Comment my fiance made

[Anonymous]

We are recently engaged, been together 3 years. We were cuddling on the couch watching tv and chatting.

I said to him "why do you want to marry me?" I was sort of expecting some cute, I love you, you make me happy, I love being with you etc...
He said "it's the right thing to do"
I said, "what do you mean?"
He said " all of the puzzle pieces fit together"

This bothered me. I didn't say much, just "oh..."
That was the end of the conversation, and I haven't brought it up since. But it is weighing on my mind.

Am I overthinking his response?

[Anonymous]

If you're otherwise happy and compatible, then...yes.

[Anonymous]

This sounds like a business transaction rather than love.

[Anonymous]

WTF OP. What he said was sweet. Men think more logically than women. They rationalize big decisions like marriage. You complete the puzzle. Everything fits with you. He's not trying to make it work, it works because it's right. Good Lord you're dense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:WTF OP. What he said was sweet. Men think more logically than women. They rationalize big decisions like marriage. You complete the puzzle. Everything fits with you. He's not trying to make it work, it works because it's right. Good Lord you're dense.

+1. For him, this was an easy decision therefore it's right.

[Anonymous]

That seems sweet to me!

[Anonymous]

If you're reluctant to ask him directly about it, then you and he don't communicate as well as an engaged couple should communicate.

Tell him his puzzle comment was, well, puzzling. Admit that you might be overthinking it but ask.

Some men are just lousy at answering "Why do you want to marry me/why do you love me" etc. questions. If he's not demonstrative enough, you need to talk with him about what you would like regarding demonstrativeness. You've been together three years already and that seems long enough that you and he should be able to talk through something like that comment and get it off the table.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:WTF OP. What he said was sweet. Men think more logically than women. They rationalize big decisions like marriage. You complete the puzzle. Everything fits with you. He's not trying to make it work, it works because it's right. Good Lord you're dense.

What about the {it was the right thing to do} part??? Sounds like he did it just because he was running out of options

[Anonymous]

"all of the puzzle pieces fit together" = his peepee, your hoohah

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This sounds like a business transaction rather than love.

+100

[Anonymous]

Oy. I vote overthinking.

[Anonymous]

youre over thinking it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:WTF OP. What he said was sweet. Men think more logically than women. They rationalize big decisions like marriage. You complete the puzzle. Everything fits with you. He's not trying to make it work, it works because it's right. Good Lord you're dense.

This, minus the "WTF." Because I wouldn't have said that.

[Anonymous]

He could have said "I love you, it's the right thing to do because all of the puzzle pieces fit together." Maybe that would have sounded better. Because he first said "it's the right thing to do" it feels unemotional and makes me wonder if he truly loves you.

Op, you should make sure this feels right to you and that you feel his love for you. The stage of getting engaged is all romance and fun and want to be with each other all the time. I hope this is how you both feel.

Good luck Op!

[Anonymous]

Okay, in movie chick flick terms, what he said was "You complete me."

Does that make it make more sense?