Thank You Notes for Child With Writing Disability

[Anonymous]

DD who is 13 just had a Bar Mitzvah this past weekend. She has a disability such that she cannot write - uses a computer in school, etc.

How should we handle thank-you notes? I fear it will look rude if we send people a typed out thank-you note.

Has anyone dealt with this etiquette challenge, and if so, how?

[Anonymous]

Type written is fine - my DS with writing issues always types his thank you notes - totally appropriate and much better than not doing it all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD who is 13 just had a Bar Mitzvah this past weekend. She has a disability such that she cannot write - uses a computer in school, etc.

How should we handle thank-you notes? I fear it will look rude if we send people a typed out thank-you note.

Has anyone dealt with this etiquette challenge, and if so, how?

Will be following this as DS also doesn't write and only uses a computer.

[Anonymous]

Another vote for type-written. If she can sign her name, that's plenty.

[Anonymous]

Type written is what we did- DC signed at the bottom and then it was very clear as to why he typed the rest of the notes.

[Anonymous]

Our DS, who struggled with handwriting in the early grades, always typed his and then we would import fun clipart or put stickers on them and he would print his own name. I had him write every word so the "voice" of the letter was definitely his own, and we stayed away from form letters. His friends always loved getting the mail and felt appreciated.

[Anonymous]

I have several severe learning disabilities and a couple affect my handwriting. Many people got crooked thank you notes from me. Nobody said a word.

[Anonymous]

How about ordering some pretty personalized paper and envelopes and have her type the thank you notes on those. Make sure each note says something personal to the receiver.

[Anonymous]

OP - don't overthink it. Typing is fine.

And congratulations to your daughter!

[Anonymous]

Get printed cards and have her sign her name. C

[Anonymous]

I think if the note is personalized and not a form, people would think nothing of it being typed.

Also, for a child with a similar issue who is a bit younger we take videos on our phone of him opening gifts and thanking the person to send to them-no writing required and people love seeing him open the gifts!

[Anonymous]

My son with illegible handwriting typed his and signed by hand. It made it easier in another way - while each was personalized the format was similar, which shortened the task (Thank you for the _____. I like it because _____. Etc).

[Anonymous]

Typing is absolutely fine as long as the message is personalized. If you are afraid of a particular judgmental busybody jerk, have DD pay extra attention to what she says in her typed note.

"Dear Auntie Jerkface,

It means so much to me that you, Uncle Twat, and cousin Dickface celebrated my bat mitzvah with me and supported me every step of the way. The crystal unicorn figurine you gave me is so beautiful. It sits on my desk, and I think of you every time I look at it. It reminds me of all the wonderful Seders you hosted over the years. I'll never forget how much much it was to see Dickface dance with my camp friends.

Love, Petunia"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Typing is absolutely fine as long as the message is personalized. If you are afraid of a particular judgmental busybody jerk, have DD pay extra attention to what she says in her typed note.

"Dear Auntie Jerkface,

It means so much to me that you, Uncle Twat, and cousin Dickface celebrated my bat mitzvah with me and supported me every step of the way. The crystal unicorn figurine you gave me is so beautiful. It sits on my desk, and I think of you every time I look at it. It reminds me of all the wonderful Seders you hosted over the years. I'll never forget how much much it was to see Dickface dance with my camp friends.

Love, Petunia"

Too much if the child has a writing disability given she had to do dozens. A simple thank you for the gift is plenty. I'd order cards and just have her sign her name.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Typing is absolutely fine as long as the message is personalized. If you are afraid of a particular judgmental busybody jerk, have DD pay extra attention to what she says in her typed note.

"Dear Auntie Jerkface,

It means so much to me that you, Uncle Twat, and cousin Dickface celebrated my bat mitzvah with me and supported me every step of the way. The crystal unicorn figurine you gave me is so beautiful. It sits on my desk, and I think of you every time I look at it. It reminds me of all the wonderful Seders you hosted over the years. I'll never forget how much much it was to see Dickface dance with my camp friends.

Love, Petunia"

Bwahahahahah! Love it!