Men, how did you decide which person you wanted to marry?

[Anonymous]

Let's say including your wife, there were a very small number of women you dated where it was serious enough to consider marriage. Be honest, why did you pick your wife and not the others?

[Anonymous]

I came from a very poor family and she is an earner. I wanted to change my family tree

[Anonymous]

We had been very good friends for over three years before we ever dated so I really got to know her as a person before she became my GF. She was a better friend than the women I dated during that period. Once we got together it was pretty clear to both of us that it was going to be serious. And it helped that the sex was great.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I came from a very poor family and she is an earner. I wanted to change my family tree

Hi honey!

[Anonymous]

There were not others. I met my wife in grad school and I knew she was the one. She's pretty and has a sweet personality. She's a SAHM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I came from a very poor family and she is an earner. I wanted to change my family tree

Hi honey!

There is no way that is a surprise to you. Money was/is what set you apart from the rest

[Anonymous]

She was just different. She challenged my perceptions about everything and made me think...but it was always fun.

[Anonymous]

She was one of the few I dated who was both more attractive and smarter than I. I wanted my kids to have a head start. Plus she was Asian -- I had a yellow-fever thing going on. Still do.

Also, many of my former girlfriends had drinking problems or developed them in the course of our relationship. She never drank much.

[Anonymous]

She had her shit together, and we agreed on so many fundamental values and life goals. The whole relationship was just "easy", from the get-go. We are not perfectly compatible, but we don't have to do 100% of everything together, and our differences provide some healthy balance for the kids.

[Anonymous]

She was the first woman that let me PIIHB

[Anonymous]

Common values, goals, life outlooks, etc. I knew I could trust her in a crisis.

[Anonymous]

Right place right time. Had I met her in my early 20s, it would have fizzled before I was serious. She is a great person, great mother, great personality and we are going strong 11 years later.

[Anonymous]

I didn't pick. We started dating, total random chance, and we kept going. Should we have stopped?

She did however operate differently from older women nowadays. She showed up, and kept showing up, and that's 80% of success, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She was one of the few I dated who was both more attractive and smarter than I. I wanted my kids to have a head start. Plus she was Asian -- I had a yellow-fever thing going on. Still do.

Also, many of my former girlfriends had drinking problems or developed them in the course of our relationship. She never drank much.

This sounds like my DH. He wanted his kids to have beauty and intelligence genes. LOL. Helps that we had same principles, goals and outlook in life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She was one of the few I dated who was both more attractive and smarter than I. I wanted my kids to have a head start. Plus she was Asian -- I had a yellow-fever thing going on. Still do.

Also, many of my former girlfriends had drinking problems or developed them in the course of our relationship. She never drank much.

What did you do to drive them to drink?