Going on a date in a few hours, help!

[Anonymous]

I'm going out on a date with a friend of a friend. I think he's an attractive guy, but we haven't really talked outside of texting and I haven't been on a date in a really long time. I'm not sure how to act. Plus I've felt very insecure when it comes to myself and dating since my ex husband left me for a younger and hotter woman (his words). We're having dinner at Stanford Grill. I'm not sure what I should wear as far as going casual (jeans and boots) or dressing up a bit (a dress and heels), I don't know what to talk about, should I mention that I have a child, do we discuss politics or religion. I'm so nervous! I'm losing it! Help!

[Anonymous]

Dress in something comfortable and flattering that makes you feel good. Just try to have fun. Definitely mention your child at some point--better to have that out there early.

Good luck! Report back!

[Anonymous]

Relax , just pretend you are meeting a new friend and if there is chemistry than that's a bonus.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dress in something comfortable and flattering that makes you feel good. Just try to have fun. Definitely mention your child at some point--better to have that out there early.

Good luck! Report back!

Thanks, I need all the luck I can get!

[Anonymous]

Get him to talk about himself! Bring up some recent articles you've read, any exhibits you've seen or like to see. Has he been to the new African American History Museum? Definitely dress in something comfortable, flattering and that makes you feel good.

[Anonymous]

I'd stay away from talking about politics or religion.

[Anonymous]

Put on a little makeup and dress comfortable but still feminine. Wear heels unless you never do.

More importantly, ask him questions. Get to know things about him. Definiltely do NOT talk about your divorce or custody arrangements. Have a canned response to typical questions like "why are you divorced?" or "why didn't it work out with your ex?" or "why are you still single?". Make sure you have responses that don't badmouth your ex nor make you sound like a loser.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Put on a little makeup and dress comfortable but still feminine. Wear heels unless you never do.

More importantly, ask him questions. Get to know things about him. Definiltely do NOT talk about your divorce or custody arrangements. Have a canned response to typical questions like "why are you divorced?" or "why didn't it work out with your ex?" or "why are you still single?". Make sure you have responses that don't badmouth your ex nor make you sound like a loser.

I don't wear makeup or heels, but there's a first time for everything.

[Anonymous]

Relax, have a glass of wine. Get him to talk about himself - his interests, background, fun stuff he likes to do. If you get him to do 75% of the talking, you can listen and fill in with smart stuff and avoid the stuff you want to forget about e.g ex husband. Whatever you do avoid negative talk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Put on a little makeup and dress comfortable but still feminine. Wear heels unless you never do.

More importantly, ask him questions. Get to know things about him. Definiltely do NOT talk about your divorce or custody arrangements. Have a canned response to typical questions like "why are you divorced?" or "why didn't it work out with your ex?" or "why are you still single?". Make sure you have responses that don't badmouth your ex nor make you sound like a loser.

I don't wear makeup or heels, but there's a first time for everything.

Bad idea. Now is not the time to test make up or heels for the first time! Well, maybe you can't go wrong with mascara and a subtle shade of lipstick. And no politics or religion! Just try to get to know him. The basics - where he grew up, siblings, what does he do. Hopefully questions will be reciprocated and the conversation flows naturally. If you drink, have a maximum of two drinks (1/hr) to take the edge off but not be sloppy. And as PP said, dress comfortable, flattering, and feminine. Good luck!!

[Anonymous]

Thanks everyone! I'll definitely have a glass of wine. I swear I've never been so nervous to go on a date before! I suck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Put on a little makeup and dress comfortable but still feminine. Wear heels unless you never do.

More importantly, ask him questions. Get to know things about him. Definiltely do NOT talk about your divorce or custody arrangements. Have a canned response to typical questions like "why are you divorced?" or "why didn't it work out with your ex?" or "why are you still single?". Make sure you have responses that don't badmouth your ex nor make you sound like a loser.

I don't wear makeup or heels, but there's a first time for everything.

Dress in what makes you feel comfortable. Don't worry about make up if this isn't part of your routine.

PP's right don't bring up your Ex or anything related.

Just have fun. Be yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks everyone! I'll definitely have a glass of wine. I swear I've never been so nervous to go on a date before! I suck!

Then have a breath mint.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Put on a little makeup and dress comfortable but still feminine. Wear heels unless you never do.

More importantly, ask him questions. Get to know things about him. Definiltely do NOT talk about your divorce or custody arrangements. Have a canned response to typical questions like "why are you divorced?" or "why didn't it work out with your ex?" or "why are you still single?". Make sure you have responses that don't badmouth your ex nor make you sound like a loser.

I don't wear makeup or heels, but there's a first time for everything.

Dress in what makes you feel comfortable. Don't worry about make up if this isn't part of your routine.

PP's right don't bring up your Ex or anything related.

Just have fun. Be yourself.

Trust the last thing I want to do is bring up my ex. That might make me cry!

[Anonymous]

OP here with an update. It was ok, but I think my bad nerves turned him off. He could tell I was nervous. He told me about himself, he asked about me. He kept telling me to relax. I didn't tell him it was my first date in years. He told me what his interests are and what he looks for in women. I'm the complete opposite of that. At the end of the date he walked me to my car and gave me a handshake, not a hug, a handshake. He said he'll call, but I don't think he will. I guess I'm still not ready to date yet.