S/O My name is NOT Mrs. G

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You expect parents to call you Ms. Lastname? We are all adults. Parents and teachers should be on a first-name basis u less kids are present. So, in an email it should be addressing by first name.

This is all the way wrong. And rude. Parents and teachers should not be on a first name basis. Unless they are friends out side of the school environment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You expect parents to call you Ms. Lastname? We are all adults. Parents and teachers should be on a first-name basis u less kids are present. So, in an email it should be addressing by first name.

This is all the way wrong. And rude. Parents and teachers should not be on a first name basis. Unless they are friends out side of the school environment.

That's what you think. And yet other people have a different views. Teachers who sign their name Ms. Lastname and make clear that they want to be called like that seem to lack confidence in their teaching ability and/or are younger. They are welcome to do it, but it will come with judgment from parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You expect parents to call you Ms. Lastname? We are all adults. Parents and teachers should be on a first-name basis u less kids are present. So, in an email it should be addressing by first name.

This is all the way wrong. And rude. Parents and teachers should not be on a first name basis. Unless they are friends out side of the school environment.

That's what you think. And yet other people have a different views. Teachers who sign their name Ms. Lastname and make clear that they want to be called like that seem to lack confidence in their teaching ability and/or are younger. They are welcome to do it, but it will come with judgment from parents.

Speak for yourself. Calling another adult by their first name without invitation is rude in most of the US. I wrote emails to six teachers today and didn’t call a single one by the first name. The youngest is 30s and in her seventh year at DD’s school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You expect parents to call you Ms. Lastname? We are all adults. Parents and teachers should be on a first-name basis u less kids are present. So, in an email it should be addressing by first name.

This is all the way wrong. And rude. Parents and teachers should not be on a first name basis. Unless they are friends out side of the school environment.

That's what you think. And yet other people have a different views. Teachers who sign their name Ms. Lastname and make clear that they want to be called like that seem to lack confidence in their teaching ability and/or are younger. They are welcome to do it, but it will come with judgment from parents.

Speak for yourself. Calling another adult by their first name without invitation is rude in most of the US. I wrote emails to six teachers today and didn’t call a single one by the first name. The youngest is 30s and in her seventh year at DD’s school.

You do you and I'll do me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You expect parents to call you Ms. Lastname? We are all adults. Parents and teachers should be on a first-name basis u less kids are present. So, in an email it should be addressing by first name.

This is all the way wrong. And rude. Parents and teachers should not be on a first name basis. Unless they are friends out side of the school environment.

That's what you think. And yet other people have a different views. Teachers who sign their name Ms. Lastname and make clear that they want to be called like that seem to lack confidence in their teaching ability and/or are younger. They are welcome to do it, but it will come with judgment from parents.

Speak for yourself. Calling another adult by their first name without invitation is rude in most of the US. I wrote emails to six teachers today and didn’t call a single one by the first name. The youngest is 30s and in her seventh year at DD’s school.

+1
I have never been addressed as anything but Mrs. Lastname by teachers. I return the same courtesy to them. Yes, once there is a friendship or a request (call me Jennifer!) only then we become informal. I think it is bad manners to call people by first name unless asked to do so.

Finally, I am with OP. Students should refer to their teachers with the proper salutation, prefix and lastname. These students will be entering a workforce where they will be working with people with lastnames from different cultures and countries. It is a sign of laziness and mental dullness if they cannot put in the effort to learn the lastnames of their teachers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You expect parents to call you Ms. Lastname? We are all adults. Parents and teachers should be on a first-name basis u less kids are present. So, in an email it should be addressing by first name.

This is all the way wrong. And rude. Parents and teachers should not be on a first name basis. Unless they are friends out side of the school environment.

That's what you think. And yet other people have a different views. Teachers who sign their name Ms. Lastname and make clear that they want to be called like that seem to lack confidence in their teaching ability and/or are younger. They are welcome to do it, but it will come with judgment from parents.

You are welcome to judge me but you will respect me by calling me by my last name, as I would ask that you do so if you said anything otherwise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You expect parents to call you Ms. Lastname? We are all adults. Parents and teachers should be on a first-name basis u less kids are present. So, in an email it should be addressing by first name.

This is all the way wrong. And rude. Parents and teachers should not be on a first name basis. Unless they are friends out side of the school environment.

That's what you think. And yet other people have a different views. Teachers who sign their name Ms. Lastname and make clear that they want to be called like that seem to lack confidence in their teaching ability and/or are younger. They are welcome to do it, but it will come with judgment from parents.

You are welcome to judge me but you will respect me by calling me by my last name, as I would ask that you do so if you said anything otherwise.

Of course I don’t call you first name to your face if you have not signed your first name on an email — I don’t call you anything If that is the case. I just start the email without a greeting or use a generic “Hello”and move on. And the same is true for teachers; they don’t say to me “Hello Ms. Lastname”—they either call me by my first name or don’t call me anything. We are adults, and so am not going to go through the charade of calling you Ms. Lastname when kids aren’t around. And you don’t need to go through that with me. We either use first names, or we avoid using names at all.

I will say that I can only think of one teacher that signed her emails Ms Lastname to parents. Everyone else either used the entire name (like a sig file) or just used their first names after I used mine. I also have never had a teacher call me Ms. Lastname.