Is that child advanced or is my child slow?

[Anonymous]

I don't care if my child is a genius, I just don't want him to be behind!

So there was a little girl, 17 months old (same age as my son), in a sensory class we took yesterday. The kids are days apart in age, with my son being six days older. The teacher put out all these stretchy worms for the kids to play with. The little girl's nanny asked the little girl to please hand her a blue worm and the little girl looked around and handed her the blue worm. Then the nanny did the same with all the colors and the girl didn't get one wrong!

I am not sure if my son even knows what colors are.

I am happy for the child if she is advanced. I am not happy if my little guy is behind!

[Anonymous]

Sounds like she's ahead. Your son is not behind.

Here's an interesting article about how kids learn colors and why colors are among the most difficult things for kids to reliably get right.

https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/why-johnny-name-colors/

[Anonymous]

That one interaction is not enough to make any kind of determination whatsoever about your child or that little girl. Kids learn different things at different times and it probably has more to do with what the adults in their lives are exposing them to than their native abilities. Relax. Don't spend your days comparing. It will drive you nuts.

[Anonymous]

Girls are generally more advance than boys. A girl a month younger than my son & others in our peer group could walk, talk, and make joke 6-8 months before babies/toddlers her age. Now as a teenager, she is physically more apt than most kids & good in social settings, but she is not traditionally book or even common sense smart.

[Anonymous]

Why are you attending a sensory class? Does you kid have sensory issues? If not, it is like looking for something to be wrong at such a young age. Your child is fine, let your child run around and play, it will be more beneficial than sitting around and learning colors. We lived in Africa when my kids were young, DS was super active and I was super proud, he could out jump and outrun other kids. And he could catch a fly from behind with his forefinger and a thumb! No joke. Couldn't read until, ehh. who cares, he can read now. Think how lucky your DS is that his mom is with him and not his nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are you attending a sensory class? Does you kid have sensory issues? If not, it is like looking for something to be wrong at such a young age. Your child is fine, let your child run around and play, it will be more beneficial than sitting around and learning colors. We lived in Africa when my kids were young, DS was super active and I was super proud, he could out jump and outrun other kids. And he could catch a fly from behind with his forefinger and a thumb! No joke. Couldn't read until, ehh. who cares, he can read now. Think how lucky your DS is that his mom is with him and not his nanny.

OP here. No, DS doesn't have any sensory issues. It is a great and very fun class. And this nanny was better and more devoted to the child than half of the mothers in the class.

So sorry to hear that your son was slow. That must have been hard for him.

[Anonymous]

The little girl is advanced.

[Anonymous]

They'll all know their colors by Kindergarten. You're fine.

[Anonymous]

My daughter knew her colors at 14 months. Could point them out and say the name. My sons could not do this until age 2. I think they all have around the same IQ.

[Anonymous]

Comparison is the thief of joy

There is a wide range of normal for toddlers

[Anonymous]

OP, try to remember this: you saw this ONE thing she can do that your son can't. For this one thing she can do that he can't yet, I ASSURE you there is something that comes easily for him that she cannot do yet either. This is how it goes: kids don't develop all at the same time. It's asynchronous. One child might struggle with self-feeding but excel at potty training. Another might be slower to pick up colors but have excellent fine motor skills.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Comparison is the thief of joy

There is a wide range of normal for toddlers

Comparison is how we know if a child is on track or not. That is what percentiles mean and why we have time guidelines for milestones. Please stop the sanctimony - OP is just concerned if he son is developmentally behind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are you attending a sensory class? Does you kid have sensory issues? If not, it is like looking for something to be wrong at such a young age. Your child is fine, let your child run around and play, it will be more beneficial than sitting around and learning colors. We lived in Africa when my kids were young, DS was super active and I was super proud, he could out jump and outrun other kids. And he could catch a fly from behind with his forefinger and a thumb! No joke. Couldn't read until, ehh. who cares, he can read now. Think how lucky your DS is that his mom is with him and not his nanny[u].

Comments like this are really mean. And I work for myself and was the mother with my kids at all classes all the time. Stop judging others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are you attending a sensory class? Does you kid have sensory issues? If not, it is like looking for something to be wrong at such a young age. Your child is fine, let your child run around and play, it will be more beneficial than sitting around and learning colors. We lived in Africa when my kids were young, DS was super active and I was super proud, he could out jump and outrun other kids. And he could catch a fly from behind with his forefinger and a thumb! No joke. Couldn't read until, ehh. who cares, he can read now. Think how lucky your DS is that his mom is with him and not his nanny.

OP here. No, DS doesn't have any sensory issues. It is a great and very fun class. And this nanny was better and more devoted to the child than half of the mothers in the class.

So sorry to hear that your son was slow. That must have been hard for him.

WTF, OP?! Did you even read the PP?

Her son was not slow, and your son likely isn't either. Kids don't develop at the same pace.

I think you're actually the nanny trolling and wanting a pat on your back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't care if my child is a genius, I just don't want him to be behind!

So there was a little girl, 17 months old (same age as my son), in a sensory class we took yesterday. The kids are days apart in age, with my son being six days older. The teacher put out all these stretchy worms for the kids to play with. The little girl's nanny asked the little girl to please hand her a blue worm and the little girl looked around and handed her the blue worm. Then the nanny did the same with all the colors and the girl didn't get one wrong!

I am not sure if my son even knows what colors are.

I am happy for the child if she is advanced. I am not happy if my little guy is behind!

Have you been trying to teach him colors? To be honest, your son sounds behind where my kids were but probably not behind developmentally. I'm surprised if you're so concerned about him being behind other kids that you're not at least talking to him about colors, even just in your daily life.