Mom mad about HER change of plans?

[Anonymous]

Around Christmas, my parents showed interest in and invited us to vacation with them. We were really excited about the trip, and the location seemed perfect. A couple months later, my mom said that the trip was off because they no longer desired to travel to that location. Then she abandoned the idea all together.

Well, we booked our summer vacation (my husband and kids). When my mom found out, she got mad because she was "really looking forward" to traveling with us to the originally planned vacation destination, and now we were going somewhere else. ?

I don't even know how to respond. I don't know if she forgets she told us the plan was off, or if she's just now regretting her decision to cancel. Either way, we aren't looking to have them come along with us on this particular trip.

[Anonymous]

"Oh, I'm sorry, Mom, there must have been some confusion. I thought you didn't want to go on a trip this year. Next year we will make sure to do it."

[Anonymous]

"Sorry but when you said in February that the trip was off because you didn't want to go to Russia, we made other plans. I hope you have fun doing whatever you decide to do."

[Anonymous]

Thanks!

I'm worried she will want to or ask to join us, and my husband really wants/needs to unwind on this trip.

I just want her to remember that we were excited and ready to go until she cancelled.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks!

I'm worried she will want to or ask to join us, and my husband really wants/needs to unwind on this trip.

I just want her to remember that we were excited and ready to go until she cancelled.

Mom: Dad and I want to come to Iraq with you.
You: Oh! Sorry, this trip is for the immediate family Ben and I made. He's really looking forward to it just being the four of us. Maybe we can do something together for THanksgiving.

[Anonymous]

I would be very direct with her about the plans she cancelled previously, and I would also ask her if she needs a doctor's appointment for memory issues. This is how it starts, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I would be very direct with her about the plans she cancelled previously, and I would also ask her if she needs a doctor's appointment for memory issues. This is how it starts, OP.

Sadly, this is what I'm afraid of.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Sorry but when you said in February that the trip was off because you didn't want to go to Russia, we made other plans. I hope you have fun doing whatever you decide to do."

+1

I hope she's OK if she forgot about a major thing like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks!

I'm worried she will want to or ask to join us, and my husband really wants/needs to unwind on this trip.

I just want her to remember that we were excited and ready to go until she cancelled.

Mom: Dad and I want to come to Iraq with you.
You: Oh! Sorry, this trip is for the immediate family Ben and I made. He's really looking forward to it just being the four of us. Maybe we can do something together for THanksgiving.

Don't blame it on DH though! You should always be a united front.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I would be very direct with her about the plans she cancelled previously, and I would also ask her if she needs a doctor's appointment for memory issues. This is how it starts, OP.

+1
And also mention it to your father. First so he has the real story to avoid a family rift and second so he can look out for more worrying signs.

[Anonymous]

was she taking sleeping pills? those can addle the memory

[Anonymous]

I'd ask your mom to see a doctor. Unless this is a pattern of behavior with her it seems a pretty major thing to forget.

[Anonymous]

If this is the first time this has happened, I would just treat it like a big misunderstanding. "Oh shoot, you told me you didn't want to take the original trip, so we planned the Iraq trip. I don't think you told me you changed your mind. How about this: we'll go to original place next year with you guys. Or how about a trip over winter break? We're looking forward to it!"