Mother in law lied about being sick
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Anonymous
| My mother inward has been sick for past couple week with flu symptoms. Complained about how awful she felt on Facebook everyday. They were scheduled to come visit Friday and reassured us that she was over being sick. Well she gets here and she has coughed and sneezed the whole time and is obviously still sick. Well now my 12month old is sick and can't breathe and isn't sleeping and is just miserable. I can't help but be pissed. Baby girl has had a rough morning and my father in law said "I hope we didn't get her sick" and my mother in law quickly dismissed it as teething. |
Anonymous
| In law |
Anonymous
| So she lied about being healthy, not about being sick, as she was in fact sick. |
Anonymous
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Sounds like they didn't want to postpone their trip because they were excited to come. Yes, that is selfish. I also think that people without babies or small children quickly forget how serious and illness can loom for the parents and the baby. Your FIL gave you the opening to point out that she did make the baby sick. And you could say "next time, if your wife dick it's better to postpone your visit. It's much harder on little larlo to be sick than it is for us adults."
What does your spouse say? Ideally they'd be the ones to handle it. |
Anonymous
| Could she really still be contagious two weeks into being sick? |
Anonymous
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OP your toddler probably got sick from daycare, the trip to the grocery store , or the germ you or your DH brought back from the office.
It's not likely your MIL is still contagious. |
Anonymous
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Yes, that sucks.
Next time as soon as you witness a sneeze or a cough, tell her hands off the baby and keep them physically apart. She definitely could have visited and managed to not get your kid sick of you all were super careful. |
Anonymous
| My MIL used to pull this stuff all the time. When I was 36 weeks pregnant with my second, she rolled up to our house vomiting and with diarrhea. I lost it and told DH to get her the heck out of here. She ended up in the hospital and then wanted us to visit! No. just no. Anyway, now DH makes it abundantly clear that she stay away with any illness. Get your DH on the same page and have him manage her. |
Anonymous
Yes |
Anonymous
My nurse would disagree |
Anonymous
| The whole "not contagious anymore" thing is totally false. Myth perpetuated by people who insist on infecting others because they are too selfish to stay home when they are sneezing and hacking. |
Anonymous
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She was coughing and sneezing? So she had a cold? If your 12 month old has made it an entire year without getting a cold, you're doing really well. It's winter time -- your baby is going to be exposed to people who have colds. Unless she's immune compromised or has lung issues, she'll be okay.
Be glad your MIL wanted to see your baby. When I opened this, I was expecting to read that she lied about being sick to avoid seeing you. |
Anonymous
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Not acceptable OP. Not sure who all these crazy people are on this thread who this it is ok for people who love each other to intentially spread illness. Instead of one person being miserable, everyone gets to be miserable.
Visits can be postponed, Christmas with baby will be the same three weekends from now as this weekend, etc... |
Anonymous
| You are woefully ignorant about incubation period of colds as after two weeks she was no longer contagious. |
Anonymous
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You should tell them that in the future, they should absolutely tell you before coming about the existence of any kind of symptoms. That you won't stop them from coming if they're just coughing/sneezing, as opposed to a fever, but that you know what to stock up on and not to hand them your baby straight away without them washing their hands. You can't protect your kid from everything, OP, but it's annoying that they lied about it. |