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So I've been enjoying the opinions given on the names post so I thought I bring my issues into the hat.
We don't know what gender we are going to have. But if it's a girl, it will be Katherine Grace. If it's a boy, all we know is that the middle name is Grant, after DH's family. We vary WILDLY on preferences but we kind of have it narrowed down. My secret love is Jasper but DH will NOT have any of it. Anyway, the choices are narrowed down to James, Andrew, or Vincent. Vincent is after my grandfather, whom my DH is very close to and REALLY wants us to name a boy that. But I have two issues - one is that I feel weird about naming a child after someone who is still alive. Secondly, I can't shake that Vincent is a very proper uptight old man who smokes cigars (i.e. my grandad) and NOT a cute little boy. I like Andrew and James but DH HATES the nickname Drew and would want to call James "Jim" or "Jimmy" which I HATE (I like Jamie but he hates Jamie). What have you done when you get to these standstills with DH? Should you just pick new names? It's hard because none of them quite feel right - which kind of makes me wonder if I'm having a girl since that name was done no problemo. |
Anonymous
| We had the same problem - had a girl's name but had a lot of trouble coming up with a boy's name. We found out the baby was a boy before he was born so we had to pick. We ended up throwing out our original likes because we couldn't agree on one, and we went back through the family tree. We came up with two different names that we could live with and picked one when DS was born. You can't really control the nicknames because kids show their own preference (for example, my entire family calls my brother by his first name while his friends call him by a nickname). For that reason, James is probably out because you don't like either nickname. Isn't Drew less common than Andy? Good luck! |
Anonymous
| What about Grant Vincent? |
Anonymous
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I think it's special to name after relatives. Unless you have a strong religious reason not to name after your living grandfather, I like Vincent.
It's not common, but clearly not a made-up name. And once you meet your child, you will never think of an old-man again! Plus, once your child is older he will think it's special to be named after someone that you both love (who he will hopefully have a chance to get to know). Much more meaningful than a name from 4 generations ago! FWIW, my DD is named for my late grandfather. She loves it when we talk about how their first names start with the same letter, or when I show her something of his. She feels a real bond to him, which is priceless. |
Anonymous
| 14:51 here - If you don't like Vincent, are there any other "V" names that you do like? It would still be in honor of your grandfather, but perhaps a name you prefer. |
Anonymous
| I like Vincent, but do you like Vin and Vinny? I wouldn't be too concerned about nicknames really though, and I think that Drew is a far cry from Andrew if you correct anyone who trys it. I don't think many people would call him that at all. |
Anonymous
Not OP, but I like this. What do you think about Grant as a first name? |
Anonymous
| I used to teach preschool and there was a cute little boy there named Vincent. So I definitely associate it with little boys! |
Anonymous
I love this, and I also think that Vincent is a really cute name for a little boy. I would have named my son Grant, but it's my dad's name, and that's just a bit too weird for me. |
Anonymous
That is a great point. If I could get over it, I would love to name him after a man I respect and admire so much. It's just so hard to picture my little... Vincent? I don't mind Vin so much (my grandmother calls him that so I always loved it) but Vinny grates. Either way, I'm not as worried about those as I am the other names. We are a very nick-namey family so I think the child will probably get a nickname that suits him. To the Andy post - you know... I hadn't even thought of Andy! I like it! And to the pp with the had a girl's name but not a boy's... EEP! Guess I better not assume then eh? 
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Anonymous
| Andy? |
Anonymous
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We had a similar issue when we had our first baby. We had the boy's name all picked out, and were down to 3 names for a girl. Then they told us we were having a girl and we had issues about the names for months. We ended up naming her the middle name that we both liked instead of any of the 3 that we were struggling with. The family name then because an easy choice for the middle name, because we knew we weren't going to be saying the middle name all the time.
I like Grant Vincent too. |
Anonymous
| I know lots of little boys witht he name vincent. It is a cute name. |
Anonymous
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My 2 year old son has a Vincent in his class. He's been there since they were in the infant room, and I did think that was a bit of a big name for a little boy. But he grew into the name just fine and now I think it's really adorable (probably because the little guy "is" adorable). I think the baby's personality will impact how you and others view the name.
And FWIW, everyone calls him Vincent. I've never heard anyone use nicknames for any of the kids in there. |
Anonymous
| Our son is 3 weeks old, and we sat in the hospital room on the day we were scheduled to leave agonizing over what to name and call him (we didn't want to have to send in the paperwork ourselves later :o). We finally ended up using two family names and calling him the same name that my father-in-law is called. I have to admit, so far it feels a little strange to both of us to call him this name (it is also my husband's first name, but my husband goes by his middle name; it's also not a name that has nicknames, so just using a different nickname is not an option), but I think we'll get used to it, and we DO like the name. I also know an infant named Vincent (& one named Grant), so these names aren't just for old men. |