Eat lunch with your kid at school EVERY DAY

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He probably was. Kids today are different than we were, when we were kids.

How, did bullying stop?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Parents, I'm another parent and I don't want you there.

Yes, we know. You are the uninvolved parent who would never go to a lunch, open house or field trip. Its ok, we give your kid attention so they don't feel bad when you aren't there. We are the ones handling the tears when they come when you aren't there. We know your priorities.

Shouldn't you be watching The Price is Right?

[Anonymous]

I think its kinda nice for kids who are excluded and have to eat alone. Maybe teach your kids to be more inclusive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh come on all you PPs. You know this is totally not normal -- in that very very very few parents do this.

You know it's not good for your kids, even if -- in fact, particularly if - they are struggling socially at lunch. (Not because of embarrassment, but because they won't work at fixing the problem, which they should.)

You know it's disruptive to the other kids too. Adults -- stop intruding on kid time and kid places! It's like the adults that try to play games and lead activities on the playground. Let kids be at lunch. They have volunteers to help open containers.

The folks arguing with OP are being contrarians for the dopamine hit. If she asked if she should go have lunch with her 5th grader every day, everyone would be telling her no!

Be grateful your child isn't the one eating alone because other kids exclude them.

[Anonymous]

I had lunch with my son several times a week. He struggled socially and wouldn’t eat otherwise. He is 17 now and still has problems in school and doesn’t eat with other kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had lunch with my son several times a week. He struggled socially and wouldn’t eat otherwise. He is 17 now and still has problems in school and doesn’t eat with other kids.

Wonder why

[Anonymous]

My kid would love for me to come take him out to lunch but never would have tolerated me coming to the school!

[Anonymous]

No, never did this. I wanted my DC to learn how to be resilient and to adapt to the lunch environment. That is part of school. Using Mom as a crutch once a week would only make the other 4 days more unbearable. We all need to figure out awkward situations in life. All of the school environments are teaching these awkward social moments and how to handle it independently.

[Anonymous]

I’m more concerned about OP and her kids than I am about the kid in the story.

[Anonymous]

Super weird school that would allow it except for special needs kids. Even special needs classrooms try to teach some measure of independence and peer to peer social bonding, such as sharing meals.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can only imagine the relentless mocking from his peers that this poor kid had to endure. Yikes.

I doubt he was being mocked, but, this is excessive. Also, I think in MCPS you'd technically have to do the abuse training to be around kids in school this much. Teachers might not mind having another adult around to help with opening things, etc.

[Anonymous]

That’s really sweet. Whet a good mom!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A friend once told me that her daycare let parents just come in and out of the room at any time they wanted throughout the day. I was like, thanks for telling me so I can avoid that place. Unscreened random adults with unfettered access to my kid? Yeah no thanks.

Unscreened random adults? They are the parents of the kids your kid is playing with! WTF?

I never wanted random men around my daughters. I don't care if they happen to be paying tuition at the same preschool. It's also disruptive and annoying.

[Anonymous]

Only place I ever heard of this was in Cary NC. It is a special situation.

The SAS Institute (a large for-profit software company) somehow arranged for both good quality infant/preschool care and also a Cary public elementary school to be located on their work campus.

I am told it is common for parents to eat lunch with their kids at the preschool and elementary school. (Yes, I am sure Cary Public Schools requires vetting for any adult inside the school building.)

[Anonymous]

I have never had school lunch with my kids, but don’t see what’s wrong with it if other parents want to do it.