My child will just not respond to no. I want to cry.
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Anonymous
| My 5 year old can't handle no and he hears it all the time. He hits us still when we turn off the tv. He can't be stopped from doing basic things like pouring out water from the bath or hitting my parents' dog.i can't stop him from doing things unless I physically remove him. He's a big kid. Can't do this anymore. He's got ADHD and delays. Not sure if this is a product of the delays. I though impulsivity but we've medicate shim he seems calmer and he still just can't take no for an answer. He is honestly impossible. We have done behavioral therapy. I'm so frustrated. I'm also just sad because he's almost 5.5 and it's just clear he's not getting better. He's just not. |
Anonymous
| Autism? |
Anonymous
| Also before someone chimes in I tell him what to do, do time in, positive reinforcement and try to be calm and loving. |
Anonymous
I don't know. Maybe? We've seen a Dev ped. Nobody has ever suggested it. But maybe? Did it look like this for anyone else? |
Anonymous
Anecdotally, since I'm not a psychologist or therapist. I am in close contact with two young children on the spectrum, and they do not react to a verbal "no", but instead need lots of physical, touch, guidance. Other posters will likely have more in-depth knowledge. |
Anonymous
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No is just a word. You need repercussions that go along with no to make it meaningful.
Maybe you are going too positive and he doesn't feel there are any reasons to listen to you. Positive reinforcement is great but honestly I find a mix of mostly positive and the rare but clear negative is much more effective. |
Anonymous
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A lot of people speak highly of this approach and workshops.
http://www.livesinthebalance.org/parents-families |
Anonymous
He needs constant supervision and immediate consequences when he does something. If he pours water out of the bath, you rinse him and take him out. If he hits the dog, he goes into time out (even if it takes 2 hours the first dozen or so times - nanny style). Its best to catch them before they do it and redirect but that is not always possible and he needs consequences. You may want to try ABA. |
Anonymous
| OP - is he in school? how are things there? |
Anonymous
| We do aba. He has an iep and is in pep. It was going well and recently it has not been. |
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Take Dr. Hackney's class in VA or Dr. Shapiro's class in MD or DC.
Read the Kazdin Method. You reinforce behavior through positive reinforcement. If your child pets the dog, you praise your child. Try also time in with your kid. At least 15 minutes a day of doing what he wants to play. Your kid's trying to get your attention and he's getting it even if it's negative. |
Anonymous
Is something happening at school or home (even with you where he is picking up the stress) and acting out? Also, we have had growth spurts (child is also developmentally delayed) where things get worse for a while and then everything improves and gets much better. Hang in there. 5 is a rough age. |
Anonymous
I do This all this. Going mad. |
Anonymous
| The book Parenting the Strong Willed Child by Rex Forehand changed my life. I highly recommend it. |
Anonymous
It isn't working for your kid. Try a different method than P+. Kids don't read parenting books, you need to adjust to your child. If it doesn't work, scrap it an and do something else. --poster who suggested positive and negative reinforcement |