OK to give ex-MIL present
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Anonymous
| Is it ok to give a gift to my ex-MIL. After ex and I divorced (no kids), both exMIL and exFIL reassured me that we're still family and they would always love me. It's been almost 4 years. For the first couple of years post divorce we interacted on social media, sent birthday and holiday cards, and letters to each other. When I got remarried, I sent them the announcement and pictures but they never acknowledged it. For the past 2 years our communication has dwindled to random facebook likes. I still think about them fondly often. I just saw the perfect present to give exMIL. I know she will love it, just not sure she will love it form me -- should I sent the gift her way? |
Anonymous
| Keep it to cards. That's enough. More would probably be inappropriate. You should be more focused on your new husband and his family. |
Anonymous
| I think it is a lovely gesture. |
Anonymous
| I think it's very sweet of you. Go for it. |
Anonymous
| In this case I'd probably send it, but it seems they are readily to move on and took your new marriage as a sign you are too. Plus if your ex has someone new it's weird to hang out with ex FIl when there are no kids. |
Anonymous
| Send it sometime during the year and just say it made you think of her, that way she won't feel the need to reciprocate. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
| Has your ex remarried? |
Anonymous
No. I have and now have 2 kids... |
Anonymous
| I'd reach out. When you remarried they may have felt your new DH would be uncomfortable. |
Anonymous
You haven't even been divorced 4 years, and you are already remarried with two kids? I would not send the gift. They have let the relationship fall to the wayside. |
Anonymous
| I would let the relationship go too. The ex MIL's loyalty has to remain with her son. Maybe he asked her to stop communicating with you. |
Anonymous
| No. It's inappropriate. If your ex has remarried then I'm guessing MIL is trying to think about her feelings. |
Anonymous
| Yeah, I would agree with the "no, just stick with cards" camp. It may very well be that, while they understand you have to move on with your life, hearing of your marriage was painful for them, too. |