Do you allow cursing??

[Anonymous]

My parents absolutely did NOT... I wasn't even allowed to say "freaking" or some other "substitute words". I barely curse in front of them now in my 30's.

13-YO step-DS dropped the F-bomb in a text to a friend this morning (they come through to our iPad but we rarely look at them/snoop, this one popped up as I was on the iPad...) and she's been getting a little too comfortable with saying things like, "what the hell" or "damn" when she's at our house. I fully acknowledge that I'm uptight when I say that I think it's very unladylike to say the f-word (not that I like it when boys/men say it, either...) but is this just a thing kids do now, they curse in front of parents/adults?? I've given up on enforcing things like, "you can't curse at our house" on my step-DS, my DH doesn't seem to care so why bother, but just curious how others feel.

[Anonymous]

I don't allow it. My parents were the same as yours.

[Anonymous]

Kids are aged 10-13 (boys). I technically don't allow it but DH cusses like a sailor in front of the them (which I'm very unhappy about, but that's another story). I know my son's friends use words like "asshole" so I assume he does, too, but he knows I don't want to hear it out of his mouth. I pretty much tell them that the adults around them don't want to hear garbage coming out of them but I obviously can't control what's said when adults aren't around. I'm sure the texts are loaded with expletives, but I don't read them. They generally don't say things like "damn" and "hell" in front of me but it's probably a different story when I'm not around.

[Anonymous]

I don't allow it at home but I don't supervise every communication with friends. There's just no way to do that. I reiterate all the time that people who pepper their conversations with curse words are just being lazy with vocabulary. Teach lots of great words to use to convey strong emotion. (At a certain point, they are definitely going to use it with friends. But they need to know it's absolutely not appropriate around adults.)

[Anonymous]

My mom cursed like a sailor but we were never allowed to. I'm 46 and dont curse in front of my parents. Every great once in a while I'll slip up. No cursing in my house.

[Anonymous]

I allowed it. Kind of like the match thing. You light fires in front of me so you won't do it in public.

[Anonymous]

My 15 year old swears at home. An F bomb gets him "the look" and he apologizes.

"What the hell?" or "Damn it" aren't something I'm going to worry about. He doesn't do it in front of his Grandmother. We learned with our first that there can be much bigger fish to fry, and chose a different route with this one. This is also the worst he does.. that and procrastinate on chores.

[Anonymous]

I know DD 14 curses with friends. I think at home it's not a huge offense. I don't want her to curse in front of teachers or other adults.

I'm more upset about her saying "like" too much.

[Anonymous]

Ughhhhh don't even get me started on the "like"...

[Anonymous]

i don't allow cursing. I don't curse in front of my son. And he does not curse at home. That's the way I grew up and I liked it then, and I like raising my son the same way. I'm sure he will curse with friends as I do at times. But it's good to learn that there are places where cursing is ok and places where it isn't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:i don't allow cursing. I don't curse in front of my son. And he does not curse at home. That's the way I grew up and I liked it then, and I like raising my son the same way. I'm sure he will curse with friends as I do at times. But it's good to learn that there are places where cursing is ok and places where it isn't.

+1 And my dh curses a lot when the kids aren't around. He's never slipped in front of the kids, which is shocking. Oldest is 16 and I'm sure he does it once in awhile with his friends, but not much bc he mentions that some of them curse a lot and that it sounds stupid.

[Anonymous]

In front of us and other adults, anything more strong than a damm gets the look but I don't pay any attention to what they say to their friends, in person or by text/snapchat. Most adults curse occasionally but understand the difference between saying shit while hanging with friends on a Saturday versus cursing at work or using F**K every other word in conversation. Teens learn this difference too.

[Anonymous]

Yes my teen is allowed to curse but chooses not to, he went through a phase in MS where all he did was curse. He is always asking DH to stop his bad language.

[Anonymous]

I allow my child to say "jerk" or "asshole" at home. We talk about why those words are inappropriate to use at school or with his friends and he completely gets it. I guess I feel like allowing him this release every once in a while reduced the chances of him using it at school.

[Anonymous]

My little ones curse appropriately, not at each other. Don't allow the word bitch, but everything else is fair play.

I caught DS saying "shit shit shit" while putting together a lego man. It tickled me.

They can't curse outside of the house though and never at school. Also, the words aren't directed at people. Not cool. Well, except their absentee dad, whom they refer to as an asshole. Fine by me. I call him a piece of shit, so to each their own.

Flame away, y'all.