when your kids learn about sex from friends (or at home)?

[Anonymous]

Last summer (following third grade) I sat my daughter down to talk about sex, etc. and it surprised me because she had a very clear understanding about what it was based on what she had learned from friends.
Now there's a controversy going on at school where a number of 4th graders (not in my chiild's class) have been role playing sexual positioning with each other. This is an upper class NW DC school.

When did your kids first hear about sex from friends? Or hopefully from you?

[Anonymous]

It's never a "one-time" learning experience.

[Anonymous]

yes, but did you become aware that they knew what sex entails?

[Anonymous]

I've been talking to my kids about sex since they first asked about it, around ages 3 or 4. It entails ongoing conversations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Last summer (following third grade) I sat my daughter down to talk about sex, etc. and it surprised me because she had a very clear understanding about what it was based on what she had learned from friends.
Now there's a controversy going on at school where a number of 4th graders (not in my chiild's class) have been role playing sexual positioning with each other. This is an upper class NW DC school.

When did your kids first hear about sex from friends? Or hopefully from you?

I remember TEACHING my friends about sex when I was maybe 7. We played at "having sex" also. Fully clothed I !hink, though I got my younger brother to try it naked. In case you're worried, it didn't work

Don't all kids do this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've been talking to my kids about sex since they first asked about it, around ages 3 or 4. It entails ongoing conversations.

Same here. I wanted to make sure my son had 100% correct information. Often what they learn from friends is wrong.

And if you keep the communication open, you'll hear back about what they learn from friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Last summer (following third grade) I sat my daughter down to talk about sex, etc. and it surprised me because she had a very clear understanding about what it was based on what she had learned from friends.
Now there's a controversy going on at school where a number of 4th graders (not in my chiild's class) have been role playing sexual positioning with each other. This is an upper class NW DC school.

When did your kids first hear about sex from friends? Or hopefully from you?

I remember TEACHING my friends about sex when I was maybe 7. We played at "having sex" also. Fully clothed I !hink, though I got my younger brother to try it naked. In case you're worried, it didn't work

Don't all kids do this?

Not OP, but I've never heard of this. We did it with Barbies. But I don't ever remember kids acting out sex before. Doesn't mean they don't.

[Anonymous]

I'm interested to hear the responses on this. I have three kids: 6, 8 and 10. None of them have ever asked or said anything even remotely related to sex.

[Anonymous]

From me, at age 3. I don't know exactly when they started talking about it with friends. I did NOT teach them positions. WTF? Holy inappropriate, Batman!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Last summer (following third grade) I sat my daughter down to talk about sex, etc. and it surprised me because she had a very clear understanding about what it was based on what she had learned from friends.
Now there's a controversy going on at school where a number of 4th graders (not in my chiild's class) have been role playing sexual positioning with each other. This is an upper class NW DC school.

When did your kids first hear about sex from friends? Or hopefully from you?

I remember TEACHING my friends about sex when I was maybe 7. We played at "having sex" also. Fully clothed I !hink, though I got my younger brother to try it naked. In case you're worried, it didn't work

Don't all kids do this?

Um, no, not at all. How did you know enough about sex to be "playing" it at 7?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've been talking to my kids about sex since they first asked about it, around ages 3 or 4. It entails ongoing conversations.

Same here. I wanted to make sure my son had 100% correct information. Often what they learn from friends is wrong.

And if you keep the communication open, you'll hear back about what they learn from friends.

Exactly. I can't imagine thinking that kids are still clueless at age 10. Most have figured it out for the most part by age 5 latest. I remember that I was in kindergarten when I first figured it out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Last summer (following third grade) I sat my daughter down to talk about sex, etc. and it surprised me because she had a very clear understanding about what it was based on what she had learned from friends.
Now there's a controversy going on at school where a number of 4th graders (not in my chiild's class) have been role playing sexual positioning with each other. This is an upper class NW DC school.

When did your kids first hear about sex from friends? Or hopefully from you?

I remember TEACHING my friends about sex when I was maybe 7. We played at "having sex" also. Fully clothed I !hink, though I got my younger brother to try it naked. In case you're worried, it didn't work

Don't all kids do this?

Yikes. I did this too. I was probably 7 or 8 also. I actually worried for a while that I was pregnant from a kiss at 8 though so maybe more sex ed would have been a good thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've been talking to my kids about sex since they first asked about it, around ages 3 or 4. It entails ongoing conversations.

Same here. I wanted to make sure my son had 100% correct information. Often what they learn from friends is wrong.

And if you keep the communication open, you'll hear back about what they learn from friends.

Exactly. I can't imagine thinking that kids are still clueless at age 10. Most have figured it out for the most part by age 5 latest. I remember that I was in kindergarten when I first figured it out.

Are you saying that kids have figured out intercourse in preschool? I have told each of my three kids at around 11 in preparation for them learning about it in school. It was obvious that not one of them had a clue prior to that.

[Anonymous]

I don't know what mine are learning in school. They seem hard wired to already know things at a young age.

[Anonymous]

DS repeated things he heard from other kids in 2nd grade in casual conversation at home. He didn't know all of the details but it was enough for us to know that we needed to have the conversation because they were talking. Now he's in 3rd and he came home recently and said he heard from friends that people of the same gender could have sex. Those weren't his words but that was the idea. He had a lot of questions, mostly about why you you would want to do this if it can't make a baby and can if ever make a baby, etc.