WWYD? FB message from 2nd cousin
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Anonymous
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My mom's family is full of drama and dysfunction. My mother was an addict and alcoholic and died of an OD 7 years ago. My grandmother was abused by my heroin addicted uncle and died after he beat her up. My uncle died of an overdose two years later. Another uncle is prison at the ripe old age of 79 because he was a drug dealer. The remainder of the family is not as sick, but also have their issues with mental health, pot farming and drug dealing. They are all of out state in Arkansas. We were not close when I was a kid, but we took my grandmother to see her sisters every summer for a week. I have not been in contact with the rest of the family since my mother's death.
This week I received a message on Facebook from a second cousin on that side of the family. Her brother died about 8 months ago from cancer. She said that she "just found something out" that she needs to tell me and asked me to call her. It all sounded very dramatic and mysterious. What would you do? I am sorry for her for the loss of her brother. He was young - late 40s. Most of the rest of the family (my grandma and her sisters, her mother and father) is dead, except for the cousins. At the same time, the entire family is crazy and drama prone. The less we are around each other the less the drama. I don't want to get sucked into some ridiculous family stuf when I have worked very hard to create a calm, healthy family environment for my kids. |
Anonymous
| Ignore. It's a ploy to drag you into the mess. |
Anonymous
| Walk away. Nothing but trouble. |
Anonymous
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She needs to tell you that she has some fabulous Lularoe that no one else will buy, but will look perfect on you.
Ignore. |
Anonymous
| I would probably make the phone call because I am curious like that. However, I would just listen and not necessarily believe her or commit to anything if she has requests. It could be something important like genetic cancer link or something. Of course, it could be nothing at all. Who knows. |
Anonymous
| I wouldn't call as my own mess of an extended family says shit like that all the time. Shocker, the big secret they just found out is always that they're broke and need me to give them money. |
Anonymous
Right! Ignore it. Or tell her she can message you if she must, but you won't be calling her. I wouldn't want her to have my number, and I'd like the option to block her if need be. |
Anonymous
| She found out that you were switched at birth. Which is why you have nothing in common with any of them. |
Anonymous
| She could have serious health issues too. Call, tell her you're really busy and don't have much time to talk, but were concerned about her. If it turns out to be drama, you have an out for cutting it short. If it turns out to be real, you'll be able to find out. |
Anonymous
| I don't know how Facebook works but can't you private message or email someone? I sure as hell wouldn't want her to have my number. It's harder to refuse someone over the phone when they ask for money. |
Anonymous
+1 She can tell you in a private message or email. Don't give her your phone number. If she pushes back, it's obviously drama/wanting something, not a legitimate important matter. |
Anonymous
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OP here. I will PM her on Facebook but not call. I was checking to see if I was being a total bitch.
Thanks! |
Anonymous
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She needs money.
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Anonymous
| I would ignore. If she really wanted to communicate something to you, she would simply do so without being coy. |
Anonymous
| I would ignore it, and block her on FB. |