11yo has a 'pot belly'

[Anonymous]

he's in middle school and possibly one of the largest boys in his grade. do you think he already knows some people (kids/adults) are judging/laughing at him behind his back? i don't want him to develop any complexity but should we talk to him about it anyway to find out whether it bothers him?

[Anonymous]

Is he overweight?

[Anonymous]

If you're the parent, you make sure he eats a healthy diet, gets plenty of exercise and take him to his annual checkup.

[Anonymous]

Tell it like it is: son, your belly is huge. It's unhealthy, unsightly. Do something about it.

First, diet. Have a good diet, not one of those silly fad diets, i.e., non gluten, etc.

[Anonymous]

Diet and exercise. If an 11 year old has a pot belly it's a lack of those two. What sports does he like? Hikes on the weekend and walks at night with the dog are great too.

[Anonymous]

I've seen this in multiple 11-13yo boys, right before a growth spurt. As long as he's eating healthy and is reasonably active, I wouldn't worry too much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell it like it is: son, your belly is huge. It's unhealthy, unsightly. Do something about it.

First, diet. Have a good diet, not one of those silly fad diets, i.e., non gluten, etc.

This post is probably from the mom who got mad at her kid for spending too much money on lunch during a museum field trip. Ignore her. She's a psychotic bitch who is giving her kids a total complex over eating and their weight. Do NOT tell it like it is to your son. Not today, not tomorrow, not ever. You will destroy him and you will destroy your relationship with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell it like it is: son, your belly is huge. It's unhealthy, unsightly. Do something about it.

First, diet. Have a good diet, not one of those silly fad diets, i.e., non gluten, etc.

This post is probably from the mom who got mad at her kid for spending too much money on lunch during a museum field trip. Ignore her. She's a psychotic bitch who is giving her kids a total complex over eating and their weight. Do NOT tell it like it is to your son. Not today, not tomorrow, not ever. You will destroy him and you will destroy your relationship with him.

Bullshit. Far too many people are candyasses like you and look around at all the obesity. For 99.9% of people there is no reason to be fat. You are simply eating more calories than you are using. I know you won't listen and there will be another fat ass who thinks it OK to be fat cause his mommy told him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell it like it is: son, your belly is huge. It's unhealthy, unsightly. Do something about it.

First, diet. Have a good diet, not one of those silly fad diets, i.e., non gluten, etc.

This post is probably from the mom who got mad at her kid for spending too much money on lunch during a museum field trip. Ignore her. She's a psychotic bitch who is giving her kids a total complex over eating and their weight. Do NOT tell it like it is to your son. Not today, not tomorrow, not ever. You will destroy him and you will destroy your relationship with him.

Bullshit. Far too many people are candyasses like you and look around at all the obesity. For 99.9% of people there is no reason to be fat. You are simply eating more calories than you are using. I know you won't listen and there will be another fat ass who thinks it OK to be fat cause his mommy told him.

Way to prove my point about you being a psychotic bitch. Who said anything about obesity being okay? I sure didn't. But there's a wrong way (yours) and a right way to address it - especially with an impressionable child who is going through puberty. I feel sorry for your children that you don't understand this.

[Anonymous]

I notice so many kids these days have guts, even really skinny teens/preteens. I blame corn syrup and hydrogenated oils, but it's just a guess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell it like it is: son, your belly is huge. It's unhealthy, unsightly. Do something about it.

First, diet. Have a good diet, not one of those silly fad diets, i.e., non gluten, etc.

This post is probably from the mom who got mad at her kid for spending too much money on lunch during a museum field trip. Ignore her. She's a psychotic bitch who is giving her kids a total complex over eating and their weight. Do NOT tell it like it is to your son. Not today, not tomorrow, not ever. You will destroy him and you will destroy your relationship with him.

Bullshit. Far too many people are candyasses like you and look around at all the obesity. For 99.9% of people there is no reason to be fat. You are simply eating more calories than you are using. I know you won't listen and there will be another fat ass who thinks it OK to be fat cause his mommy told him.

[Anonymous]

yes he's very overweight (might even be obese didn't weigh him recently) but it doesn't both me too much as he eats a good enough diet and exercises regularly.

it doesn't appear to bother him either as far as i can tell. but i'm just wondering if he's handling it on his own.

what we've talked about was the fact that he's not 'fit' for his age and needed to do something about it. so not focusing on his size/shape but fitness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:yes he's very overweight (might even be obese didn't weigh him recently) but it doesn't both me too much as he eats a good enough diet and exercises regularly.

it doesn't appear to bother him either as far as i can tell. but i'm just wondering if he's handling it on his own.

what we've talked about was the fact that he's not 'fit' for his age and needed to do something about it. so not focusing on his size/shape but fitness.

I understand that it does not bother you that your son is heavy, we all love our kids and easily their faults. This is, make no mistake, a fault in your son. It is simply not OK in our society to be fat.

He will earn less, have poorer choices in a mate, have lower self-esteem, have health issues if heavy as an adult. The correlation between fat tween and fat adult is high. Ignoring is not doing him any favors in the long-run.

[Anonymous]

I too have seen boys grow "out" before they grow "up" in their growth spurts at this age. But if he's very overweight, you need to get him moving, get him active, and feed him healthy foods. No need to say anything, just make it happen. It's about his health.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:yes he's very overweight (might even be obese didn't weigh him recently) but it doesn't both me too much as he eats a good enough diet and exercises regularly.

it doesn't appear to bother him either as far as i can tell. but i'm just wondering if he's handling it on his own.

what we've talked about was the fact that he's not 'fit' for his age and needed to do something about it. so not focusing on his size/shape but fitness.

I understand that it does not bother you that your son is heavy, we all love our kids and easily their faults. This is, make no mistake, a fault in your son. It is simply not OK in our society to be fat.

He will earn less, have poorer choices in a mate, have lower self-esteem, have health issues if heavy as an adult. The correlation between fat tween and fat adult is high. Ignoring is not doing him any favors in the long-run.

would a 11-yo boy understand this? or would it help develop a 'i'm-a-faulty-child-only-my-mom-loves-me' complex in him?