Boss keeps bugging me on maternity leave

[Anonymous]

Yep. Ten minutes, have the baby cry so she can hear it and then add that you need to change your pad because you peed ourself and the vaginal (use the word) bleeding has been heavy today and and oops now you’re leaking milk too so gotta go bye!

She will never call again.

[Anonymous]

Or reply to her latest email and copy a friend, saying, “These are the emails that caused me to hire you to investigate my rights while on leave.” Then act like it was a mistake to have them both on the email.

People are terrified of lawyers.

[Anonymous]

FFS. Both of the prior posters are giving out idiotic advice. OP is a grown woman and can behave as such. She doesn’t need to play the stupid games described above. Either OP agrees to participate - and from her follow up post it sounds as if she has - or she can simply say no. That’s it. No need to be so dramatic.

[Anonymous]

Just take the call, but tell her you can't commit an hour. That is reasonable.

[Anonymous]

Just take the call. You might be getting laid off or restructured out of a job before leave is up. This happens even to the best employees.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:FFS. Both of the prior posters are giving out idiotic advice. OP is a grown woman and can behave as such. She doesn’t need to play the stupid games described above. Either OP agrees to participate - and from her follow up post it sounds as if she has - or she can simply say no. That’s it. No need to be so dramatic.

Seriously. Who are these people?

“Boss wants to talk to me! Sounds important! Let me threaten to sue!”

[Anonymous]

OP, I'd hold firm and tell your boss you cannot possibly take a one hour conference call while on maternity leave, but if there is an emergency feel free to email and you will do your best to respond when you can. She needs to figure out how to handle things without you for the next few months, so she might as well start now.

[Anonymous]

OP here with an update.

I spoke to my boss on the phone. She said that she “had it on good authority” that I’m not planning to return to my job after maternity leave, and she wanted to tell me to please resign as soon as possible so she could hire my replacement.

I told her this is simply not true-I don’t have another job and I do intend to return after my leave, but of course if that were to change I will let her know promptly so she can move forward with hiring my replacement.

She straight up didn’t believe me and gave me a lecture on cobra, benefits, etc.

I’ve been in this job over 5 years and am a top performer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here with an update.

I spoke to my boss on the phone. She said that she “had it on good authority” that I’m not planning to return to my job after maternity leave, and she wanted to tell me to please resign as soon as possible so she could hire my replacement.

I told her this is simply not true-I don’t have another job and I do intend to return after my leave, but of course if that were to change I will let her know promptly so she can move forward with hiring my replacement.

She straight up didn’t believe me and gave me a lecture on cobra, benefits, etc.

I’ve been in this job over 5 years and am a top performer.

Wow!

If you are indeed planning on returning, I would follow up with an email to her and carbon copy human resources.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here with an update.

I spoke to my boss on the phone. She said that she “had it on good authority” that I’m not planning to return to my job after maternity leave, and she wanted to tell me to please resign as soon as possible so she could hire my replacement.

I told her this is simply not true-I don’t have another job and I do intend to return after my leave, but of course if that were to change I will let her know promptly so she can move forward with hiring my replacement.

She straight up didn’t believe me and gave me a lecture on cobra, benefits, etc.

I’ve been in this job over 5 years and am a top performer.

You need to talk to HR ASAP. Your boss is going to make trouble.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here with an update.

I spoke to my boss on the phone. She said that she “had it on good authority” that I’m not planning to return to my job after maternity leave, and she wanted to tell me to please resign as soon as possible so she could hire my replacement.

I told her this is simply not true-I don’t have another job and I do intend to return after my leave, but of course if that were to change I will let her know promptly so she can move forward with hiring my replacement.

She straight up didn’t believe me and gave me a lecture on cobra, benefits, etc.

I’ve been in this job over 5 years and am a top performer.

Why would she do this? Sounds like we or you are missing a big part of the story. This is a weird thing for someone to do to a top performer of 5 years. Has no one ever had a baby and returned?

[Anonymous]

OP, is there any truth to what she was saying?

[Anonymous]

Do you work at the Chamber, OP? This sounds exactly like my former boss who now works at the Chamber. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

WOWsers
Lawyers need to comment on the update. It sounds like she is pressuring you to quit/resign and no wonder she didn't want the conversation via email.

I would check whether you can record future conversations if you cant hold her to communicating via email only.

Maybe send a f/u email to her, any other supervisor, and HR that states you will be returning to work on X date, and that until then, you are on maternity leave and are sending the email because there seems to be confusion from xx about your leave/return.

[Anonymous]

ALSO- she shouldnt be doing the cobra and benefits stuff, HR should. MAJOR overstep.