Do you like having girls weekends?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m 45 and last winter I went on a girls weekend with five other married women, none of them really close friends of mine but it was the dead of winter and nice to get away to Florida. After dinner one night we went into the bar next door as our waiter had said it was the place to go. Within minutes men were buying us drinks and then four of the women hit the dance floor with four guys and the party was on. They didn’t get back to the condo we were renting until around 3 or 4 am and I had no interest in asking them what had happened but it was clear that it was not all innocent fun based on what they said. That may be my last girls weekend.

I've been on dozens of girls weekends and this has never happened. Not even close, and not even when we were single. So you (and others, it sounds like) have a twisted notion of what a girls weekend is. I don't care, since your lack of desire to go away doesn't affect me remotely, I just think people like you who think that a single experience that you had must equal the same experiences that everyone else has are wildly myopic.

PP - I was very surprised too but as I said they were not close friends so I didn't really know what to expect. Like you I can't imagine that being the norm but it sure left a bad taste in my mouth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m 45 and last winter I went on a girls weekend with five other married women, none of them really close friends of mine but it was the dead of winter and nice to get away to Florida. After dinner one night we went into the bar next door as our waiter had said it was the place to go. Within minutes men were buying us drinks and then four of the women hit the dance floor with four guys and the party was on. They didn’t get back to the condo we were renting until around 3 or 4 am and I had no interest in asking them what had happened but it was clear that it was not all innocent fun based on what they said. That may be my last girls weekend.

Sounds like your friends were on a "whorecation"!

[Anonymous]

I love them. But I’m single!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They can be fun or boring, but never at the expense of family time.

PP, does your husband travel for work? Or does that not count, since it's for work? Or does it not count because he's the dad?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They can be fun or boring, but never at the expense of family time.

PP, does your husband travel for work? Or does that not count, since it's for work? Or does it not count because he's the dad?

Doesn’t count because it’s work.

[Anonymous]

I go on a couple a year and love them- 2 or 3 nights maximum is the key. We let loose, sometimes drink a little too much (but not out of control) and may do a little flirting but never anything beyond that. We stay in really nice places, eat great meals, have spa treatments, do power walks, tour areas that our husbands probably wouldn't , etc... It's amazing how inexpensive it seems for one of us to go on a trip than our typical family trips with kids. I spend a lot of time with my spouse and kids so I don't feel guilty or miss them too much- I really enjoy my time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m 45 and last winter I went on a girls weekend with five other married women, none of them really close friends of mine but it was the dead of winter and nice to get away to Florida. After dinner one night we went into the bar next door as our waiter had said it was the place to go. Within minutes men were buying us drinks and then four of the women hit the dance floor with four guys and the party was on. They didn’t get back to the condo we were renting until around 3 or 4 am and I had no interest in asking them what had happened but it was clear that it was not all innocent fun based on what they said. That may be my last girls weekend.

Sounds like your friends were on a "whorecation"!

What's wrong with a "whorecation" ? When your get a chance to get away, let loose. DH & I know just not to ask. Sorry if you are offended by that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m 45 and last winter I went on a girls weekend with five other married women, none of them really close friends of mine but it was the dead of winter and nice to get away to Florida. After dinner one night we went into the bar next door as our waiter had said it was the place to go. Within minutes men were buying us drinks and then four of the women hit the dance floor with four guys and the party was on. They didn’t get back to the condo we were renting until around 3 or 4 am and I had no interest in asking them what had happened but it was clear that it was not all innocent fun based on what they said. That may be my last girls weekend.

Sounds like your friends were on a "whorecation"!

What's wrong with a "whorecation" ? When your get a chance to get away, let loose. DH & I know just not to ask. Sorry if you are offended by that.

I'm not offended by whorecations. I'm offended by dishonesty and hypocrisy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m 45 and last winter I went on a girls weekend with five other married women, none of them really close friends of mine but it was the dead of winter and nice to get away to Florida. After dinner one night we went into the bar next door as our waiter had said it was the place to go. Within minutes men were buying us drinks and then four of the women hit the dance floor with four guys and the party was on. They didn’t get back to the condo we were renting until around 3 or 4 am and I had no interest in asking them what had happened but it was clear that it was not all innocent fun based on what they said. That may be my last girls weekend.

Sounds like your friends were on a "whorecation"!

What's wrong with a "whorecation" ? When your get a chance to get away, let loose. DH & I know just not to ask. Sorry if you are offended by that.

NP - did you guys explicitly discuss being able to do whatever on vacation?

[Anonymous]

All of these “girls weekends” are code for “going away to get plowed on the side.”

[Anonymous]

DH and I go away alone for a week each year and 2 or 3 long weekends sprinkled in. I also love love my first weekends. I don't find the two mutually exclusive. It's not an either/or situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m 45 and last winter I went on a girls weekend with five other married women, none of them really close friends of mine but it was the dead of winter and nice to get away to Florida. After dinner one night we went into the bar next door as our waiter had said it was the place to go. Within minutes men were buying us drinks and then four of the women hit the dance floor with four guys and the party was on. They didn’t get back to the condo we were renting until around 3 or 4 am and I had no interest in asking them what had happened but it was clear that it was not all innocent fun based on what they said. That may be my last girls weekend.

I've been on dozens of girls weekends and this has never happened. Not even close, and not even when we were single. So you (and others, it sounds like) have a twisted notion of what a girls weekend is. I don't care, since your lack of desire to go away doesn't affect me remotely, I just think people like you who think that a single experience that you had must equal the same experiences that everyone else has are wildly myopic.

PP - I was very surprised too but as I said they were not close friends so I didn't really know what to expect. Like you I can't imagine that being the norm but it sure left a bad taste in my mouth.

Yes, I have a group of girlfriends we go away with and your experience is nothing I've experienced. Last time we went to the mountains, did a ton of hiking, drank wine, at food, and curled up on the sofa at night and binged netflix. We also recently went to Asheville and just stuffed our faces, visited a bunch of art studios, took a pottery class, hiked, and visited the biltmore. I love going away with my friends. My DH would be so bored looking at art and would be a waste of his time to take a class.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I really love girls weekends. I need one. I haven’t done one in a few years.

if girls get boring go down to hotel bar alone and pick up a man

[Anonymous]

I wonder how much all of these recent raunchy girls weekend type movies have raised the expectations of what these weekends should be. I started to watch Ibiza on Netflix last night and maybe it was just the mood I was in, but I had to shut it off.

[Anonymous]

Spend any time on the Strip in Las Vegas and you will see dozens of these "girl's weekends." Yes, the women are usually drunk and slutting it up, bless their hearts.