I hate breastfeeding

[Anonymous]

You can stop whenever you want, there's nothing wrong with formula, your baby will be fine!

(That said, I hated breastfeeding until my baby was big enough to get the milk she needed, which was around 5 or 6 months) and then I liked it so much because it was easier and kept nursing her until she was almost two.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I said it and I feel relieved. I feel extremely guilty because I know it’s the best nutrition and I make more than enough for him to eat but I hate it. It has never made me feel closer or bond more with him. I actually feel more tied down and starting to resent it. Feedings take forever and I still have some pain issues because of my sensitive and flat nipples. He often wants to nurse just for comfort and I’m tired of being a human pacifier. I hate that I’m the only one who has to do the work at night. I hate that I have to pump while I will be at work. I just hate it. It has not been a magical thing that everyone has told me it would be. Can anyone else relate?

Of course. Happy mom = Happy baby do not let the breast is best people get to you.

[Anonymous]

OP, you may want to gradually reduce pumping (duration and times per day) for a couple of weeks instead of stopping abruptly to reduce the risk of getting mastitis. You did great by your DC for sticking with it for 4 months!

[Anonymous]

This is EXACTLY how I felt. I hated it and grew to really resent it. I quit at 3 months with my first and felt super guilty. But once I saw how much happier I was after that decision and how much more I enjoyed motherhood once that was gone, I felt less guilty. I was a better mother for it. I never even attempted it with my second baby and it was the right decision for me. It freed me up to just enjoy their babyhood. Fed it best. A happy healthy mother is best. You do you, girl.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Totally fine if you want to formula feed. I get a hormonal rush from breastfeeding and love the quiet time, but if you don't feel that, then you don't have to continue. Two things, though:

1) You're still going to have to comfort your child (who sounds like he needs a lot of comfort/closeness). It's not like you're going to stop breastfeeding and then your child won't need more of your time/physical presence. You'll probably still feel tied down. Plus some of the time you're spending breastfeeding will be taken up by preparing and washing bottles.

2) You can sleep train in a couple months and then you won't have to breastfeed as much/at all at night.

Do you think OP doesn't know this? How incredibly condescending.

Well yea, it kind of sounds like she doesn't. She says she doesn't like being tied down and like a human pacifier, but I don't think she's anticipating that she might still have a high needs child even if it's drinking from bottles. My sister-in-law formula fed both her kids but they are still crazy clingy and want to be picked up all day long, only by mom. So it's not like formula feeding made her more independent or less tied down. Babies are babies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It wasn’t a love-fest with me either but I kept going. It really does get easier. But, bottom line, there are sacrifices we make as mothers for our children. It’s just the way life is. Don’t expect to love every aspect of motherhood and you’ll be better off in the long run.

Worst. Advice. Ever.

[Anonymous]

It is free plus it burns tons of calories producing milk and helps get the baby weight off quickly on the plus side if you can tolerate it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It wasn’t a love-fest with me either but I kept going. It really does get easier. But, bottom line, there are sacrifices we make as mothers for our children. It’s just the way life is. Don’t expect to love every aspect of motherhood and you’ll be better off in the long run.

Worst. Advice. Ever.

I disagree. You’re saying there are no sacrifices we make as mothers? The PP wasn’t saying she hated breastfeeding and said it got easier.

No, I don’t think any mother should suffer (like OP) but just not loving something is not a reason to put yourself above your child. Who loves changing a poop diaper? Who loves reading the same book seven hundred times in one day? Who loves pretending to be the driver of the trash truck for hours?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I said it and I feel relieved. I feel extremely guilty because I know it’s the best nutrition and I make more than enough for him to eat but I hate it. It has never made me feel closer or bond more with him. I actually feel more tied down and starting to resent it. Feedings take forever and I still have some pain issues because of my sensitive and flat nipples. He often wants to nurse just for comfort and I’m tired of being a human pacifier. I hate that I’m the only one who has to do the work at night. I hate that I have to pump while I will be at work. I just hate it. It has not been a magical thing that everyone has told me it would be. Can anyone else relate?

Amen sister. Could have written this myself. I lasted ~4 weeks for my first and 8 weeks for my second.

The health benefits are almost completely unproven and more importantly, you need to take care of your mental health especially during the pandemic. At least one anonymous internet stranger will support your decision to stop.

[Anonymous]

I hate the whole breast is best push. If you don’t want to do it then don’t do it. Formula is just fine and won’t harm your kid. It is more money but outside of that it makes life so much easier all around. You can split the work with your partner and you can get back to being a person yourself. You can bond just as well with your child by giving them a bottle and snuggling as if they are biting your boob.0

[Anonymous]

Formula has a weird smell and look - it looks almost yellow or dark grey. It also makes the baby’s poops different.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Formula has a weird smell and look - it looks almost yellow or dark grey. It also makes the baby’s poops different.

Use a better formula.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hate the whole breast is best push. If you don’t want to do it then don’t do it. Formula is just fine and won’t harm your kid. It is more money but outside of that it makes life so much easier all around. You can split the work with your partner and you can get back to being a person yourself. You can bond just as well with your child by giving them a bottle and snuggling as if they are biting your boob.0

Breast is best. That's why formula companies spend millions trying to make formula more similar to breast milk. A split in a household isnt 50/50each task. Like you and your husband dont each cleana toilet and then say ok you clean this half.of the kitchen and I'll do my half.
If you are breastfeeding and that's all on you then your partner needs to pick up things to do elsewhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hate the whole breast is best push. If you don’t want to do it then don’t do it. Formula is just fine and won’t harm your kid. It is more money but outside of that it makes life so much easier all around. You can split the work with your partner and you can get back to being a person yourself. You can bond just as well with your child by giving them a bottle and snuggling as if they are biting your boob.0

Truth hurts.

[Anonymous]

My formula fed preemie is my healthiest child. Go figure. The only one who hasn't been hospitalized since NICU