My fiancé is so similar to my dad

Anonymous
In a good way. I have a great relationship with my dad. My fiancé reminds me so much of him it's crazy. They even kind of look similar. Same behavior and mannerisms. Do I have daddy issues? Is this normal? Have other people experienced this? I am viewing it as a positive thing. I hope it means our marriage will last!
Anonymous
"I married a girl just like the girl that married dear old dad!" My parents were married over 60 years and we are at 35. My DW is very much like my mom who I adored.

You have a great relationship with your dad and must admire him a whole lot. If your fiancé is like him that's a very good thing.
Anonymous
Man married the opposite of his mother. Woman married the opposite of her father. Both marriages lasted for a long time but each ended in divorce. Some of those opposite traits turned out to be important and helped erode their marriages. Man and woman remarried. He was a lot like her father but not a carbon copy. She was very much like his mother but again not identical. Interesting enough the father and mother really liked the new spouse and related much better in a friendship.

Second marriage is doing very well almost 2 decades later.
Anonymous
Are you on birth control? That can make you attracted to familial traits.
Anonymous
Us Females typically end up marrying our Fathers which is not always a good thing....

Lucky for you, you are one of the lucky ones!
Anonymous
Daddy issues?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Us Females typically end up marrying our Fathers which is not always a good thing....

Lucky for you, you are one of the lucky ones!


Grammar Police PSA: It should be "We females" and not "Us females."
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Daddy issues?


Or maybe Dad was a really, really good guy, and set a very high bar for what his daughter should expect in a man.


Not everyone's childhood was as screwed up as yours probably was, so don't assume everyone else has your daddy issues, too.
Anonymous
Very normal. Written about and discussed extensively. If you have a good relationship with your dad then it's a positive sign for the success of your marriage. Mazel tov!
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Us Females typically end up marrying our Fathers which is not always a good thing....

Lucky for you, you are one of the lucky ones!


Grammar Police PSA: It should be "We females" and not "Us females."


Us Females.

Handcuff me & throw out the key.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Are you on birth control? That can make you attracted to familial traits.


It's totally normal to be married to 'familial traits'. It's such a strong urge that if daddy is abusive often DD marries an abusivd man. It's why you aren't supposed to marry/have kids with an abusive douche - because by doing that you are effectively ruining your DD's life as well.
OP this is a good thing for you.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Us Females typically end up marrying our Fathers which is not always a good thing....

Lucky for you, you are one of the lucky ones!


Grammar Police PSA: It should be "We females" and not "Us females."


Us Females.

Handcuff me & throw out the key.


Not with daddy please
Anonymous
Yep I married a man just like my dad too. It's a good thing! DH is always trying to compare me to my MIL too, which I don't like but I do see the similarities. lol
Anonymous
Very happily married to a guy who is similar in many important ways to my father, who is/was a good dad.
Anonymous
My father is a horrible human being. My husband has nothing in common with him. They are not opposites. They are not the same. They are just nothing at all like each other and I like it that way.
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