Men: Would You Marry A Nurse?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I there there is an assumption that all nurses are kind and caring. I personally know one who is very competent at her job but does not have good people skills at all. She spends lots of time complaining about her patients and their demands in a very derogatory way and nastily ridicules those who are from lower socioeconomic groups.

She also berates and name-calls her husband in front of others.

There are narcissists and nasty people in every profession.

Consequence of his behavior?




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[Anonymous]

I'm female married to a male nurse. Yummmmyyy.

[Anonymous]

An ex BF of mine married a nurse who had also trained be a nursery school teacher. They had a whole batch of kids. I guess he was on some level being super practical. He was definitely never interested in an intellectual equal so I guess it was a win win.

[Anonymous]

Hell yeah!!

[Anonymous]

Woulda Coulda Shoulda

[Anonymous]

better than a teacher at least

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:An ex BF of mine married a nurse who had also trained be a nursery school teacher. They had a whole batch of kids. I guess he was on some level being super practical. He was definitely never interested in an intellectual equal so I guess it was a win win.

Sounds like he wanted someone nurturing, organized and with an extreme love of kids if they had that many, and that was her background. Not sure that makes her an idiot, but it sounds like he chose wisely for what he was looking for.

[Anonymous]

Since many men find women in caring professions attractive, what do they feel about psychologists? I'm just curious because many people call them shrinks and don't take them seriously. Would men find psychologists attractive and be inclined to marry them? How do men feel about having a psychologist as a wife?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm and RN and I always say when RNs have it together we are stellar, but when they don't, they FABULOUSLY don't. There seems to be no in between. You are either an overachiever, amazing job and pay, great at what you do, furthering the practice and doing research, awesome family... or they jump from loser to loser, ignore red flags that they would see if it was a client, slack on their attention to their kids or have an addictive issue or personality. It's a bummer. As a manager I am privy to personal lives and some of it is pretty shocking.

I have several friends who are nurses and have to agree. One of them came from UMC and is a trust-fund baby, went to a good university for a BSN and landed a very well-paying job at a great facility. She QUICKLY got engaged and married to a guy who has a train-wreck family (alcoholism, substance abuse, federal criminality, domestic violence) who works retail. He does like to spend money on expensive toys, though.

Another nurse had a similar story but was fixated on cops. Spent YEARS chasing after a string of bad-boy police officers who were awful to her.

[Anonymous]

My aunt is an RN and she's a bitch, just one of the worst people I know. So no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My aunt is an RN and she's a bitch, just one of the worst people I know. So no.

There are a few other reasons you shouldn't marry your aunt. There are other nurses out there

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My aunt is an RN and she's a bitch, just one of the worst people I know. So no.

"Business Insider reports that nursing, psychiatric and home health aides share a 28.95% divorce rate, higher than other professions. Some psychologists believe that long hours caring for other people translates to stress at home and higher divorce rates. Among the contributing factors are long hours (including weekend/holiday shifts) mandatory overtime, inadequate pay, short staffing and demanding patient care.

Coming home to care for small children, paying bills and doing housework interferes with husband/wife quality time and communication. A lack of empathy is another factor; some nurses feel that no matter how much their spouse listens, they don’t understand the stress a nurse endures on the job.

Divorce rates are lower for physicians, who don’t have the same work/life balance issues as nurses thanks to higher compensation, on-the-job support staff and higher work satisfaction. For both nurses and doctors, the temptation to stray outside the marriage because of long hours is also cited as another contributing factor to marital stress."

Bolded is telling. Some nurses (perhaps your aunt) get to a point where they believe everyone else's stresses should take a back-seat to their work stress because they are a "hero" nurse. Certainly not the majority but some do act this way. Self-absorption is not good marriage material, IMO.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm and RN and I always say when RNs have it together we are stellar, but when they don't, they FABULOUSLY don't. There seems to be no in between. You are either an overachiever, amazing job and pay, great at what you do, furthering the practice and doing research, awesome family... or they jump from loser to loser, ignore red flags that they would see if it was a client, slack on their attention to their kids or have an addictive issue or personality. It's a bummer. As a manager I am privy to personal lives and some of it is pretty shocking.

I have several friends who are nurses and have to agree. One of them came from UMC and is a trust-fund baby, went to a good university for a BSN and landed a very well-paying job at a great facility. She QUICKLY got engaged and married to a guy who has a train-wreck family (alcoholism, substance abuse, federal criminality, domestic violence) who works retail. He does like to spend money on expensive toys, though.

Another nurse had a similar story but was fixated on cops. Spent YEARS chasing after a string of bad-boy police officers who were awful to her.

I'm surprised your friend didn't marry a doctor. Most of the young, attractive, 4-yr degree grads from UMC families do. The other nurses do seem to gravitate to police officers and fire fighters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm and RN and I always say when RNs have it together we are stellar, but when they don't, they FABULOUSLY don't. There seems to be no in between. You are either an overachiever, amazing job and pay, great at what you do, furthering the practice and doing research, awesome family... or they jump from loser to loser, ignore red flags that they would see if it was a client, slack on their attention to their kids or have an addictive issue or personality. It's a bummer. As a manager I am privy to personal lives and some of it is pretty shocking.

I have several friends who are nurses and have to agree. One of them came from UMC and is a trust-fund baby, went to a good university for a BSN and landed a very well-paying job at a great facility. She QUICKLY got engaged and married to a guy who has a train-wreck family (alcoholism, substance abuse, federal criminality, domestic violence) who works retail. He does like to spend money on expensive toys, though.

Another nurse had a similar story but was fixated on cops. Spent YEARS chasing after a string of bad-boy police officers who were awful to her.

I'm surprised your friend didn't marry a doctor. Most of the young, attractive, 4-yr degree grads from UMC families do. The other nurses do seem to gravitate to police officers and fire fighters.

She actually had a doctor who was interested in her and she blew him off. I guess she's one of those who fundamentally likes the challenge of a bad boy.

[Anonymous]

I would date a nurse but not marry. They are very promiscuous and likely to cheat or run off with a doctor or patient.