When did you move baby to their own room?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know why people have this badge of pride over starting them in their own room from day 1. That sounds miserable. I can’t imagine having to get out of bed and walk to a different room 5x a night. SO much easier to literally just sit up, grab the baby out of the Halo, feed him with my eyes closed, plop him back in and lay down again.

With each kid we’ve moved them between 4-6 months when they started to wake less frequently.

I am petite and, though always had a plentiful supply and big fat ebf babies, I also have small breasts. Nursing lying down never worked for me because it physically wasn’t comfortable, but also I was terrified that I would accidentally suffocate the baby if I fell asleep with them lying down. everyone is totally exhausted when there is a baby in the house, one wrong move in a middle of the night feeding and you are
Rolling over on the baby, or you forget the baby is in bed with you, they fall out, or get trapped under the covers. Waking up with a baby is pretty miserable anyway you arrange it.

Again, I don’t understand how the above poster’s approach would lessen SIDS risk. She is essentially sleeping with the baby, what if she falls asleep
During one of those feeds? Or smooshes the baby with a drowsy roll the wrong way during a feeding? I just can’t imagine how nursing a baby in your bed is safer than picking up the baby, sitting in a chair, then placing the baby back into their safe sleeping area.

Sorry, I wasn’t clear—I don’t feed laying down. I keep my feeding pillow on the bed and literally sit up cross legged and feed the baby on my lap without getting out of the covers or really opening my eyes or letting myself fully wake up but I’m not laying down so there is no risk of actually falling asleep and smooshing the baby. It just is so much easier to me then getting out of the warm bed, putting on my glasses, opening my eyes fully and walking to another room etc. Especially when I put the baby back and he stirs 2 min later for another burp or a pacifier or something. Having to get back out of bed? Hell no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know why people have this badge of pride over starting them in their own room from day 1. That sounds miserable. I can’t imagine having to get out of bed and walk to a different room 5x a night. SO much easier to literally just sit up, grab the baby out of the Halo, feed him with my eyes closed, plop him back in and lay down again.

With each kid we’ve moved them between 4-6 months when they started to wake less frequently.

Don't you change their diaper in the middle of the night? Every time baby woke, I'd change and feed them. Baby slept in our room, and I would get out of bed, take them next door to the nursery, change/feed/swaddle and then it was back to their bassinet (I would then have to pump after, but that was a different story...) I tried to avoid baby nursing in bed, because, for me, I was concerned it would lead to baby sleeping in bed, and I didn't want to start that habit. Baby was sleeping 5-6 hours stretches by 8 weeks, so I was only getting up once or twice a night.

I do change diapers 2x a night the first month or so, then 1x until 8 or 10 weeks. Then my kids usually stop pooping at night and do fine with their wet diaper. But I keep all supplies in the pocket of the Halo and do it quickly on the bed by the light of my phone flashlight (that I just lay on the bedside table.) That’s still preferable to me than leaving the room. We keep things cool in general but especially with babies for SIDS prevention so I really dislike getting out of a warm bed. Also my kids are tiny and neither has done 5-6 hour stretches until closer to 4 months.

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Both kids around 4mo when I went back to work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know why people have this badge of pride over starting them in their own room from day 1. That sounds miserable. I can’t imagine having to get out of bed and walk to a different room 5x a night. SO much easier to literally just sit up, grab the baby out of the Halo, feed him with my eyes closed, plop him back in and lay down again.

With each kid we’ve moved them between 4-6 months when they started to wake less frequently.

Don't you change their diaper in the middle of the night? Every time baby woke, I'd change and feed them. Baby slept in our room, and I would get out of bed, take them next door to the nursery, change/feed/swaddle and then it was back to their bassinet (I would then have to pump after, but that was a different story...) I tried to avoid baby nursing in bed, because, for me, I was concerned it would lead to baby sleeping in bed, and I didn't want to start that habit. Baby was sleeping 5-6 hours stretches by 8 weeks, so I was only getting up once or twice a night.

Nope. 2 kids and I never changed diapers at night. I had a cosleeper attached to the bed and nursed then back to sleep every waking. I never swaddled either. Somehow my kids don’t poop in their sleep and never have. We have a couch in the nursery so once they outgrew the cosleeper, I often slept there between the 11pm and 3am feedings .

[Anonymous]

DC1 - 2 weeks
DC 2- 4 or 5 weeks
DC 3 - 12 weeks

I think parental sleep is also a valid safety concern, especially if you regularly drive.

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3 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know why people have this badge of pride over starting them in their own room from day 1. That sounds miserable. I can’t imagine having to get out of bed and walk to a different room 5x a night. SO much easier to literally just sit up, grab the baby out of the Halo, feed him with my eyes closed, plop him back in and lay down again.

With each kid we’ve moved them between 4-6 months when they started to wake less frequently.

I am petite and, though always had a plentiful supply and big fat ebf babies, I also have small breasts. Nursing lying down never worked for me because it physically wasn’t comfortable, but also I was terrified that I would accidentally suffocate the baby if I fell asleep with them lying down. everyone is totally exhausted when there is a baby in the house, one wrong move in a middle of the night feeding and you are
Rolling over on the baby, or you forget the baby is in bed with you, they fall out, or get trapped under the covers. Waking up with a baby is pretty miserable anyway you arrange it.

Again, I don’t understand how the above poster’s approach would lessen SIDS risk. She is essentially sleeping with the baby, what if she falls asleep
During one of those feeds? Or smooshes the baby with a drowsy roll the wrong way during a feeding? I just can’t imagine how nursing a baby in your bed is safer than picking up the baby, sitting in a chair, then placing the baby back into their safe sleeping area.

Sorry, I wasn’t clear—I don’t feed laying down. I keep my feeding pillow on the bed and literally sit up cross legged and feed the baby on my lap without getting out of the covers or really opening my eyes or letting myself fully wake up but I’m not laying down so there is no risk of actually falling asleep and smooshing the baby. It just is so much easier to me then getting out of the warm bed, putting on my glasses, opening my eyes fully and walking to another room etc. Especially when I put the baby back and he stirs 2 min later for another burp or a pacifier or something. Having to get back out of bed? Hell no.

Nursing while sitting in a bed sounds really uncomfortable to me compared to sitting in a chair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You know what's healthy for infants? Two parents who stay married, get enough sleep and are rested to take care of the baby!

You aren’t allowed to prioritize yourself or your marriage. You must give up sleeping and self care. Breastfeeding and taking care of your baby must come before your job, spouse or any interests you may have.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You know what's healthy for infants? Two parents who stay married, get enough sleep and are rested to take care of the baby!

You aren’t allowed to prioritize yourself or your marriage. You must give up sleeping and self care. Breastfeeding and taking care of your baby must come before your job, spouse or any interests you may have.

PP forgot to add: also, don't complain. You should have known what you were getting in to, or you shouldn't have had a child. Don't you love your baby and want what's best for her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know why people have this badge of pride over starting them in their own room from day 1. That sounds miserable. I can’t imagine having to get out of bed and walk to a different room 5x a night. SO much easier to literally just sit up, grab the baby out of the Halo, feed him with my eyes closed, plop him back in and lay down again.

With each kid we’ve moved them between 4-6 months when they started to wake less frequently.

This. It makes me so sad thinking of those poor babies alone, wondering where mom is. We aren’t meant to sleep away from our babies, people!

[Anonymous]

10. As in 10 years old. Loved a minute.

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Anonymous wrote:10. As in 10 years old. Loved a minute.

I hope you love therapy bills to, cause those are definitely in your future.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know why people have this badge of pride over starting them in their own room from day 1. That sounds miserable. I can’t imagine having to get out of bed and walk to a different room 5x a night. SO much easier to literally just sit up, grab the baby out of the Halo, feed him with my eyes closed, plop him back in and lay down again.

With each kid we’ve moved them between 4-6 months when they started to wake less frequently.

Don't you change their diaper in the middle of the night? Every time baby woke, I'd change and feed them. Baby slept in our room, and I would get out of bed, take them next door to the nursery, change/feed/swaddle and then it was back to their bassinet (I would then have to pump after, but that was a different story...) I tried to avoid baby nursing in bed, because, for me, I was concerned it would lead to baby sleeping in bed, and I didn't want to start that habit. Baby was sleeping 5-6 hours stretches by 8 weeks, so I was only getting up once or twice a night.

This was me exactly. I would still get up and change and feed in the nursery, so I was already up. Sleepily feeding the baby was never something that I trusted myself doing.

[Anonymous]

Actually the AAP says if there’s even the slightest chance you’ll fall asleep you should nurse in bed, not in a chair, because falling asleep in a bed with a baby (with bedding pulled aside etc) is way safer than falling asleep in a chair or on a couch.


https://www.aap.org/en-us/about-the-aap/aap-press-room/Pages/American-Academy-of-Pediatrics-Announces-New-Safe-Sleep-Recommendations-to-Protect-Against-SIDS.aspx

[Anonymous]

1st kid- 2 years 11 months, right before kid #2 arrived

2nd kid- going on 2 years and 6 months. She will get kicked out when the 3rd kid arrives.