Wellesley vs Bryn Mawr

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Anonymous wrote:Both are great schools for ambitious women. Access to Harvard and MIT gives Wellesley a bump but the women I know who went there are some of the catiest people I have ever met. Like if you collapsed they would step over your body types. A very good friend of mine went to Bryn Mawr. The academics were amazing but she never fit in socially. She also didn't have the best life after. I think it depends on your daughter's personality. In good news, they seem to have less of a problem with eating disorders than Smith.

Agree on this. Met a handful of them and was appalled at the mean spirited comments and attitude. They must be miserable inside. I’m sure not all are like this but can’t help but consider the school attracts a certain type.

From meeting a handful. You’re smart. Where did you go? You seem mean-spirited and I’d like to avoid.

I am the original commenter. To elaborate, I moved to Boston in my mid 20s and met a lot of alums socially and working at a local university. I remember my first encounter was while at a dinner party. An MIT grad student asked me where I moved from and I replied France. The Wellesley alum actually mocked me by flipping her hair and saying in a valley girl voice "I moved from France." I actually didn't know what to do. We both turned and looked at her. I had a number of encounters of this nature. Perhaps the maturity just isn't there and would not have been there no matter where they had gone to university. Perhaps that is what you want to keep in mind when differentiating between the 7 Sisters. Which environment is best for academics and emotional maturity.

I’ve known several graduates who were lovely people. Now what?

Stick to the topic: Emotional maturity! Find a school where young women are not stuck in teen mean girl behaviors. I never Ever met a Smith, MC? BM, Vassar etc who engaged in these behaviors. And yes, I have met loads. Also there was that unfortunate stabbing incident by the Wellesley girl at MIT. Plus, they call the shuttle to MIT "the f**k truck." Do you really want that to be your DDs college experience?

To Harvard, not to MIT. No one is going to MIT to get laid.

Wellesley grad here. Actually I went to MIT to get laid many years ago. STILL getting laid by MIT guy.

Yeah but does he do the dishes?

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Anonymous wrote:My DD got a full scholarship to Wellesley. I think it is ranked higher than Bryn Mawr. Wellesley has the strong academics powerful elite women location in Ma and so on. But it’s located in Western MA somewhat isolated and very strong SJW very liberal vibe. It didn’t seem like a good fit and she chose another school. Also very strong gay presence— not what she wanted.

Wellesley is in suburban Boston; not isolated and not in western Massachusetts. And if your daughter has a problem with LGBTQ people, she’s going to have a hard time fitting in at any college.

She’s fine at her elite college thanks.

Wellesley doesn’t give full scholarships. I think this pp has it confused with another school lol.

100% paid for. I wish it had worked out for DD. She chose another school. They even paid for her airline ticket to fly to Wellesley.

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Anonymous wrote:My DD got a full scholarship to Wellesley. I think it is ranked higher than Bryn Mawr. Wellesley has the strong academics powerful elite women location in Ma and so on. But it’s located in Western MA somewhat isolated and very strong SJW very liberal vibe. It didn’t seem like a good fit and she chose another school. Also very strong gay presence— not what she wanted.

Wellesley is in suburban Boston; not isolated and not in western Massachusetts. And if your daughter has a problem with LGBTQ people, she’s going to have a hard time fitting in at any college.

She’s fine at her elite college thanks.

Wellesley doesn’t give full scholarships. I think this pp has it confused with another school lol.

100% paid for. I wish it had worked out for DD. She chose another school. They even paid for her airline ticket to fly to Wellesley.

I think you are confusing Wellesley with Mt Holyoke, if you are talking about a very liberal women's college in western Mass. Wellesley does not give merit scholarships; it does, however, provide significant financial aid.

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Anonymous wrote:My DD got a full scholarship to Wellesley. I think it is ranked higher than Bryn Mawr. Wellesley has the strong academics powerful elite women location in Ma and so on. But it’s located in Western MA somewhat isolated and very strong SJW very liberal vibe. It didn’t seem like a good fit and she chose another school. Also very strong gay presence— not what she wanted.

Wellesley is in suburban Boston; not isolated and not in western Massachusetts. And if your daughter has a problem with LGBTQ people, she’s going to have a hard time fitting in at any college.

She’s fine at her elite college thanks.

Wellesley doesn’t give full scholarships. I think this pp has it confused with another school lol.

100% paid for. I wish it had worked out for DD. She chose another school. They even paid for her airline ticket to fly to Wellesley.

Your daughter got 100% financial aid offer, not a scholarship. Yes, there is a difference and people often mix up the two.

I knew a girl from my high school class who received a full ride aid package from Wellesley, with no loans. She turned it down to go to Bryn Mawr (also received a similar aid package). And later dropped out of Bryn Mawr. Last I heard she's wandering around California not being very productive.

Not a kick at either school but just sheer astonishment at how some people can waste so much potential.

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Anonymous wrote:Both are great schools for ambitious women. Access to Harvard and MIT gives Wellesley a bump but the women I know who went there are some of the catiest people I have ever met. Like if you collapsed they would step over your body types. A very good friend of mine went to Bryn Mawr. The academics were amazing but she never fit in socially. She also didn't have the best life after. I think it depends on your daughter's personality. In good news, they seem to have less of a problem with eating disorders than Smith.

Agree on this. Met a handful of them and was appalled at the mean spirited comments and attitude. They must be miserable inside. I’m sure not all are like this but can’t help but consider the school attracts a certain type.

From meeting a handful. You’re smart. Where did you go? You seem mean-spirited and I’d like to avoid.

I am the original commenter. To elaborate, I moved to Boston in my mid 20s and met a lot of alums socially and working at a local university. I remember my first encounter was while at a dinner party. An MIT grad student asked me where I moved from and I replied France. The Wellesley alum actually mocked me by flipping her hair and saying in a valley girl voice "I moved from France." I actually didn't know what to do. We both turned and looked at her. I had a number of encounters of this nature. Perhaps the maturity just isn't there and would not have been there no matter where they had gone to university. Perhaps that is what you want to keep in mind when differentiating between the 7 Sisters. Which environment is best for academics and emotional maturity.

I’ve known several graduates who were lovely people. Now what?

Stick to the topic: Emotional maturity! Find a school where young women are not stuck in teen mean girl behaviors. I never Ever met a Smith, MC? BM, Vassar etc who engaged in these behaviors. And yes, I have met loads. Also there was that unfortunate stabbing incident by the Wellesley girl at MIT. Plus, they call the shuttle to MIT "the f**k truck." Do you really want that to be your DDs college experience?

This says more about the MIT student body than the Wellesley one. My daughter looked at both MIT and Wellesley and was completely uninterested in MIT after experiencing the vibe.

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Anonymous wrote:Both are great schools for ambitious women. Access to Harvard and MIT gives Wellesley a bump but the women I know who went there are some of the catiest people I have ever met. Like if you collapsed they would step over your body types. A very good friend of mine went to Bryn Mawr. The academics were amazing but she never fit in socially. She also didn't have the best life after. I think it depends on your daughter's personality. In good news, they seem to have less of a problem with eating disorders than Smith.

Agree on this. Met a handful of them and was appalled at the mean spirited comments and attitude. They must be miserable inside. I’m sure not all are like this but can’t help but consider the school attracts a certain type.

From meeting a handful. You’re smart. Where did you go? You seem mean-spirited and I’d like to avoid.

I am the original commenter. To elaborate, I moved to Boston in my mid 20s and met a lot of alums socially and working at a local university. I remember my first encounter was while at a dinner party. An MIT grad student asked me where I moved from and I replied France. The Wellesley alum actually mocked me by flipping her hair and saying in a valley girl voice "I moved from France." I actually didn't know what to do. We both turned and looked at her. I had a number of encounters of this nature. Perhaps the maturity just isn't there and would not have been there no matter where they had gone to university. Perhaps that is what you want to keep in mind when differentiating between the 7 Sisters. Which environment is best for academics and emotional maturity.

I’ve known several graduates who were lovely people. Now what?

Stick to the topic: Emotional maturity! Find a school where young women are not stuck in teen mean girl behaviors. I never Ever met a Smith, MC? BM, Vassar etc who engaged in these behaviors. And yes, I have met loads. Also there was that unfortunate stabbing incident by the Wellesley girl at MIT. Plus, they call the shuttle to MIT "the f**k truck." Do you really want that to be your DDs college experience?

To Harvard, not to MIT. No one is going to MIT to get laid.

Wellesley grad here. Actually I went to MIT to get laid many years ago. STILL getting laid by MIT guy.

Yeah but does he do the dishes?

DP -- The great thing about marrying an engineer is that s/he can fix the dishwasher when it's broken. Plus, yeah, there are some very attractive men and women at MIT.

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Anonymous wrote:Both are great schools for ambitious women. Access to Harvard and MIT gives Wellesley a bump but the women I know who went there are some of the catiest people I have ever met. Like if you collapsed they would step over your body types. A very good friend of mine went to Bryn Mawr. The academics were amazing but she never fit in socially. She also didn't have the best life after. I think it depends on your daughter's personality. In good news, they seem to have less of a problem with eating disorders than Smith.

Agree on this. Met a handful of them and was appalled at the mean spirited comments and attitude. They must be miserable inside. I’m sure not all are like this but can’t help but consider the school attracts a certain type.

From meeting a handful. You’re smart. Where did you go? You seem mean-spirited and I’d like to avoid.

I am the original commenter. To elaborate, I moved to Boston in my mid 20s and met a lot of alums socially and working at a local university. I remember my first encounter was while at a dinner party. An MIT grad student asked me where I moved from and I replied France. The Wellesley alum actually mocked me by flipping her hair and saying in a valley girl voice "I moved from France." I actually didn't know what to do. We both turned and looked at her. I had a number of encounters of this nature. Perhaps the maturity just isn't there and would not have been there no matter where they had gone to university. Perhaps that is what you want to keep in mind when differentiating between the 7 Sisters. Which environment is best for academics and emotional maturity.

I’ve known several graduates who were lovely people. Now what?

Stick to the topic: Emotional maturity! Find a school where young women are not stuck in teen mean girl behaviors. I never Ever met a Smith, MC? BM, Vassar etc who engaged in these behaviors. And yes, I have met loads. Also there was that unfortunate stabbing incident by the Wellesley girl at MIT. Plus, they call the shuttle to MIT "the f**k truck." Do you really want that to be your DDs college experience?

To Harvard, not to MIT. No one is going to MIT to get laid.

Wellesley grad here. Actually I went to MIT to get laid many years ago. STILL getting laid by MIT guy.

Yeah but does he do the dishes?

I do the dishes, but he cooks.

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Anonymous wrote:My DD got a full scholarship to Wellesley. I think it is ranked higher than Bryn Mawr. Wellesley has the strong academics powerful elite women location in Ma and so on. But it’s located in Western MA somewhat isolated and very strong SJW very liberal vibe. It didn’t seem like a good fit and she chose another school. Also very strong gay presence— not what she wanted.

Wellesley is in suburban Boston; not isolated and not in western Massachusetts. And if your daughter has a problem with LGBTQ people, she’s going to have a hard time fitting in at any college.

She’s fine at her elite college thanks.

Wellesley doesn’t give full scholarships. I think this pp has it confused with another school lol.

100% paid for. I wish it had worked out for DD. She chose another school. They even paid for her airline ticket to fly to Wellesley.

I think you are confusing Wellesley with Mt Holyoke, if you are talking about a very liberal women's college in western Mass. Wellesley does not give merit scholarships; it does, however, provide significant financial aid.

Haha lol I’m confused where my DD got a scholarship. Haha ha.

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Anonymous wrote:My DD got a full scholarship to Wellesley. I think it is ranked higher than Bryn Mawr. Wellesley has the strong academics powerful elite women location in Ma and so on. But it’s located in Western MA somewhat isolated and very strong SJW very liberal vibe. It didn’t seem like a good fit and she chose another school. Also very strong gay presence— not what she wanted.

Wellesley is in suburban Boston; not isolated and not in western Massachusetts. And if your daughter has a problem with LGBTQ people, she’s going to have a hard time fitting in at any college.

She’s fine at her elite college thanks.

Wellesley doesn’t give full scholarships. I think this pp has it confused with another school lol.

100% paid for. I wish it had worked out for DD. She chose another school. They even paid for her airline ticket to fly to Wellesley.

I think you are confusing Wellesley with Mt Holyoke, if you are talking about a very liberal women's college in western Mass. Wellesley does not give merit scholarships; it does, however, provide significant financial aid.

Haha lol I’m confused where my DD got a scholarship. Haha ha.

https://www.wellesley.edu/advising/wellesleyfirst/scholarships

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Bryn Mawr and Wellesley seem really different to me. Crunchy vs powerhouse. I would say Haverford but it’s not s girls school.

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Anonymous wrote:My DD got a full scholarship to Wellesley. I think it is ranked higher than Bryn Mawr. Wellesley has the strong academics powerful elite women location in Ma and so on. But it’s located in Western MA somewhat isolated and very strong SJW very liberal vibe. It didn’t seem like a good fit and she chose another school. Also very strong gay presence— not what she wanted.

Wellesley is in suburban Boston; not isolated and not in western Massachusetts. And if your daughter has a problem with LGBTQ people, she’s going to have a hard time fitting in at any college.

She’s fine at her elite college thanks.

Wellesley doesn’t give full scholarships. I think this pp has it confused with another school lol.

100% paid for. I wish it had worked out for DD. She chose another school. They even paid for her airline ticket to fly to Wellesley.

I think you are confusing Wellesley with Mt Holyoke, if you are talking about a very liberal women's college in western Mass. Wellesley does not give merit scholarships; it does, however, provide significant financial aid.

Haha lol I’m confused where my DD got a scholarship. Haha ha.

https://www.wellesley.edu/advising/wellesleyfirst/scholarships

You do realize that these scholarships are reserved for women who come from families where they are either the first to go to college, from under-represented minority groups, or from "under-resourced" backgrounds. These are scholarships, in other words, for students who typically could not afford to attend Wellesley and not your typical "merit-based" scholarship that is handed out to students regardless of their finances.

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BMC alum here. I think "crunchy" is a bit off the mark--think more activist, wanting to make a difference in the world, thoughtful, intellectual. Crunchy-adjacent. Plenty go on to law or business, but the impression is that academia is more of the culture's priority (if that makes sense).

The honor code is a huge influence on campus, but is implemented differently than Haverford's. Grades are never discussed and many exams are self-scheduled. 25 years ago, a huge issue for me was the distributional requirements, although I understand they have been modernized since then. I underestimated the time the language one would take and between them and a STEM major (=many prereqs) I had almost no electives. Bummer.

As a STEM major, I went on to a PhD, and it was a great start to be in a small LAC-research environment without overt sexism to worry about. I learned how to do my work with only myself as the obstacle. It was a great experience that I have used my whole career since. (I had a research career and am now a Fed.)

Glad the PP corrected about "traditions," it refers to campus rituals, not politics. They aren't a day-to-day factor but as an alum I can attest to the role they play in establishing and maintaining connections to the community. The one where you get your lantern, on a cold fall night, symbolizing the light of knowledge being passed onto you, while upperclasswomen sing to you about wisdom, in 3 part harmony, in a dead language...it's an amazing sight and experience. If that floats your daughter's boat, she'd be great at BMC.

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Anonymous wrote:BMC alum here. I think "crunchy" is a bit off the mark--think more activist, wanting to make a difference in the world, thoughtful, intellectual. Crunchy-adjacent. Plenty go on to law or business, but the impression is that academia is more of the culture's priority (if that makes sense).

The honor code is a huge influence on campus, but is implemented differently than Haverford's. Grades are never discussed and many exams are self-scheduled. 25 years ago, a huge issue for me was the distributional requirements, although I understand they have been modernized since then. I underestimated the time the language one would take and between them and a STEM major (=many prereqs) I had almost no electives. Bummer.

As a STEM major, I went on to a PhD, and it was a great start to be in a small LAC-research environment without overt sexism to worry about. I learned how to do my work with only myself as the obstacle. It was a great experience that I have used my whole career since. (I had a research career and am now a Fed.)

Glad the PP corrected about "traditions," it refers to campus rituals, not politics. They aren't a day-to-day factor but as an alum I can attest to the role they play in establishing and maintaining connections to the community. The one where you get your lantern, on a cold fall night, symbolizing the light of knowledge being passed onto you, while upperclasswomen sing to you about wisdom, in 3 part harmony, in a dead language...it's an amazing sight and experience. If that floats your daughter's boat, she'd be great at BMC.

My husband and my daughter got chills hearing about the lantern ceremony. My daughter loved the traditions there and at MHC. She hopes to end up at one of the two. It's nice to hear of your experience.

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Anonymous wrote:BMC alum here. I think "crunchy" is a bit off the mark--think more activist, wanting to make a difference in the world, thoughtful, intellectual. Crunchy-adjacent. Plenty go on to law or business, but the impression is that academia is more of the culture's priority (if that makes sense).

The honor code is a huge influence on campus, but is implemented differently than Haverford's. Grades are never discussed and many exams are self-scheduled. 25 years ago, a huge issue for me was the distributional requirements, although I understand they have been modernized since then. I underestimated the time the language one would take and between them and a STEM major (=many prereqs) I had almost no electives. Bummer.

As a STEM major, I went on to a PhD, and it was a great start to be in a small LAC-research environment without overt sexism to worry about. I learned how to do my work with only myself as the obstacle. It was a great experience that I have used my whole career since. (I had a research career and am now a Fed.)

Glad the PP corrected about "traditions," it refers to campus rituals, not politics. They aren't a day-to-day factor but as an alum I can attest to the role they play in establishing and maintaining connections to the community. The one where you get your lantern, on a cold fall night, symbolizing the light of knowledge being passed onto you, while upperclasswomen sing to you about wisdom, in 3 part harmony, in a dead language...it's an amazing sight and experience. If that floats your daughter's boat, she'd be great at BMC.

My husband and my daughter got chills hearing about the lantern ceremony. My daughter loved the traditions there and at MHC. She hopes to end up at one of the two. It's nice to hear of your experience.

Cool, I'll see her at Reunion in 10 years!

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Anonymous wrote:BMC alum here. I think "crunchy" is a bit off the mark--think more activist, wanting to make a difference in the world, thoughtful, intellectual. Crunchy-adjacent. Plenty go on to law or business, but the impression is that academia is more of the culture's priority (if that makes sense).

The honor code is a huge influence on campus, but is implemented differently than Haverford's. Grades are never discussed and many exams are self-scheduled. 25 years ago, a huge issue for me was the distributional requirements, although I understand they have been modernized since then. I underestimated the time the language one would take and between them and a STEM major (=many prereqs) I had almost no electives. Bummer.

As a STEM major, I went on to a PhD, and it was a great start to be in a small LAC-research environment without overt sexism to worry about. I learned how to do my work with only myself as the obstacle. It was a great experience that I have used my whole career since. (I had a research career and am now a Fed.)

Glad the PP corrected about "traditions," it refers to campus rituals, not politics. They aren't a day-to-day factor but as an alum I can attest to the role they play in establishing and maintaining connections to the community. The one where you get your lantern, on a cold fall night, symbolizing the light of knowledge being passed onto you, while upperclasswomen sing to you about wisdom, in 3 part harmony, in a dead language...it's an amazing sight and experience. If that floats your daughter's boat, she'd be great at BMC.

My husband and my daughter got chills hearing about the lantern ceremony. My daughter loved the traditions there and at MHC. She hopes to end up at one of the two. It's nice to hear of your experience.

Cool, I'll see her at Reunion in 10 years!

Anassa kata, sisters. BMC is a very special place. My lantern is hanging in my house where I can see it every day. Those four years were precious.