a teacher or something? I can’t imagine getting this worked up about someone else’s experience and trying to invalidate them. I was asked about the details and answered. Some teachers are not compassionate after illnesses, that’s all. This was one example. I have others too.

DP. Former teacher here.

The teacher gave the child a make up quiz. What is the big deal?
The rest of the class was taking the quiz--maybe the quiz included a lot of earlier information he should have known, maybe not.

And, has PP ever told us how many days the kid was out? Was this an assigned quiz or a pop quiz?

Nevertheless, the child made up the quiz. What is the big deal?

In that case this could have been a great opportunity for a one on one check in with the student about when they would take the quiz, review any other work missed. Instead the teacher wasted the student’s time, and their own time grading (aren't we always hearing about teachers buried under piles of grading?!?) just to make a kid fail. Is it criminal? No but it’s unprofessional and more to the point violates FCPS polices. You know, like those attendance policies students and parents are supposed to care SO much about.

A culture of not following the rules seems to start with the teacher.

This exactly. Thank you.

[Anonymous]

Do kids not ask their friends what happened in class anymore?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My child returned from being sick and had to immediately take a quiz that day with the class that they had been told when they were absent. My child explained to the teacher they had been sick and didn’t even know about the quiz. Didn’t matter. The teacher made them take it. They failed it. I guess the teacher felt sorry for my child and allowed them to retake it. But what a jerk making them take it in the first place and causing undue stress on my child.

Imagine being so addicted to outrage that even when the situation is corrected, you still need strangers to validate your tantrum. Your kid moved on faster than you did.

Are you a teacher or something? I can’t imagine getting this worked up about someone else’s experience and trying to invalidate them. I was asked about the details and answered. Some teachers are not compassionate after illnesses, that’s all. This was one example. I have others too.

DP. Former teacher here.

The teacher gave the child a make up quiz. What is the big deal?
The rest of the class was taking the quiz--maybe the quiz included a lot of earlier information he should have known, maybe not.

And, has PP ever told us how many days the kid was out? Was this an assigned quiz or a pop quiz?

Nevertheless, the child made up the quiz. What is the big deal?

There isn’t a big deal. And the PP was already asked how many days the kid was out and she didn’t respond. That’s telling.

The teacher already made allowances without even being asked to, and I’m guessing there’s a large part of this story the PP isn’t sharing (how many days out, that the test info was online, that this make-up procedure was already posted).

But let’s not pass on the opportunity to make this teacher into a “jerk” and then project that on all teachers!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My child returned from being sick and had to immediately take a quiz that day with the class that they had been told when they were absent. My child explained to the teacher they had been sick and didn’t even know about the quiz. Didn’t matter. The teacher made them take it. They failed it. I guess the teacher felt sorry for my child and allowed them to retake it. But what a jerk making them take it in the first place and causing undue stress on my child.

Imagine being so addicted to outrage that even when the situation is corrected, you still need strangers to validate your tantrum. Your kid moved on faster than you did.

Are you a teacher or something? I can’t imagine getting this worked up about someone else’s experience and trying to invalidate them. I was asked about the details and answered. Some teachers are not compassionate after illnesses, that’s all. This was one example. I have others too.

DP. Former teacher here.

The teacher gave the child a make up quiz. What is the big deal?
The rest of the class was taking the quiz--maybe the quiz included a lot of earlier information he should have known, maybe not.

And, has PP ever told us how many days the kid was out? Was this an assigned quiz or a pop quiz?

Nevertheless, the child made up the quiz. What is the big deal?

There isn’t a big deal. And the PP was already asked how many days the kid was out and she didn’t respond. That’s telling.

The teacher already made allowances without even being asked to, and I’m guessing there’s a large part of this story the PP isn’t sharing (how many days out, that the test info was online, that this make-up procedure was already posted).

But let’s not pass on the opportunity to make this teacher into a “jerk” and then project that on all teachers!

FCPS has a policy The teacher didn’t follow. The teacher is in the wrong. It has nothing to do with any other teachers.