regifting SIL

[Anonymous]

For my nephew's birthday, DH and I got him a train. That was the end of October. We assumed he got his train. Tonight SIL lets me know that she took the train and re-wrapped it and is going to put it under her Christmas tree from Santa. I sat there completely dumbfounded.

[Anonymous]

That's really weird, but it's stranger that she told you. Does she interact with people normally socially? I just don't understand why you would say that. Ever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's really weird, but it's stranger that she told you. Does she interact with people normally socially? I just don't understand why you would say that. Ever.

I guess she was intentionally trying to get under my skin. I don't know why? I just said, oh ok.

[Anonymous]

I did this one year when DS was really little, like 2 or 3. Hanukkah was early that year and about a month after DS's birthday where he had received lots of
gifts at his birthday party and wasn't really aware of it all. I put a few away to rewrap for Hanukkah, but I would never have told the gift givers that. What would have possessed her to do that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did this one year when DS was really little, like 2 or 3. Hanukkah was early that year and about a month after DS's birthday where he had received lots of
gifts at his birthday party and wasn't really aware of it all. I put a few away to rewrap for Hanukkah, but I would never have told the gift givers that. What would have possessed her to do that?

I don't even know. We were sitting in the kitchen looking through black friday ads just the two of us. And said "oh I thought I would tell you that we wrapped that train y'all got him and we are going to put it under the tree from Santa"

[Anonymous]

First Pp here. That's really weird and nasty. I don't know how I would react in the moment- probably not aggressively because I would be so taken aback. If I can muster it, I might just say I don't know why you told me that. Ugh. I would minimize time with her.

[Anonymous]

At least you don't have to get him a Christmas gift now!

Seriously, depending on the way she said it it could have been unfeeling and unappreciative. But if he was smothered in gifts, this makes sense and your SIL was trying to warn you not to talk about it.
You see what I mean?

[Anonymous]

As someone who is pretty broke, she might be using it to "Play Santa" when she can't. You might not take credit but the kids childhood gets a win.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As someone who is pretty broke, she might be using it to "Play Santa" when she can't. You might not take credit but the kids childhood gets a win.

They aren't broke. They're pretty well off. They've spent hundreds of dollars on my nephew for Christmas. I was with them at Black Friday shopping this evening and saw with my own eyes them drop $600 on presents.

[Anonymous]

That's not really regifting as they are still giving it to their kid but it is a bit odd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's not really regifting as they are still giving it to their kid but it is a bit odd.

They're regifting it as a present from someone else.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't really mind, honestly. Did you ask why?

[Anonymous]

Will you be together on Christmas? If so, that's probably why she's giving you the heads up. Still weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Will you be together on Christmas? If so, that's probably why she's giving you the heads up. Still weird.

I won't be there when he gets his Santa presents. I would have no idea what he had gotten.

[Anonymous]

Does this mean you don't have to get him a Christmas gift??