Yea it’s just squalor and crime and crappy modern floor plans in cheaply built boxy apartment buildings. No “relative” needed |
You’d have made more in PE and FAANG and been retired by now |
Being limited to two children at 200k HHI is a very different discussion than being limited to three at 850k HHI because NYC is a uniquely bad deal in terms of cost for quality of life. No one is saying she should be exempt. What we are saying is that many posters don’t realize an attorney parent in this situation isn’t moving to the ghetto for a 4BR and needs realistic, actionable advice. Telling some partner at Sullivan and Cromwell to move to Astoria is like telling a 5’2 man to dunk a basketball: it’s not going to happen |
1, just starting high school |
That may be right. But I had no idea about those kinds of jobs 30 years ago. I grew up in poverty and since I did well in school, I was encouraged to be a doctor or a lawyer. Those were the paths I always thought were the ticket to a better life. |
Who cares is my point. That is her problem and I have zero sympathy for her |
Then why do you keep chiming in? Why not come out and say “I don’t care about people above X HHI” or be quiet instead of wasting everyone’s time. Best of luck in the poor house |
And I respect that grind. The social backgrounds of big law attorneys tends to be lower than their peers in high finance. That said, I point this out not to be disrespectful but to illustrate for anyone younger to understand their choices. Becoming a big law attorney to live lavishly in nyc is a fools errand. Your only hope, short of inheriting or marrying money, is to start a business or enter high finance or tech and cash out ASAP. |
In don't necessarily disagree with that. Luckily, my daughter will have a much greater head start than I, and will likely be dating and marrying in a different social circle as well. With the money she'll get from us, she can avoid the same grind and still end up with a nice lifestyle. |
The responses absolutely are racist and trying to be elitist on a NYC middle income. First, she’s not rich so she needs to rule out certain areas like the UES or Tribeca. There are neighborhoods in the LES or Washington Heights that would be affordable for her but no one mentions those. The fact that people are saying the diverse neighborhoods in Astoria or Bay Ridge in Brooklyn are simply not fitting for a lawyer can only be racism. |
The biggest problem this woman has isn’t mamdami or housing prices. It’s the beta male who she married. I’m sure not a day goes by where she doesn’t think, how did I get stuck with this broke, unambitious m’fr. |
It’s not actually that she’s so rich I don’t care about her — it’s not like she’s a billionaire or something. It’s that the problem is in her attitude— the entitlement, the desire to live beyond her means. I’m not poor by any measure —I live in a great location, sent my kid to good schools and spend whatever I want—but I still live within my means. Same lesson as in David Copperfield— Annual income twenty pounds, annual expenditure nineteen nineteen and six, result happiness; Annual income twenty pounds, annual expenditure twenty pounds ought and six, result misery. |
Bay ridge is a maga hub, it’s not bushwick. Go recommend white downscale areas and see what they say. It’s not racism. You fetishize minorities. Where will the kids play on the LES? Will they have family dinner at Beuaty and Essex? How are the schools in the Heights (lol)? The UES isn’t that expensive east of Lexington. It’s actually full of recent grads. |
And what’s your income? Much more than 850k? How can you afford it and she cannot with what is a high income anywhere outside of nyc? Somehow I think you’re lying. Just like you didn’t know bay ridge was full of maga whites with some Arabs mixed in. |