Grandparents insist on taking my kids’ first class seats

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Anonymous wrote:Going on a family vacation + cruise later this summer to Greek Isles. Originally booked for myself, DH, and our two kids (16 and 14). We invited my parents a few months ago and they decided to join us. Our family booked 4 first class seats IAD-ATH using FF miles on United (DH is Global Services on United and got a good deal) and my parents ended up booking 2 coach seats in cash many months later (no status). Well, yesterday my parents decided they wouldn’t go on the trip unless they flew first class and that our kids don’t need to fly first class and we should allow them to switch. My dad even offered to give each of my kids $50 to move from first to coach so that they could have lie flat seating transatlantic.

DH is super annoyed. My parents are being real jerks about this and how kids don’t need first class and my dad’s back aches so he totally needs first class. What do I do?

You do what you should have done in the first place, first class for everyone. If you can't get two first class for your parents then there is no reason why your 16 & 14 cannot sit in coach and your parents in first class.

What is wrong with you and your DH?

First class is available. What is wrong with OP’s parents that they are too stupid or too cheap to buy business class seats at the offset, particularly if they know this is where they want to sit?

Because it's so respectful to treat your grown children as virtual ATMs and then throw petulant tantrums when you don't get your way, and for an unnecessary trip, too.

I haven’t let my parents pay for anything since I was in my late 20s. It’s called thank you for my life.

So, are your parents respectful to you? Because that would be a major difference from what OP and her DH have experienced. [/not OP]

Sorry, I just don’t see how being a cantankerous old man is so offensive. My Dad is routinely cantankerous. He’s 78. We laugh it off and try to accommodate. All night flights are tough. I can see why he wants to lay down. He offered the kids a bonus. I would just give it to him.

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Anonymous wrote:Going on a family vacation + cruise later this summer to Greek Isles. Originally booked for myself, DH, and our two kids (16 and 14). We invited my parents a few months ago and they decided to join us. Our family booked 4 first class seats IAD-ATH using FF miles on United (DH is Global Services on United and got a good deal) and my parents ended up booking 2 coach seats in cash many months later (no status). Well, yesterday my parents decided they wouldn’t go on the trip unless they flew first class and that our kids don’t need to fly first class and we should allow them to switch. My dad even offered to give each of my kids $50 to move from first to coach so that they could have lie flat seating transatlantic.

DH is super annoyed. My parents are being real jerks about this and how kids don’t need first class and my dad’s back aches so he totally needs first class. What do I do?

You do what you should have done in the first place, first class for everyone. If you can't get two first class for your parents then there is no reason why your 16 & 14 cannot sit in coach and your parents in first class.

What is wrong with you and your DH?

First class is available. What is wrong with OP’s parents that they are too stupid or too cheap to buy business class seats at the offset, particularly if they know this is where they want to sit?

Because it's so respectful to treat your grown children as virtual ATMs and then throw petulant tantrums when you don't get your way, and for an unnecessary trip, too.

I haven’t let my parents pay for anything since I was in my late 20s. It’s called thank you for my life.

So, are your parents respectful to you? Because that would be a major difference from what OP and her DH have experienced. [/not OP]

Sorry, I just don’t see how being a cantankerous old man is so offensive. My Dad is routinely cantankerous. He’s 78. We laugh it off and try to accommodate. All night flights are tough. I can see why he wants to lay down. He offered the kids a bonus. I would just give it to him.

Dad had every opportunity to purchase a seat that suited his needs.

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Anonymous wrote:Going on a family vacation + cruise later this summer to Greek Isles. Originally booked for myself, DH, and our two kids (16 and 14). We invited my parents a few months ago and they decided to join us. Our family booked 4 first class seats IAD-ATH using FF miles on United (DH is Global Services on United and got a good deal) and my parents ended up booking 2 coach seats in cash many months later (no status). Well, yesterday my parents decided they wouldn’t go on the trip unless they flew first class and that our kids don’t need to fly first class and we should allow them to switch. My dad even offered to give each of my kids $50 to move from first to coach so that they could have lie flat seating transatlantic.

DH is super annoyed. My parents are being real jerks about this and how kids don’t need first class and my dad’s back aches so he totally needs first class. What do I do?

You do what you should have done in the first place, first class for everyone. If you can't get two first class for your parents then there is no reason why your 16 & 14 cannot sit in coach and your parents in first class.

What is wrong with you and your DH?

First class is available. What is wrong with OP’s parents that they are too stupid or too cheap to buy business class seats at the offset, particularly if they know this is where they want to sit?

Because it's so respectful to treat your grown children as virtual ATMs and then throw petulant tantrums when you don't get your way, and for an unnecessary trip, too.

I haven’t let my parents pay for anything since I was in my late 20s. It’s called thank you for my life.

So, are your parents respectful to you? Because that would be a major difference from what OP and her DH have experienced. [/not OP]

Sorry, I just don’t see how being a cantankerous old man is so offensive. My Dad is routinely cantankerous. He’s 78. We laugh it off and try to accommodate. All night flights are tough. I can see why he wants to lay down. He offered the kids a bonus. I would just give it to him.

My parents were lovely people who continued to insist on paying and wouldn't accept charity from their children. They wanted me to take care of my family and my own children. I respected them enough not to override their express wishes.

I guess my family just had different values than yours.

[Anonymous]

I’m more blown away by a 14 year old that expects to fly first class. That would be my parent’s ticket to those seats. Hahaha.

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I think this is a terrible look for your kids if you allow them to sit in first class while their grandparents are in economy.

Imagine arriving in Greece, you and kids well-rested, and your elderly parents exhausted and frazzled. I can't believe you think this is OK.

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Anonymous wrote:I think this is a terrible look for your kids if you allow them to sit in first class while their grandparents are in economy.

Imagine arriving in Greece, you and kids well-rested, and your elderly parents exhausted and frazzled. I can't believe you think this is OK.

I can't believe you didn't bother to catch up on the thread.

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Hey OP, you basically write an am I the a-hole thread. Probably half the people think you are the a-hole and half don’t. How are you surprised by that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hey OP, you basically write an am I the a-hole thread. Probably half the people think you are the a-hole and half don’t. How are you surprised by that?

OP is doing just fine, and the a-holes have outed themselves nicely. Meanwhile, she is probably off on vacation now, and without the tacky older generation (at their choice).

It's a win-win, PP.

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Anonymous wrote:Hey OP, you basically write an am I the a-hole thread. Probably half the people think you are the a-hole and half don’t. How are you surprised by that?

OP is doing just fine, and the a-holes have outed themselves nicely. Meanwhile, she is probably off on vacation now, and without the tacky older generation (at their choice).

It's a win-win, PP.

In what universe are the a-holes the people who would give the seats to the parents?

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Anonymous wrote:I think this is a terrible look for your kids if you allow them to sit in first class while their grandparents are in economy.

Imagine arriving in Greece, you and kids well-rested, and your elderly parents exhausted and frazzled. I can't believe you think this is OK.

I can’t believe you think that the OP’s parents plan to commit insurance fraud is OK.

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Anonymous wrote:Your parents are selfish entitled jerks. Normally I'd offer to trade the seats, but the way they're going about it makes me never want to vacation with them again.

Honestly I'd call their bluff and say so be it.

No way I'd give up the kids seats. Entitield grandparents can stay home.

I can’t fathom this attitude!

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I cannot believe this thread is 44 pages long. What the hell is wrong with you Op? This is a terrible example you are setting for your children who will one day be in charge of you as grandparents. I can't "fathom" the hate many of you have for the elders in your family, how truly sad. Selfish is the word that comes to mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I cannot believe this thread is 44 pages long. What the hell is wrong with you Op? This is a terrible example you are setting for your children who will one day be in charge of you as grandparents. I can't "fathom" the hate many of you have for the elders in your family, how truly sad. Selfish is the word that comes to mind.

Are you serious? OP already agreed to pay for her parents’ hotel expenses in Athens. Plus, she agreed to give her parents the kids’ business class seats that her DH purchased for his immediate family.

Then, we have the Father’s Day retaliation and planned insurance scam. You’re crazy if you think OP’s parents don’t deserve to be beaten or stoned. So typical of boomers!!

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Anonymous wrote:Going on a family vacation + cruise later this summer to Greek Isles. Originally booked for myself, DH, and our two kids (16 and 14). We invited my parents a few months ago and they decided to join us. Our family booked 4 first class seats IAD-ATH using FF miles on United (DH is Global Services on United and got a good deal) and my parents ended up booking 2 coach seats in cash many months later (no status). Well, yesterday my parents decided they wouldn’t go on the trip unless they flew first class and that our kids don’t need to fly first class and we should allow them to switch. My dad even offered to give each of my kids $50 to move from first to coach so that they could have lie flat seating transatlantic.

DH is super annoyed. My parents are being real jerks about this and how kids don’t need first class and my dad’s back aches so he totally needs first class. What do I do?

You do what you should have done in the first place, first class for everyone. If you can't get two first class for your parents then there is no reason why your 16 & 14 cannot sit in coach and your parents in first class.

What is wrong with you and your DH?

First class is available. What is wrong with OP’s parents that they are too stupid or too cheap to buy business class seats at the offset, particularly if they know this is where they want to sit?

Because it's so respectful to treat your grown children as virtual ATMs and then throw petulant tantrums when you don't get your way, and for an unnecessary trip, too.

I haven’t let my parents pay for anything since I was in my late 20s. It’s called thank you for my life.

So, are your parents respectful to you? Because that would be a major difference from what OP and her DH have experienced. [/not OP]

Sorry, I just don’t see how being a cantankerous old man is so offensive. My Dad is routinely cantankerous. He’s 78. We laugh it off and try to accommodate. All night flights are tough. I can see why he wants to lay down. He offered the kids a bonus. I would just give it to him.

So who’s stopping you? OP is talking about her own parents.

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Anonymous wrote:I cannot believe this thread is 44 pages long. What the hell is wrong with you Op? This is a terrible example you are setting for your children who will one day be in charge of you as grandparents. I can't "fathom" the hate many of you have for the elders in your family, how truly sad. Selfish is the word that comes to mind.

Triggered boomer.