| We pay for a lot of what my 12 yo DD wants, mostly because she has no money. It's not that she doesn't save, she just doesn't acquire it in the first place. We don't give a weekly allowance, we're not really that organized, plus we have 2 younger kids. She'd love to babysit, but doesn't know where to begin + there aren't many kids in our neighborhood. Sometimes it's a pain that she doesn't have money because she's very into theatre and wants to see shows at the Kennedy Center all the time. How do your teens get money? |
| Working, babysitting, or allowance. It sounds like you're not supporting her in any of those areas. |
| She only gets a dollar a week in allowance so really just saves. Her mom randomly gives her money. Her grandmother gives money for birthdays. She babysat once. |
| We give them money. My parents gave me money, in a poor country too, and we are doing the same. We don't give them a ton of money, but if they are going to movies or to eat, we just give them for what they need. That is what most other parents that I know do. I know several teens who work, and then in the same family have a younger teen who doesn't work and I see mom paying for the younger teen(often a girl) at the same store her older works at. Both are of age that they could work. I found that unfair and I wonder how they balance how much they themselves give to their older child. My DH worked since he was 6 years old, paper route weekly, then daily, then added working at a store, and started working in construction around 17, and I think he was so tired by the age of 18, that he is overcompensating with our kids. We do have money, and maybe we are making a mistake. |
Of course your 12 year old doesn't have money. If you can afford it, I would encourage you to pay for theater, to me that falls under education and cultural expereince. There is nothing better than a kid who loves going to a play and is into arts. She is not asking for Hunter's boots every month, so see how much you can afford and encourage her to pursue her passion in art. |
| She gets a monthly allowance, birthday gifts, Christmas gifts, and she is doing some tasks at my office to earn money. |
| You aren't really making it easy for her to do anything at all, and that's on you, not her. If you aren't organized enough to give here an allowance, pay for the shows yourself. They are educational and you should be supporting her love of the arts, so there's no reason for you to not pay for those shows at all. Encourage her to go see the shows! Also, why can't she watch her siblings to earn some money? Do some work around the house? You need to step it up as parents and give her opportunities to earn some money at this age. And you need to get your own acts together as parents and get more organized on the allowance front. Stop making excuses for yourselves! |
| MY 12 & 13 yr olds get $5/week allowance, can earn additional $ via extra chores. 13 yr old DS worked as a volunteer staff at a camp last summer and we paid him $50/week for that since if he hadn't gotten the job we'd have been paying a lot more for him to go to camp. He also just got a job to watch a neighbor's 3rd grader for a couple hours after school each day for a few days a week |
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My kids get a dollar for their age. So my 7 yr old gets $7/week and my 10 yr old gets $10/week.
Each kid has a Capital One 360 account and I have a regular Capita One account. I set their allowance up as an automatic weekly transfer. If we're out and they want something, I buy it and transfer the money from their account to my account. My 10yr old also gets jobs as a mothers helper through our synagogue, the pool, and generally helping out with kids in public settings like school functions. Parents watch her take care of their little one and ask her if she wants a job. |
| My kids get an allowance- 25 cents per year. Right now, I pay for their clothes, but as they get older, I'll put them on a clothing/monthly allowance.. I pay extra for chores I hate doing- DD9 cleans the bathroom if she wants extra money |
Are you joking? Do you actually go through the ritual of giving them allowance that is 25 cents per year? |
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12 years is a great age for dog walking. I pay the 12 year old next door $10 to walk my dog when she gets home from school for 15 minutes. She also dog sits for $25-30 a day when we're out of town.
We've paid the neighbors kids (different ones) for snow shoveling, mulching, pulling weeds, mowing lawns. I want a babysitter to be a bit older and at least 15, but babysitters make $15 an hour in this area. If your daughter wants jobs, she should flyer the neighborhood mail boxes. I've seen this in my neighborhood and I GLADLY call when it's a teen. Post the prices on the flyer. I've always wondered why the boy scouts don't do this instead of delivering us mulch (why don't they offer to spread it for cash instead)? |
I'm pretty sure this pp means 25 cents x 12 years of age= $3. |
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You sound not only ADHD, but very strange, OP. And we are an ADHD family!
If you don't give her money, and don't help her find work opportunities, why are you expecting her to pay her way to very expensive entertainment? We don't do allowances, so we pay for our tweens. We are not rich enough to go to the Kennedy Center except if we receive comp tickets from the kids' music school. |
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We give an allowance. They get half their age until they are 15. I got a job at 15, so when they turn 15 they can babysit, lifeguard or do other things to earn money. Our older DD is 10yrs and receives $5 a week other DD is 8yrs and receives $4 a week. We encourage them to save half but we leave it up to them to decide. Sometimes they will say that they want to go to the credit union to deposit money they have saved.
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