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| How much time do you have to yourself each week without kids/husband? Do you have a set time that is devoted to yourself (not counting time at work)? I have an 8mo DD and wanted to maybe do something regularly for myself. I'm not talking about a day at the spa or anything fancy like that. My husband is all for it, but if I haven't planned anything then I end up spending time with him and DD, which is fine too. |
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| Saturday morning. I usually leave the house around 9am to get my nails done and go to mall for shopping. And then, have tea or coffee with my favorite book for half an hour or so, and then head back home by 1-2pm. While I'm out, my husband and my 6 yrs old vacume the house, eat breakfast together and play with legos or shoot hoops outside. In summertime, they mow the lawn or go to pool. They use that time to go get haircut together. |
zumbamama
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| one hour...and with a group of sweaty women getting down! I'll get two hours next month! |
Anonymous
Is that one hour a month? A week? And for people who take that time, when do you do it and who is with the kids (if not your DH)? (Sorry if that seems like a thread hijack OP. I have the same question and wondered about execution). |
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| I meant one hour a week. DH watches the kids while I Zumba, my mom when I occasionally go to a fitness/dance workshop. And I guess you could also count my pilates & yoga classes that I take on my lunch break during business hours. DH offers to watch the kids if I want to go shopping by myself, but I still often take the littlest one, as I work FT, and don't have many daytime bonding hours with her during the week. It has been a long, long time since I've had complete solitude, but I suppose that will change when the kids get older. |
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| I usually go out on the weekends during her naptime (1-4) shopping (browsing). I pick that time so my husband can relax (read the paper, surf, nap). I always feel rushed though and the problem with afternoons is everyone is already out! I also took a walk ALONE for the first time last night for 30 minutes. No music, just the wind. It was so refreshing. I want to do that more often. I would probably rather pick the mornings for leaving, then come home and relax more during nap time! |
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| I do yoga once a week and take an hour or two to hang out/jog with girlfriends once a week. Oh, and I try to jog by myself 2 other times a week (30 min). Doesn't matter when the baby's nap schedule is...my husband's a big boy and he can handle his own son for a couple of hours on the weekend or half an hour in the mornign so I can get my exercise in. Now that I'm done BFing, my best friend and I are planning a girl's weekend in April. Sometimes the yoga or jog doesn't happen, but I definitely try to plan something. |
Anonymous
| I pretend that I am having stomach issues and hide out in the bathroom for a 1/2 hour with a good book. |
Anonymous
Ha Ha! I have definitely done the same! Or I say I need to take a bath and I take the looooongest bath and read etc. while I am in there! Or I run to the store for a few things - and then once I am out - I just take my time. I drive in the car and listen to the radio or stop at Starbucks for a little while! |
Anonymous
I read an entire novel that way. I really get time in the evenings after the kids go to bed, and all my chores have been done. It is often that I don't go to sleep until one or two, but I get to sleep until seven or eight. |
Anonymous
That is so funny! One time, I admit, I "faked" not feeling well so I could just veg in bed for the day. It just guaranteed that no one would knock down my door with trivial t hings. I needed a break. Other times, though, I go to the gym 3x a week. DH walks in and I walk out. He gets to do bath/nighttime and he loves it. I try and get out with my girlfriends at least once a month. Dinner, movie, etc. You HAVE to make this time. It keeps me sane! |
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| I take a 3 hour language class once a week at night while DH watches our son. I also do pilates for an hour once a week and try to go to the gym a couple more times for half an hour. I do have a friend who hires a babystter once a week for 4 hours and goes out by herself which I think is a great idea. |
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I want to be married to your husband. Maybe he has a brother? 
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I horseback-ride every Saturday morning for 3 hours (husband watches our two small kids). I deserve it. I love it. And it keeps me sane and fun to be around.
While that is my only "designated" me-time... I do try to sneak in 30 minutes here or there. I work too, so, while that's not "me" time... it certainly is "time away from the kids" -- which I think counts for something. |
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I think of me time as sane mom time. And believe me, my family feels the difference when I don't have any. A couple of ideas:
1) My husband and I switch off on the weekends to make sure we EACH get me time (he needs it too!). I am a SAHM, but he works long hours all week. So he may play tennis Sat a.m. and I may workout, or sit in a coffee shop or shop for a few hours one day on the weekend. We try to talk about what we want the weekend to look like by midweek. That way no surprises and we each feel like we got some time to ourselves. 2) I do hire a sitter for two afternoons during the week. A luxury I realize. 3) When I was working, I did takes lunches. Many working moms do not. But I found myself more efficient if I worked out or even just sat in a cafe by myself or with a friend for an hour. 4) after bedtime is great me time. I know you are likely tired right now, but soon baby should be sleeping well and don't let DC back in your bed down the road, my friends that do, seem to be so tired! Anyway, once, sleep is well established and you are caught up, you have many hours in the evening to yourself (aim for 7 bed time for DC) 5) Don't save your "chores" for evening. So much can be done even when children are awake. Throw in the load of laundry, take it to the play room/area to fold, etc. Do as much as you can during the day to free up your nights! 6) I take a girls only weekend at least once a year and my husband does the same 7) we are fortunate to have great grandparent babysitters, so we take a trip as a couple once a year, as well and make sure to get alone time as well as couple time! Best of luck to you! ! |