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I had a 5dt of a fresh blast yesterday and I can't shake this negative feeling. We had 9, and will maybe freeze 1-2 more (they are letting them grow to day 7).
I really had high hopes for this cycle (my last I only got one blast and it ended in mc). I'm mad at counting myself out already, but can't seem to pull out of this bad feeling. Similar experiences? |
| Hugs, yes. I am not a super optimistic person in other areas of life so I found it easier to just have low expectations (esp. after repeat failed fresh IVFs) and not to build each attampt up in my head and then have a big let down. Whatever you do, do not get mad at yourself, be gentle with yourself, this is a hard and complicated process you're a rockstar for going through with it after a miscarriage. |
| Hi OP. same here. I am the poster who just had two back to back chemical pregnancies with tested embryos. It's hard to know how to be optimistic for the next cycle, but I am one of those people who thinks that negativity can definitely impact the results, so then I Feel guilty for being negative. It's hard because if you lower expectations, you're more prepared, but still disappointed. And also, the more pessimistic you become, the harder it is to imagine it will work |
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Having been there numerous times (7 fertility treatments, 5 fail and 2 success) I can honestly say that I don't think attitude has any impact. I had cycles with great attitudes that didn't work and worked, and the same for cycles where I felt totally resigned and barely made an effort but then was surprised by a positive.
You can be positive, negative, busy, rested, none of it matters. If it is going to implant it will, regardless. So, don't kick yourself for a bad attitude. It's so hard. |
| Thanks. 13:05 poster here. I tell myself that my stress and negativity is impacting the cycle. UGH. |
| OP Here - Had my first beta today. 240! Obviously, tempering my excitement after experiencing a previous loss, but wanted to leave this here for some future person. Even if you are down, you're not out! |
| 13:05 poster. I just got a BfN. So jealous! Congrats Op |
| Congratulations OP! I hope this is the one! |