How to tell a long-time friend you are done with her...
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Anonymous
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We've been friends since grad schools. For the past few years, I feel that any time she shows up is to vent about her personal problems. She brings drama to our family gatherings and plays the "poor me" card all the time. I dread inviting her over. Our DDs are not friends any more because her DD constantly has anxiety any time smth doesn't go her way. She disappears for weeks and only shows up when she needs smth. She doesn't host get togethers. She loves a good freebie. And I am tired of her. I don't have much in common with her despite our history together.
What's the best way to get her off my back? Stop returning her texts or just keep telling her we are busy? DD's birthday is coming up, she already made it clear "Please don't invite Larla." |
Anonymous
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Don't. Go quietly into the night. Stop returning texts, every third one respond with a one word answer if you feel you must. It sounds like she only contacts you when she needs something, so it's not like it will be that often.
Don't make it dramatic or some big announcement, just let it float away. |
Anonymous
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She made it clear "Please don't invite Larla". So don't invite Larla...
What exactly is the dilemma? |
Anonymous
No - OP's daughter asked OP to not invite OP's friend and friend's daughter. It took me two passes to figure that one out. |
Anonymous
| smth? |
Anonymous
"So, when is your DD's birthday party? Larla can't wait to come!" |
Anonymous
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I wonder this too. I was/am extremely upset at my best friend for many things she did over the past year. I really wish I could clear the air and say how disappointed I am and how upset I am that she wasn't there for me. But then the more I think about it, I would only be doing that to try to punish her (not nice).
She never invites me anywhere, but constantly wants to come over for dinner or to go out with my family. Because she's just one person, we always end up paying for her too. It gets old after a while. She's never invited me to dinner even once. I try to just let her drift away, but I am not sure I want that either. Adult friendships are hard. |
Anonymous
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Huh? Just don't reach out to her. Let it go. |
Anonymous
Why is she your best friend? OP, it sounds like your friendship is one sided and the "friend" is using you. Are the two of you in the same social class, maybe one of your is more well off than the other? |
Anonymous
That's going to be hard if the girls are still getting together regularly. If the girls had drifted apart over time and weren't getting together as much that would be better. |
Anonymous
Why don't you two meet for lunch, just the two of you? She pays for her lunch, you pay for your lunch. Maybe go shopping or bowling or for a walk before or afterwards. |
Anonymous
Shit mother tits hell |