If you are Christian, do you believe it is your "godly" wife duty to never say no to your spouse?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:where is this bible verse?

"A good wife is worth her weight in gold, she who gladly strokes her husband's glory and fulfills her husband's daily desires will receive much reward in heaven."

Too many people take a single verse either out of context or not in its entirety:

"In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— for we are members of his body. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband."

How many actually love their wives like Christ loves the Church? And yet they expect their wives to follow the submissive verse, but they don't think they need to follow things that they are told to do, or they twist words to suit their purposes.

This was not the intent of Christ's teachings. Men, who have held the power, just like to twist thing to suit their needs/wants, and I do include the picking and choosing by men of specific books and verses that comprise the Bible.

modern christians who are uncomfortable with some of the more troublesome aspects of the Bible happily pretend those passages don't exist or interpret them in non-sensical ways to justify ignoring them.

[Anonymous]

Yes, we must be joyfully available. Anyone can iron Jim Bob's shirt, anybody can make lunch for him. He can get his lunch somewhere else. But you are the only one who can meet that special need that he has in his life for intimacy. You’re it. You’re the only one. So don’t forget that, that he needs you. So when you are exhausted at the end of the day, maybe from dealing with little ones, and you fall into bed so exhausted at night, don’t forget about him because you and he are the only ones who can have that time together. No one else in the world can meet that need.”

And so be available, and not just available, but be joyfully available for him. Smile and be willing to say, ‘Yes, sweetie I am here for you,’ no matter what, even though you may be exhausted and big pregnant and you may not feel like he feels. ‘I’m still here for you and I’m going to meet that need because I know it’s a need for you.

https://www.duggarfamily.com/2015/10/michelle-duggars-marriage-advice-for-newlyweds/

[Anonymous]

My husband and I are bro religious but share more catholic values. He was raised catholic and I wasn’t raised with any faith.

Here’s the thing. I love taking care of him. It’s in my nature to take care of people ( nurse) and I enjoy having someone who appreciates me taking care of him. Not at all do we follow that though. He knows I will not stand for any disrespect. He also takes care of me and does the housework I hate to do. I’m more sexually submissive but there are boundaries and he respects me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I are bro religious but share more catholic values. He was raised catholic and I wasn’t raised with any faith.

Here’s the thing. I love taking care of him. It’s in my nature to take care of people ( nurse) and I enjoy having someone who appreciates me taking care of him. Not at all do we follow that though. He knows I will not stand for any disrespect. He also takes care of me and does the housework I hate to do. I’m more sexually submissive but there are boundaries and he respects me.

* not

[Anonymous]

The biggest thing for me is offering a safe place for him to come and relax, share his feelings, be loved, etc., without any judgement. I also rarely turn down sex ( I have a high sex drive) and I’m very willingly and giving.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:where is this bible verse?

"A good wife is worth her weight in gold, she who gladly strokes her husband's glory and fulfills her husband's daily desires will receive much reward in heaven."

Too many people take a single verse either out of context or not in its entirety:

"In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— for we are members of his body. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband."

How many actually love their wives like Christ loves the Church? And yet they expect their wives to follow the submissive verse, but they don't think they need to follow things that they are told to do, or they twist words to suit their purposes.

This was not the intent of Christ's teachings. Men, who have held the power, just like to twist thing to suit their needs/wants, and I do include the picking and choosing by men of specific books and verses that comprise the Bible.

modern christians who are uncomfortable with some of the more troublesome aspects of the Bible happily pretend those passages don't exist or interpret them in non-sensical ways to justify ignoring them.

Or, the men who have the power cherry picked what they wanted to include in the Bible, and how to interpret it.

[Anonymous]

“Say no” in what sense? Can I just lie there like a fish? Can I read my phone during?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:where is this bible verse?

"A good wife is worth her weight in gold, she who gladly strokes her husband's glory and fulfills her husband's daily desires will receive much reward in heaven."

Too many people take a single verse either out of context or not in its entirety:

"In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— for we are members of his body. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband."

How many actually love their wives like Christ loves the Church? And yet they expect their wives to follow the submissive verse, but they don't think they need to follow things that they are told to do, or they twist words to suit their purposes.

This was not the intent of Christ's teachings. Men, who have held the power, just like to twist thing to suit their needs/wants, and I do include the picking and choosing by men of specific books and verses that comprise the Bible.

modern christians who are uncomfortable with some of the more troublesome aspects of the Bible happily pretend those passages don't exist or interpret them in non-sensical ways to justify ignoring them.

Yes, I agree with you and the PP. Some men will pick out the verses that support their view that women are inferior and ignore the rest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, we must be joyfully available. Anyone can iron Jim Bob's shirt, anybody can make lunch for him. He can get his lunch somewhere else. But you are the only one who can meet that special need that he has in his life for intimacy. You’re it. You’re the only one. So don’t forget that, that he needs you. So when you are exhausted at the end of the day, maybe from dealing with little ones, and you fall into bed so exhausted at night, don’t forget about him because you and he are the only ones who can have that time together. No one else in the world can meet that need.”

And so be available, and not just available, but be joyfully available for him. Smile and be willing to say, ‘Yes, sweetie I am here for you,’ no matter what, even though you may be exhausted and big pregnant and you may not feel like he feels. ‘I’m still here for you and I’m going to meet that need because I know it’s a need for you.

https://www.duggarfamily.com/2015/10/michelle-duggars-marriage-advice-for-newlyweds/

Ick

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, we must be joyfully available. Anyone can iron Jim Bob's shirt, anybody can make lunch for him. He can get his lunch somewhere else. But you are the only one who can meet that special need that he has in his life for intimacy. You’re it. You’re the only one. So don’t forget that, that he needs you. So when you are exhausted at the end of the day, maybe from dealing with little ones, and you fall into bed so exhausted at night, don’t forget about him because you and he are the only ones who can have that time together. No one else in the world can meet that need.”

And so be available, and not just available, but be joyfully available for him. Smile and be willing to say, ‘Yes, sweetie I am here for you,’ no matter what, even though you may be exhausted and big pregnant and you may not feel like he feels. ‘I’m still here for you and I’m going to meet that need because I know it’s a need for you.

https://www.duggarfamily.com/2015/10/michelle-duggars-marriage-advice-for-newlyweds/

Ick

No, I'm not a brainwashed cult member who let my son abuse my daughters.

[Anonymous]

No. Where is that anywhere in the Bible?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, we must be joyfully available. Anyone can iron Jim Bob's shirt, anybody can make lunch for him. He can get his lunch somewhere else. But you are the only one who can meet that special need that he has in his life for intimacy. You’re it. You’re the only one. So don’t forget that, that he needs you. So when you are exhausted at the end of the day, maybe from dealing with little ones, and you fall into bed so exhausted at night, don’t forget about him because you and he are the only ones who can have that time together. No one else in the world can meet that need.”

And so be available, and not just available, but be joyfully available for him. Smile and be willing to say, ‘Yes, sweetie I am here for you,’ no matter what, even though you may be exhausted and big pregnant and you may not feel like he feels. ‘I’m still here for you and I’m going to meet that need because I know it’s a need for you.

https://www.duggarfamily.com/2015/10/michelle-duggars-marriage-advice-for-newlyweds/

I find this abhorrent. I also understand that it is good advice if you want to stay married (to a selfish man baby). When you are big and pregnant and exhausted only a selfish man baby comes looking to have his "special needs" met.

I really tried to be there for my spouse but my willing cooperation wasn't enough. It had to be "joyful" and I just couldn't fake it well enough. I guess.

I am sad that my marriage ended and also so relieved that I no longer have the obligations of marriage hanging over me. It's a losing proposition for women in so many ways.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, we must be joyfully available. Anyone can iron Jim Bob's shirt, anybody can make lunch for him. He can get his lunch somewhere else. But you are the only one who can meet that special need that he has in his life for intimacy. You’re it. You’re the only one. So don’t forget that, that he needs you. So when you are exhausted at the end of the day, maybe from dealing with little ones, and you fall into bed so exhausted at night, don’t forget about him because you and he are the only ones who can have that time together. No one else in the world can meet that need.”

And so be available, and not just available, but be joyfully available for him. Smile and be willing to say, ‘Yes, sweetie I am here for you,’ no matter what, even though you may be exhausted and big pregnant and you may not feel like he feels. ‘I’m still here for you and I’m going to meet that need because I know it’s a need for you.

https://www.duggarfamily.com/2015/10/michelle-duggars-marriage-advice-for-newlyweds/

Ick

+1 I'd rather stay single.

-christian woman

[Anonymous]

It’s sad that anybody believes this. Sex is so great and people often ruin it when they put it into the obligation category.

I am no longer religious but when I was, I did not believe that women had an obligation, no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:where is this bible verse?

"A good wife is worth her weight in gold, she who gladly strokes her husband's glory and fulfills her husband's daily desires will receive much reward in heaven."

Too many people take a single verse either out of context or not in its entirety:

"In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— for we are members of his body. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband."

How many actually love their wives like Christ loves the Church? And yet they expect their wives to follow the submissive verse, but they don't think they need to follow things that they are told to do, or they twist words to suit their purposes.

This was not the intent of Christ's teachings. Men, who have held the power, just like to twist thing to suit their needs/wants, and I do include the picking and choosing by men of specific books and verses that comprise the Bible.

modern christians who are uncomfortable with some of the more troublesome aspects of the Bible happily pretend those passages don't exist or interpret them in non-sensical ways to justify ignoring them.

really? So which traditional christian denomnation advocates for Christians to gouge out their eyes if their eyes causes them to sin, or cut off their hand if their hand causes them to sin?

Do you suppose these Christian men are gouging out their eyes when they look at a woman other than their wives with lust in their eyes and hearts?