In a way, yes it is more expensive in CA because their EPA rules are pretty strict. There is a gas tax there because of the EPA rules. Health insurance does vary by state. Some states have higher taxes when buying and owning a car (example - VA car tax). Sales tax and income taxes are high in CA and NY are high. So yes, living in those states is more expensive than living in TX for example where they have no income tax and low sales tax. |
| Sales tax in TX is over 8 % and property tax is high. Some areas, like San Fransisco and Manhattan have exceedingly high cost of living. But this fantasy that everything else is cheaper in the rest of the country because DC California New York are more expensive for housing is bogus |
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I think it matters where you came from. I grew up in a small house and money was always tight. No air travel, no pricey camps, I had student loans, etc.
So I feel like I’m living the dream. Husband makes $250k, I SAH. We take several nice vacations a year and our kids will graduate debt free from college. I have a newer model Honda with no payments. I don’t worry about the grocery bill. We have a standard colonial in the burbs, could use some updating but if anything breaks it’s annoying but not financially stressful. I feel rich. I know it’s not DCUM rich but from where I grew up it’s a life I only dreamed of. My kids are so fortunate and don’t really know it. |
This depends on age and income. If you retire at 65 or 67 with just social security and $1 million in assets (including house), you are not rich and could die penniless. |
I agree with this and I have more like $100k in assets, because I'm young. Age matters when people are responsible for funding their own retirement and potentially nursing home care. |
| For DC, UC is 10 million assets. |
| That’s a joke right? Because it absolutely is cheaper to buy food in Middle America than NYC or SF Or comparable cities. If you think it’s not you’re a fool. Groceries (normal things like bread, milk and so forth) are WAYYY more expensive in NYC. And yes I’ve lived in flyover and quite liked it so don’t jump down my throat. |
You are not middle class if you made nearly a quarter-million dollars last year. This is one of my least favorite things about the DMV - all the upper middle class folks bemoaning how "poor" they are. If you're lower middle-class with only payments on a $400K house and $236K in income, you're doing something wrong. If you're sending your four kids to sports/music lessons or saving for their education or your retirement, you're not lower middle class. Your argument basically seems to be that it doesn't matter how much money you make, it's how you spend it. People having spending habits that don't allow for savings or an increase to net worth doesn't make them lower middle-class, it makes them bad with money. You blow your money on kids, others blow it on cars that cost more than some houses and international travel. If you have the money to pay for those things, you're not lower middle-class. |
| On the college forum, Harvard is "impossible" to get in to because more than 95% of applicants are rejected. But on this forum, you count as "middle class" unless your income and/or assets exceeds 99%+ of the population. Every discussion about class mixes up consumption, income, and wealth. It just goes to show emotions, not rationality, dominates most people's understanding of money and finances. |
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You cannot just look at asssets unless they are upwards of $10M. Where it matters less and less whether one works or not depending on age. I think a 30 yr old with $10M and no salary is in a precarious position. Whereas a 45+ family not so much and if they are 60, then they are golden.
Would someone with $5M at age 50 and no salary for either DH or DW and two kids be considered wealthy? They believe in FIRE. Have dividend income but that’s it. What about 50 yr olds with two kids and HHI of $150k (and a SAHM) and NW of $4M. IMO, it’s a combination of HHI and assets. Also without age information, no point. |
It’s not what you make, it’s what you save. You can make $1 million a year and be insolvent, so net worth and not income is the best and most accurate measure of wealth. |
I agree, most people look at just HHI or just Net worth. It has to be a combination unless net worth is huge. Btw neither of the two examples you gave would be wealthy/rich in my books due to low or no HHI. |
| I didn't feel UC until I had around $10m plus a paid-for primary home in a HCOL area. Just one data point. |
One out of touch data point. Feelers mean nothing. |