why does 5 months feel like an ETERNITY when it's with ART?
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Anonymous
| I did 1 IVF and 2 FET cycles in the last 5 months, all a bust. It feels like we've been trying FOREVER, and it's only been 5 months. UGH. Does time seem to be SUPER intensely long when you're trying with IVF/FET, rather than just timed intercourse, or do couples who try naturally for 5 months also feel like it's been forever. Fortunately, we weren't trying before IVF, because I knew we had to do IVF because my husband had testicular cancer and we froze his sperm, so this is our first 5 months of trying, so it's not like IVF on top of naturally TTC and IUI and all that, but still ARGH. |
Anonymous
| Two plus years here trying for #2. Yes. It feels like an eternity, especially when you have to start back at square one. |
Anonymous
| PP, how old is your first DC? ugh sorry re: 2 years. I guess I shouldnt complain re: 5 months. but it's been so intense. |
Anonymous
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He will be 4 in May. We are a same sex couple (and DW and I both post on here with some frequency). In retrospect, he was a miracle. DW and I use a known donor and tried at home using AI for about a year. After that, we moved to IUI - six IUIs later, nothing. Then she got accepted into an IVF clinical trial in NYC, did one round of mini IVF as part of the trial, which yielded one embryo - our son. Since then we've had three losses, one in second trimester (just passed the two year anniversary of that loss and I had a rough time with it). We've also had a few failed cycles (nothing making it to blast, two failed FETs). Currently doing one last cycle at Cornell using Dr. Braverman's immune protocol in conjunction with normal IVF meds. This is our last attempt that insurance will cover so we are throwing everything at this - joined a gym, doing meditation, all the holistic stuff along with the RE/RI stuff. This cycle we've both tried to stay very present and involved in the day to day without looking too far ahead. We are focusing a lot on ourselves and our son. Haven't even calculated what due date would be, how far apart this baby would be from DS, etc. if she gets a BFP.
Yes, it's a tough road, but we're hoping that our story will have a happy ending. Good luck to you as you keep going as well. |
Anonymous
| I think it always seems long. That darn 2ww too |
Anonymous
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I think it's all relative. It'll be four years in March for us, starting with timed intercourse for six months...and then a bunch of testing for six months, and then three IUI cycles. Then four IVF cycles and a miscarriage within a year. And I'm now in a the post transfer wait on a PGS-tested DE FET. Which took nine months start-to-transfer, thanks to more testing, hoops to jump through, etc.
All I can think about now is how happy I will be to be done with this, no matter the outcome. The limbo is the worst, no matter how long you've been in the thick of it. |
Anonymous
Adding to my post. Didn't mean this to sound like a pity party! Or the bad luck Olympics! Just wanted to say that the waiting ALWAYS sucks, and doesn't get any easier. I'm counting the hours until I POAS on Tuesday. I'm there with ya, and wish you the best of luck. |
Anonymous
| Yes! We're on a break due to work/travel and can't try again until July and I'm going crazy already. So over it. |
Anonymous
| Op here: you guys think back to back is better going forward than breaks? For me personally a break would drive me more crazy... |
Anonymous
I'm the PP on a break. I usually like to take a month off in between attempts. I'm 30 so I have some time. That said, I've been trying for two years without a single BFP and I'm losing my mind. |
Anonymous
| NP here: I don't take breaks. Go back to back with fresh or FET. it helps me to "stay in the game" |
Anonymous
| Yes - it felt like FOREVER. It was two years for us between starting to try to get pregnant and actually getting pregnant (1 year of TTC naturally, 1 year of IVF). That two years took what felt like forever. Fast forward and now my DD is 1 and it was the fastest year ever and the months fly by. So hang in there - it feels like FOREVER when you have the whole "hurry up and wait" of IVF/FET's looming over you. |
Anonymous
| I hope it's not insensitive to post about a pregnancy/birth. I recently had a baby after 2 years and 7, I think, IVF cycles (the last one was donor egg and that worked). Now that the baby is here, several people have said things like, "I know it was a tough road to get here, but if you think about it, it was just two years." Those two years were the longest of my life, though. Good luck to everyone. What you're doing is hard. Thinking about you. |
Anonymous
| pp what made the 7th cycle different? |
Anonymous
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Yes, it is so hard to hurry up and wait, fail, analyze the failure, wait to start again, cycle, hurry up and wait, fail, rinse, repeat....
It's really really hard. We are now a couple of years out from our 2 years of infertility struggles and time definitely helps the stress memories fade, but it's incredibly tough when you're in the thick of it. Good luck OP. |