Looking for someone specific on Tinder

[Anonymous]

Is this possible? I am interested in one person, and I have heard he is on Tinder. I have no other way of meeting him socially. I have never been on dating apps, including Tinder. Thought I would put out a quick question whether it is possible to sign up on Tinder and "find" a specific person. Or is it pretty anonymous and looking for a needle in a haystack? Thanks.

[Anonymous]

Are you actually looking for your husband or boyfriend? Because otherwise, this seems odd. How are you interested in him if you have no chance of ever running into him in person?

[Anonymous]

Interested without a goal in mind; but would love to get married eventually. I know of this person. Friends of friends describe him well. He sounds great and is available. I would not normally have a shot at meeting him socially. Is that really so weird or difficult to understand?

[Anonymous]

Tinder shows you matches based on who is around you, not by specific parameters. So you can sit there for hours on end, swiping left on everyone who isn't this person, until you find them. But chances are, Tinder may never even show you that person. There's no guarantee he will ever show up in your matches, even if you narrow down your age group to specifically his age (and that's if he was honest about his age on his Facebook profile, which is where Tinder pulls info from). There's also no guarantee he used his real Facebook profile to sign up for Tinder. I created a secondary Facebook profile that isn't searchable and contains no info or images. I then add in my pics and info through the Tinder app, but I still have to have it linked to some Facebook account.

So yes, it's looking for a needle in a haystack, with no guarantee that the specific needle you are looking for will ever show up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Interested without a goal in mind; but would love to get married eventually. I know of this person. Friends of friends describe him well. He sounds great and is available. I would not normally have a shot at meeting him socially. Is that really so weird or difficult to understand?

So ask someone to set you up?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Interested without a goal in mind; but would love to get married eventually. I know of this person. Friends of friends describe him well. He sounds great and is available. I would not normally have a shot at meeting him socially. Is that really so weird or difficult to understand?

Not the PP, but yes, this is weird to understand. If friends of friends know him, they can set you up. Let's say he somehow shows up on Tinder - there's no guarantee he will swipe right on you, so again, there's no guarantee you will have a shot at him on there either. If you can't get your friends of friends to set you up, there's a really good chance you won't end up magically finding each other and swiping right on each other on Tinder. Also, fwiw, Tinder is mainly a hook up app. Not a would love to marry this f#@k buddy eventually app. Your approach sounds pretty bats#!t crazy.

[Anonymous]

This is all very helpful. I just didn't know anything at all about Tinder. Clearly not the way to go to meet this dude. THanks, everyone.

[Anonymous]

Just put his age as your range and limit "miles away" and you should be able to find him.

[Anonymous]

Okay, so he is some big shot or celebrity type, which is why you can't ask your "friends of friends" to set you up.

Yes?

[Anonymous]

There are millions of "great, available" men in the world.

Hint: Tinder can show some of them to you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tinder shows you matches based on who is around you, not by specific parameters. So you can sit there for hours on end, swiping left on everyone who isn't this person, until you find them. But chances are, Tinder may never even show you that person. There's no guarantee he will ever show up in your matches, even if you narrow down your age group to specifically his age (and that's if he was honest about his age on his Facebook profile, which is where Tinder pulls info from). There's also no guarantee he used his real Facebook profile to sign up for Tinder. I created a secondary Facebook profile that isn't searchable and contains no info or images. I then add in my pics and info through the Tinder app, but I still have to have it linked to some Facebook account.

So yes, it's looking for a needle in a haystack, with no guarantee that the specific needle you are looking for will ever show up.

NP, Thanks for the tips.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Interested without a goal in mind; but would love to get married eventually. I know of this person. Friends of friends describe him well. He sounds great and is available. I would not normally have a shot at meeting him socially. Is that really so weird or difficult to understand?

You would love to get married to him eventually? Is that what you are saying...??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Interested without a goal in mind; but would love to get married eventually. I know of this person. Friends of friends describe him well. He sounds great and is available. I would not normally have a shot at meeting him socially. Is that really so weird or difficult to understand?

You would love to get married to him eventually? Is that what you are saying...??

No.. don't know this guy! Would want to get married eventually - as an abstraction.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Interested without a goal in mind; but would love to get married eventually. I know of this person. Friends of friends describe him well. He sounds great and is available. I would not normally have a shot at meeting him socially. Is that really so weird or difficult to understand?

You would love to get married to him eventually? Is that what you are saying...??

I also have to agree that the first sentence sounds odd...

[Anonymous]

Would anyone else be really creeped out if a stranger wanted to get married and stalked them on Tinder?